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Mossfern

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83. I don't mind my doctors

Sat Jan 23, 2021, 07:03 PM

Jan 2021

calling me by my first name. My husband refers to his doctors by their first name and they don't seem to mind. Funny, even though I've had close and long relationships, I still use the "Doctor" addressing them. It makes me feel better some how. If I try to analyze that, maybe I feel more confident about using the formal title for doctors because their professional title makes me feel more confident of their abilities to diagnose and treat me.

When I was Mayor of my town, I preferred that people address me by my first name rather than Mayor Mossfern. I guess whatever makes you comfortable. I want people to respect me, and I respect others because we're all in this mess called Life together and professional title, educational degree or anything else doesn't make some more worthy of respect than others.

I don't know who made "lady" a pejorative, but I just find that silly.

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"Lady" is not equal to "Woman" [View all] LearnedHand Jan 2021 OP

im a woman and i dont find that offensive..whats the opposite of 'gentlemen' then? samnsara Jan 2021 #1

I hear ya. TruckFump Jan 2021 #4

I'm a woman, and as long as no one is referring to a grown woman as a "girl" then lady is fine. cwydro Jan 2021 #25

This. Claire Oh Nette Jan 2021 #45

Your post is confusing ChubbyStar Jan 2021 #54

ICD/tase Claire Oh Nette Jan 2021 #70

Get a good lawyer ChubbyStar Jan 2021 #74

He said/She said... Claire Oh Nette Jan 2021 #77

Bystanders applauded. Where have we heard that before? alphafemale Jan 2021 #95

Trump? malaise Jan 2021 #44

I THINK "LADY" is fine and i question who said this. NO POLL and NO facts support you trueblue2007 Jan 2021 #58

Isn't Dr. Jill Biden the First Lady? lame54 Jan 2021 #2

I'm not referring to formal usage LearnedHand Jan 2021 #3

So we should use... TruckFump Jan 2021 #5

This post makes me feel old Orangepeel Jan 2021 #11

Back in the mid 1980s when we built our barn csziggy Jan 2021 #43

Several signs come to my mind regarding your barn. StarryNite Jan 2021 #89

I deliberatelly wanted something that would confuse the inspector csziggy Jan 2021 #90

It's a way back machine for me too alphafemale Jan 2021 #97

Depends whether it's a Meeting or not Claire Oh Nette Jan 2021 #46

Your post is the first time I heard this objection. Stinky The Clown Jan 2021 #6

An example discussion of it LearnedHand Jan 2021 #7

That's it? Stinky The Clown Jan 2021 #8

Is this like the bible or something? Why do they get to decide well...anything? But you Demsrule86 Jan 2021 #15

This is a very important and pressing problem. BannonsLiver Jan 2021 #9

If it is good enough for First Lady Jill Biden, it is good enough for me. Irish_Dem Jan 2021 #10

I don't find being called lady offensive...so I think you are wrong...what Women? Demsrule86 Jan 2021 #12

Neither do I... so do I. And... good question. NurseJackie Jan 2021 #20

Thanks Jackie! Demsrule86 Jan 2021 #29

I don't like Lady. I never have. I have expressed it though not by throwing a fit, or a demand. LizBeth Jan 2021 #55

LAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYDDEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE! PSPS Jan 2021 #13

Geesh being called lady is fine with me 🙄 Raine Jan 2021 #14

"Whoa whoa whoa she's a woman" is, I suppose, a bit more alliterative Silent3 Jan 2021 #16

Meh. NurseJackie Jan 2021 #17

Well, If "she's the kind you'd like to flaunt and take to dinner," MineralMan Jan 2021 #18

I am a female who is called both and I really don't care either way. StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #19

The titles 'Lady' and 'Gentleman' have their origins in the rigid English class system. Aristus Jan 2021 #21

Beat Me To It! ProfessorGAC Jan 2021 #37

My teacher for my sophomore AP Biology course in high school Aristus Jan 2021 #39

Mr and Miss Claire Oh Nette Jan 2021 #49

That Makes Sense ProfessorGAC Jan 2021 #60

Legendary labor organizer Mother Jones (Mary Harris Jones) once said, Tanuki Jan 2021 #22

YES! Tink41 Jan 2021 #81

which of us females/women/sisters/badasses here on DU asked you to speak out for all of us? irisblue Jan 2021 #23

Excellent reply. Excellent follow-up question. NurseJackie Jan 2021 #26

Excellent reply..hehe. Demsrule86 Jan 2021 #30

Thanks IrisBlue LearnedHand Jan 2021 #34

Learned Hand, I have a selection of mostly blues, rock and a few pop song ear worms now irisblue Jan 2021 #73

I love the scene in "The Iron Lady" where she says to her co-members of Parliament: "Gentlemen, CTyankee Jan 2021 #24

Did you ever watch Iron Angels...I was never taught in school about how women fought for Demsrule86 Jan 2021 #33

In college I took women's history lunatica Jan 2021 #52

I tend to be selective about who I call a "lady", as opposed to woman... Wounded Bear Jan 2021 #27

I used to be a member of a women's group that had an online forum and published betsuni Jan 2021 #28

Who has asked this? cwydro Jan 2021 #31

Women. Ain't ya heard? Iggo Jan 2021 #62

I don't mind being called a lady or a woman. EllieBC Jan 2021 #32

That's it! Mossfern Jan 2021 #35

How did your friend feel about Ma'am? That apostrophe is a "d". NurseJackie Jan 2021 #41

I don't remember her reactions to Ma'am. Mossfern Jan 2021 #48

I prefer the formal. It shows respect. NurseJackie Jan 2021 #53

I don't mind my doctors Mossfern Jan 2021 #83

I hope she never learns about one of the most famous American potteries: Vinca Jan 2021 #63

I don't say anything gender things related anymore. MyNameGoesHere Jan 2021 #36

Well, That's Way Easier! ProfessorGAC Jan 2021 #38

Blank Know right? MyNameGoesHere Jan 2021 #57

I took a woman's history class in the late 70's which had a whole section on this. Tech Jan 2021 #40

And he who must not be named certainly did all he could to set women back to the 50s LearnedHand Jan 2021 #42

It's taking so long maybe because Mossfern Jan 2021 #51

That is so very nice. Thank you. I have felt it for decades but have only nicely been asking LizBeth Jan 2021 #47

Which women? treestar Jan 2021 #50

Sorry, but that's ridiculous. I'm a woman and I hope a lady. Why don't people concentrate on Vinca Jan 2021 #56

🎵 Lady... 🎵 NurseJackie Jan 2021 #59

Thank you Nurse Jackie! Love these selections. Hekate Jan 2021 #84

My vote's for Dylan. Billytee Jan 2021 #93

Where? When? Who? Iggo Jan 2021 #61

I'm a Lady and no one better forget that. Lady Freedom Returns Jan 2021 #64

Yes Meowmee Jan 2021 #69

Absolutely! 👍 🙂 nt Raine Jan 2021 #87

This isn't a Tarzan movie..."Me want Woman." Sometimes, "Lady" sounds way nicer than "Woman" mtnsnake Jan 2021 #65

Which women have asked this? hamsterjill Jan 2021 #66

As well as "female" -- female is an adjective obamanut2012 Jan 2021 #67

Lady is fine by me Meowmee Jan 2021 #68

I'm another woman who doesn't mind being called lady. For example, if a stranger pnwmom Jan 2021 #71

So what did you think of Woman Gaga's rendition of the National Anthem the other day? mtnsnake Jan 2021 #72

As a woman, "lady" is fine with me frogmarch Jan 2021 #75

Adding some to this thread. Being called a woman can be an insult. Lady Freedom Returns Jan 2021 #76

I Thought That, Too ProfessorGAC Jan 2021 #80

So I says, "that's no lady... that's my WIFE!!" NurseJackie Jan 2021 #78

Can we get an exemption if we say it in a Jerry Lewis voice? Dagstead Bumwood Jan 2021 #79

Have we? Asked that, I mean? Hekate Jan 2021 #82

No woman in my universe has ever made this request. nt Progressive Jones Jan 2021 #85

All ladies are women, but not all women are ladies. Totally Tunsie Jan 2021 #86

Some of us are Queens. Lady Freedom Returns Jan 2021 #88

And some are Dames ... JustABozoOnThisBus Jan 2021 #91

It's ridiculous to try and police the use of language in every instance. Bucky Jan 2021 #92

Well said. nt mtnsnake Jan 2021 #99

I'm an Old Lady and have never made that request msfiddlestix Jan 2021 #94

I rather like being called "Gentleman," and often address my sons and coworkers as such. NNadir Jan 2021 #96

F.W.O.T.U.S. alphafemale Jan 2021 #98