I fucking hate White People

[StarfishSaver]

212. Why should black folk pull our punches because telling the truth makes some white people defensive?

And this isn't about purposefully making white people uncomfortable. We're just trying to speak the truth. Often that truth makes some white people uncomfortable, but it's not up to us to alter our truth or bite our tongues because that truth makes them uncomfortable.

You know what's really uncomfortable? Being black in America. It's even more uncomfortable being black in America and having white people tell us that we're making them uncomfortable by talking about how hard it is to be black in America.

But do you notice how all of the focus is centered around white people's feelings? Nowhere in this discussion has there been any expression of concern about why black people feel the way we do or why we need to discuss this. Instead we're told "Be quiet -you're making us uncomfortable" without even a thought about how systemic racism and some white people's refusal to discuss it or address it or even acknowledge it makes us more than uncomfortable.

This is the essence of white fragility - centering all interactions and discussions around white people's feelings and expecting everyone else to adjust to them without any need for white people to put themselves out even a little bit if doing so makes them uneasy.

FYI, it's not our job to motivate white people to do better. "Magical Negroes" only exist in movies.

I suspect most black folk are sick and tired of tip-toeing around and being expected to teach white people and being told that we didn't teach it just right, so it's our fault that they still haven't learned anything. White folks need to take responsibility for their own evolution, stop expecting us to do all of the work they should be doing, and stop blaming us when they are too lazy or fragile to take any of it on themselves.