NEED HELP & ADVICE...PLEASE! [View all]

[SkyDaddy7]

Last edited Tue Feb 16, 2021, 01:10 AM - Edit history (1)

...My best friend, my life partner, my wife of 30yrs woke up at 3am the morning of 28 January with severe back pain. She could barely get up & walk around the pain was so bad. The date, 28 January 2021 is crystal clear because it was the one year mark in which my wife’s fraternal twin sister died from an opiate overdose & my wife had already taken the day off so her & I could go spend the day with her parents. My wife & her twin sister are her parent’s only two children.
...The pain was so intense my wife made an appointment to see our family doctor who we love...But it wouldn’t be for another 2 days. Meanwhile, her Mom & Aunt came to our house because her Dad is currently hospitalized with ongoing heart, lung & kidney issues.
...To make a long story shorter, our family doctor suspected possible kidney stones & sent her for a CT scan. What came back was a potential nightmare! The scan appeared to show her liver was covered in lesions & our family doctor along with the radiologist who did the scan feared metastatic disease! So our family doctor sent my wife for an MRI to be done by a different radiologist at a different location & they too feared the same thing! So, she is immediately scheduled for an upper & lower endoscopy as well as a PET Scan in an attempt to find the origin of the cancer.
...By this time a week or more has passed & now my wife is not only in intense pain but experiencing round the clock nausea & vomiting! The vomiting was so bad she wasn’t able drink the prep for her endoscopy that clears the bowels. So they ended up hospitalizing my wife to get her IV fluids & pain medication while at the same time using other methods to do the endoscopy as best they could.
...What they found was two large tumors in her colon that had grown together blocking passage of waste. This is why she was becoming so sick! They scheduled surgery right away & that was done this morning. They removed the tumors in the colon but due to the back up they had to create a temporary colostomy. They also got a good look at her liver the GI surgeon told me was more than 70% covered in lesions! He said he couldn’t visibly see that the cancer had spread to other areas inside her body but that is no guarantee.
...So, OBVIOUSLY THIS IS A FUCKING NIGHTMARE!!
...My wife is supposed to be given roughly 4-6 weeks to heal from this colon surgery...To give her body enough time to build up the strength to handle some of the most intense chemotherapy treatments there are, or so they made it sound, in a desperate attempt to save her life.

...My wife’s official diagnosis is Stage 4 Colon Cancer that’s spread to the liver...Her liver is more than 70% covered in lesions. Not sure yet if the cancer has spread to other organs.

...I’m not religious & I fully understand the odds. What I would like is REAL WORLD ADVICE on what I can do, buy &/or prepare for to make my wife as comfortable as possible during chemotherapy?

...I may not interact much with this post but that doesn’t mean I’m not reading the replies.

Thank-you DU!!!♥️

...EDIT: Adding this to my post to THANK EVERYONE for all the support, advice, hugs & DU LOVE!!
I’m overwhelmed & can’t wait to show my wife! I truly ♥️ all of you!!!