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StarfishSaver

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168. You don't seem to understand the difference between seeing people's race

Thu Jan 28, 2021, 02:54 PM

Jan 2021

and judging or making assumptions about them because of it.

I'm sure when you interact with people, you see whether they are male or female . There's nothing wrong or misogynistic about that. What you do with that information determines that. But if you walk away from that interaction completely unaware whether you were talking with a male or female (unless they don't identify or present as either), that would be really weird. The same goes for race.

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I fucking hate White People [View all] sir pball Jan 2021 OP

Are "all" of them bad? Dan Jan 2021 #1

I think the majority of "us", yep. sir pball Jan 2021 #4

You really have a low opinion of yourself as you said above Rustyeye77 Jan 2021 #176

Just about. SlogginThroughIt Jan 2021 #29

You have never heard such jokes by people of other races? former9thward Jan 2021 #49

I live in a multi race family SlogginThroughIt Jan 2021 #59

Oh my. cwydro Jan 2021 #64

Well the title of the thread is I fucking hate white people... SlogginThroughIt Jan 2021 #71

Lol. cwydro Jan 2021 #74

I Faux pas Jan 2021 #2

Thank you. Bucky Jan 2021 #3

... Faux pas Jan 2021 #11

Oh you're no fun! sir pball Jan 2021 #6

That's a weird version of white supremacy you're working there, Pball. Bucky Jan 2021 #8

I'm being farcical sir pball Jan 2021 #12

I've not read Candide. If this was the best of all possible worlds, tho, I would've had the time. Bucky Jan 2021 #15

All in the Same Boat Deacon Blue Jan 2021 #43

Posting while intoxicated is a bad idea, in general. MineralMan Jan 2021 #22

...and a waste of time. You could be operating heavy machinery instead Bucky Jan 2021 #30

Thank you. cwydro Jan 2021 #65

So disturbing to delicate white sensitivities. tonedevil Jan 2021 #79

So what will happen if someone posted the same thread with a different color than white? cwydro Jan 2021 #80

Because equality between races... tonedevil Jan 2021 #88

Maybe it's too late and time to go back to bed. cwydro Jan 2021 #89

You seem to think that a post.. tonedevil Jan 2021 #90

Oh dear, and again you left a comma out. cwydro Jan 2021 #118

OK Chief. /nt tonedevil Jan 2021 #124

I understand it perfectly well StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #106

How about in the context of just plain person-on-race racism? Hortensis Jan 2021 #163

Short explanation: Racism is systemic. Individual hatred is bigotry. Coventina Jan 2021 #227

They'd be castigated, even if sir pball Jan 2021 #208

He refers to Italian Americans as goombas Drahthaardogs Jan 2021 #236

... StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #5

If you DON'T... sir pball Jan 2021 #7

Exactly. Solly Mack Jan 2021 #26

This! SlogginThroughIt Jan 2021 #33

Perhaps, getting rid of "White" as an identifier is a start? Caliman73 Jan 2021 #9

And yet you seem fine using "Black" and "Brown" and "Other" as identifiers StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #61

+1 betsuni Jan 2021 #66

Absolutely! SlogginThroughIt Jan 2021 #68

And an OP referring to any other color people would not be alerted? cwydro Jan 2021 #76

Yes, that's exactly what I'm saying because it's true StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #82

Ah, I do love ya boo, and I never put anyone on ignore. cwydro Jan 2021 #84

"Black voters this, Latino voters that ..." crickets ... StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #85

I've spoken up numerous times about those generalizations. cwydro Jan 2021 #86

I will take what is White Fragility for 1400 Alex (RIP) Celerity Jan 2021 #81

Thank you for posting this StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #83

True. Many do get offended. White is the default. Caliman73 Jan 2021 #87

White is no more of a construct than brown or black are StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #99

I don't think ANY labels make sense. Caliman73 Jan 2021 #121

People of color didn't create the labels. White folks did StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #125

Agreed. Caliman73 Jan 2021 #129

How old are you, by the way? Hekate Jan 2021 #185

100000+ if I could like this a million times, I would. Vivienne235729 Jan 2021 #164

Yep. sir pball Jan 2021 #209

Self-hatred is self-destructive MineralMan Jan 2021 #10

I don't hate myself, I hate what people do in my name. sir pball Jan 2021 #14

Nobody is doing anything in your name. MineralMan Jan 2021 #18

Oh boy... SlogginThroughIt Jan 2021 #35

Obviously...you're in denial Rustyeye77 Jan 2021 #37

What? Posts that make sense? cwydro Jan 2021 #78

Post removed Post removed Jan 2021 #104

So is literalism at the expense of actual intent. LanternWaste Jan 2021 #38

.. MineralMan Jan 2021 #47

Racists have to be a member of the race that has systemic control. Without that it's bigotry. Celerity Jan 2021 #94

So non-whites cannot be racist or bigoted? Or are not by virtue of their non-whiteness? Or what? Hekate Jan 2021 #184

Where did I say they couldn't be bigoted? I said bigotry is what discriminatory and/or hateful Celerity Jan 2021 #186

Last time I checked Joe Biden was white...just saying, broad brush paints broadly. cayugafalls Jan 2021 #13

That's true, but... AmyStrange Jan 2021 #16

NPD is not about self love. cayugafalls Jan 2021 #17

In other words, extreme self love... AmyStrange Jan 2021 #19

"Self-love, my liege, is not so vile a sin, as self-neglect..." LanternWaste Jan 2021 #39

I'd say it's more likely a way of compensating for extreme self hatred. Crunchy Frog Jan 2021 #41

I will agree that extreme self love is flawed. cayugafalls Jan 2021 #60

Privilege leads to worse behavior Bettie Jan 2021 #20

I'm not White. safeinOhio Jan 2021 #21

all humans are the same color, really... Bucky Jan 2021 #31

I'm getting mighty tired of this kind of self-flagellation Ron Obvious Jan 2021 #23

So am i Raine Jan 2021 #62

I hear ya. cwydro Jan 2021 #69

I really love the... tonedevil Jan 2021 #24

Thanks! sweetloukillbot Jan 2021 #27

Well, you know VA_Jill Jan 2021 #32

Wypipo are on this thread... tonedevil Jan 2021 #55

Lol StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #100

Wow Rustyeye77 Jan 2021 #25

You should delete this ignorant shit jcgoldie Jan 2021 #28

Thank you Rustyeye77 Jan 2021 #36

Is it Racism Wednesdays already? Sympthsical Jan 2021 #34

Personally, I hate stupid people. Dr. Strange Jan 2021 #40

Best post. cwydro Jan 2021 #70

Along with stupid threads designed to start shit like we're seeing dware Jan 2021 #102

The OP didn't "start shit" StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #108

Respectfully, dware Jan 2021 #113

It seems the easiest course would have been to just ignore it and then it would have gone away StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #119

We'll just have to agree to disagree on this. dware Jan 2021 #120

Teehehe, thanks sir pball Jan 2021 #210

Well then. I guess you hate me. msfiddlestix Jan 2021 #42

Alvin Ailey dancers perform Sinnerman from Revelations mnhtnbb Jan 2021 #44

I'm Chinese let me start an "I hate Asians" thread, see how well that plays here JuJuYoshida Jan 2021 #45

Good point. Blue_true Jan 2021 #58

Great singer, great song. RANDYWILDMAN Jan 2021 #46

WTF is this trash? DrToast Jan 2021 #48

Delete this thread Calculating Jan 2021 #50

So cringey kcr Jan 2021 #51

Me too, sometimes. Iggo Jan 2021 #52

I don't hate any skin color. Texasgal Jan 2021 #53

Exactly Rustyeye77 Jan 2021 #235

I'm white, and some of my best friends were white people. PurgedVoter Jan 2021 #54

Kick... this is such a horrible post Rustyeye77 Jan 2021 #56

So work to dismantle white supremacy. WhiskeyGrinder Jan 2021 #57

Your comment seems to have been overlooked... tonedevil Jan 2021 #213

Such a disgusting post, Ugh! 👎 Raine Jan 2021 #63

What a pantload Zeus69 Jan 2021 #67

Lol Rustyeye77 Jan 2021 #179

Speak out against White Supremacy like Joe Biden JI7 Jan 2021 #72

I hear you. Needs to be said Ron Green Jan 2021 #73

This whole thread is unconstructive. eom Wednesdays Jan 2021 #75

It solves nothing..... LeftInTX Jan 2021 #91

Nina Simone - Mississippi Goddam Celerity Jan 2021 #77

I fucking love this thread. Solly Mack Jan 2021 #92

I don't. (nt) Paladin Jan 2021 #109

Yes, unintentional comedy is the best. BannonsLiver Jan 2021 #112

It is quite telling, is it not? Celerity Jan 2021 #187

The expression of raw emotion without the ease of a buffer scares some people. Solly Mack Jan 2021 #189

This is amazing StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #194

If my in-box is any indication, people are reading it. Solly Mack Jan 2021 #196

I don't blame them for not making it an OP sir pball Jan 2021 #215

Well said, especially this Bettie Jan 2021 #195

Thank you. Solly Mack Jan 2021 #197

I usually fail too Bettie Jan 2021 #198

The anger, defensiveness and outright nastiness in his thread from people who are offended by the OP StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #199

Got to say, I expected better Bettie Jan 2021 #201

I didn't StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #204

I've seen it here before regarding racial equality/equity, misogyny, homophobia. Solly Mack Jan 2021 #206

As do I sir pball Jan 2021 #216

I've done that before. Solly Mack Jan 2021 #222

Thanks for the understanding. sir pball Jan 2021 #226

Thank you. sir pball Jan 2021 #214

You're welcome. Solly Mack Jan 2021 #221

As I said elsewhere, "yasss fam!" sir pball Jan 2021 #229

I notice that the self-righteous on this thread have no guts to reply. Coventina Jan 2021 #230

You're welcome, Coventina. Solly Mack Jan 2021 #231

They won't reply because they have no reply. sir pball Jan 2021 #233

YASS FAM sir pball Jan 2021 #211

Yeah, but I have to work at it. Solly Mack Jan 2021 #223

Eh, it's easier to just embrace it sir pball Jan 2021 #225

Well BGBD Jan 2021 #93

For people upset about this OP: immunity. betsuni Jan 2021 #95

wow, tons of white fragility on this thread. Coventina Jan 2021 #96

It isn't white fragility to call out ignorance jcgoldie Jan 2021 #101

Thank you. Funny, either we're privileged or we're fragile. How can we be both? cwydro Jan 2021 #117

Privilege and fragility are not mutually exclusive StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #122

Yes ma'am. cwydro Jan 2021 #128

Why do you bother... tonedevil Jan 2021 #130

Oh, I find this rather enjoyable today. cwydro Jan 2021 #132

There is a quote from Maya Angelou... tonedevil Jan 2021 #134

No, you didn't get it. That's not what I said. StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #131

Your wingman already pointed out how confused I am. cwydro Jan 2021 #133

As I said ... StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #137

This message was self-deleted by its author hamsterjill Jan 2021 #166

Gay people haven't ever been a group that oppressed others Beringia Jan 2021 #135

I wouldn't get too worried about it BannonsLiver Jan 2021 #157

I like that term. cwydro Jan 2021 #161

Who invented this concept and why does anyone think it is going to help? treestar Jan 2021 #202

Why do you think a concept can't be discussed unless it "creates more fairness"? StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #203

I just think most white people will naturally be defensive treestar Jan 2021 #207

Why should black folk pull our punches because telling the truth makes some white people defensive? StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #212

This. Coventina Jan 2021 #224

This message was self-deleted by its author hamsterjill Jan 2021 #97

Great post Rustyeye77 Jan 2021 #98

How fortunate to have the privilege.. tonedevil Jan 2021 #105

How kind was her gesture? phylny Jan 2021 #111

Extremely kind... tonedevil Jan 2021 #123

I weep when we give kind people no kindness. phylny Jan 2021 #126

Being white and saying... tonedevil Jan 2021 #127

This message was self-deleted by its author hamsterjill Jan 2021 #138

Do you understand why... tonedevil Jan 2021 #141

This message was self-deleted by its author hamsterjill Jan 2021 #146

Interesting that you feel free to say that the OP is offensive StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #149

This message was self-deleted by its author hamsterjill Jan 2021 #155

You don't seem to understand the difference between seeing people's race StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #168

Post removed Post removed Jan 2021 #169

Starfish must have really touched a nerve Empowerer Jan 2021 #173

Someone else who has moved beyond color. tonedevil Jan 2021 #174

I didn't know they were black until I started bragging about how I helped some black people EffieBlack Jan 2021 #178

I'm white, and when other white people say they "don't see" color ShazzieB Jan 2021 #177

Your kindness speaks volumes. phylny Jan 2021 #142

I believe you knew what the poster meant, even if the phrase is not to your liking. phylny Jan 2021 #139

The phrase is on a par with... tonedevil Jan 2021 #143

Interesting StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #150

Post removed Post removed Jan 2021 #162

LOL BannonsLiver Jan 2021 #115

You probably don't mean it that way, but saying you "don't see color" is offensive StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #110

This message was self-deleted by its author hamsterjill Jan 2021 #136

My post to you was very kind and an effort to help you see this from a different perspective StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #144

This message was self-deleted by its author hamsterjill Jan 2021 #148

Do tell - what "agenda" am I "pushing"? StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #152

I'm not quite sure either BannonsLiver Jan 2021 #154

This message was self-deleted by its author hamsterjill Jan 2021 #156

As I thought StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #160

You saw this family's color well enough to come here and announce you didn't notice they were mixed EffieBlack Jan 2021 #165

lol. nt ecstatic Jan 2021 #172

Well la dee da. dware Jan 2021 #103

Sometimes I just like to sit back and watch people argue mokawanis Jan 2021 #107

You're trying too hard IMO. BannonsLiver Jan 2021 #114

LOL... WUT? Happy Hoosier Jan 2021 #116

Lots of hurt dogs hollering in this thread. aidbo Jan 2021 #140

You hear it, too? StarfishSaver Jan 2021 #147

I don't hate anyone. It's non-productive IMHO. Kaleva Jan 2021 #151

Wow, very zen. aidbo Jan 2021 #153

Not really. It's pretty easy not to let other's control your emotions. Kaleva Jan 2021 #192

You like this idea? treestar Jan 2021 #200

Quick question BannonsLiver Jan 2021 #145

This is the I hate white people thread if you want to hate all, start your own thread. 💫 aidbo Jan 2021 #158

Well that doesn't sound very inclusive. BannonsLiver Jan 2021 #159

Like sibling says, start your own thread! sir pball Jan 2021 #217

LOL BannonsLiver Jan 2021 #237

This is some damn thread Rustyeye77 Jan 2021 #167

But not *all* whites, right? aidbo Jan 2021 #170

Especially THOSE whites sir pball Jan 2021 #219

Where's the button for hiding this thread? Bucky Jan 2021 #171

Right under the OP, bottom left, Trash Thread... Hekate Jan 2021 #183

In this thread: People who are OK with racism Sympthsical Jan 2021 #175

I really can't believe that this is still up here BGBD Jan 2021 #181

I totally agree Rustyeye77 Jan 2021 #193

This kind of juvenile sentiment discredits all the good causes liberals/progressives stand for gulliver Jan 2021 #180

I can tell by the use of Ergo... tonedevil Jan 2021 #182

Trashin this junk post Sugarcoated Jan 2021 #188

Should have been deleted but so be it Rustyeye77 Jan 2021 #190

And it's still here fescuerescue Jan 2021 #191

I don't. But really do not trust albinos for shit........ Guy Whitey Corngood Jan 2021 #205

I grew up in affluent 99 44/100 pure Ivory Soap Straight Christian White Boy World. hunter Jan 2021 #218

Sir pball Rustyeye77 Jan 2021 #220

Oh bullshit. trof Jan 2021 #228

I miss the old days. Dr. Strange Jan 2021 #232

I don't hate them Polybius Jan 2021 #234