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central scrutinizer

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15. I'm so sorry.

Mon Feb 15, 2021, 09:06 PM

Feb 2021

My wife was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer about 5 years ago. I was her primary care giver but it was pre-COVID and family and friends pitched in. I dearly hope you have others you can call on. You can’t do it alone. It takes a village.

A hospital bed is a good idea to find a position that is comfortable for your wife. Beware of fentanyl patches. If your wife doesn’t have a lot of fatty tissue, they won’t work. Even with OxyContin. Ask about methadone for pain relief. It made a big difference in my wife’s quality of life. Investigate hospice care. They will provide everything, deliver meds, have a nurse visit often, provide counseling for you.

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NEED HELP & ADVICE...PLEASE! [View all] SkyDaddy7 Feb 2021 OP

I am so sorry. Evergreen Emerald Feb 2021 #1

Damn...I'm so sorry Rustyeye77 Feb 2021 #2

I wish ChazII Feb 2021 #3

I can't help you, but I'm wishing you both the best. Crunchy Frog Feb 2021 #4

Sorry you two are going through this. I'm completely ignorant about it, but -kick- for visibility. Hermit-The-Prog Feb 2021 #5

I'm sorry. Here is a link to a colon cancer forum Croney Feb 2021 #6

Thank-you!!! SkyDaddy7 Feb 2021 #48

I had colon cancer, discovered in the ER... OneGrassRoot Feb 2021 #7

Thank-you! SkyDaddy7 Feb 2021 #56

Oh my.... OneGrassRoot Feb 2021 #69

I know I will be ridiculed and dismissed by most that read this. alittlelark Feb 2021 #8

I, for one, would never ridicule you for that advice. StarryNite Feb 2021 #21

I agree. But I would not put all my wnylib Feb 2021 #42

I am bdamomma Feb 2021 #9

My son's palliative team ChazII Feb 2021 #12

I was going to post the same thing. yardwork Feb 2021 #20

What a nightmare, and so sorry to hear this frazzled Feb 2021 #10

The only thing I would suggest to this post is to record every consult/visit, etc, not just niyad Feb 2021 #16

Thank-you!! SkyDaddy7 Feb 2021 #59

The best advice I can give you is to find an online support group of people with colon cancer. Ms. Toad Feb 2021 #11

Thank-you! SkyDaddy7 Feb 2021 #60

Hugs to you in your time of need ProudMNDemocrat Feb 2021 #13

♥️ SkyDaddy7 Feb 2021 #61

I'm sorry to hear this, no advice except to wait for the final diagnosis. Demonaut Feb 2021 #14

I'm so sorry. central scrutinizer Feb 2021 #15

Your love and support Sunny Daze Feb 2021 #17

All you can really do is to be there for her and let her know she is loved, world wide wally Feb 2021 #18

I am so very sorry for what you and your wife are going through. There is some very good advice niyad Feb 2021 #19

What a Horrific situation! Ok I just quickly googled up... electric_blue68 Feb 2021 #22

I've been through chemo twice... OneGrassRoot Feb 2021 #23

Wow I had not heard that! Thanks for info. Much good luck to you! electric_blue68 Feb 2021 #27

I should have also said that... OneGrassRoot Feb 2021 #28

Got it. Thanks electric_blue68 Feb 2021 #29

Please, palliative care is the best option for her condition Cozmo Feb 2021 #24

There's a lot of really good advice here. Staph Feb 2021 #25

My wife donated her hair central scrutinizer Feb 2021 #32

Ask your healthcare pro about resources for palliative care Cozmo Feb 2021 #26

My heart goes out to you and your wife. Oldem Feb 2021 #30

I am so sorry for you both, that is just plain a lot to get at once. bottomofthehill Feb 2021 #31

My heart goes out to you AncientOfDays Feb 2021 #33

I am so sorry to hear this. No advice just Marie Marie Feb 2021 #34

It's a very frightening and confusing situation for anyone. Don't forget to take care of yourself. KY_EnviroGuy Feb 2021 #35

I don't have any specific advice but I do wish the very best for you and your wife LymphocyteLover Feb 2021 #36

that is so true. my brother had his Hepatitis C reversed. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 2021 #40

it's true that doctors are curing diseases now at much greater rates than they used to LymphocyteLover Feb 2021 #70

About 5 years ago my wife had such back pain tiredtoo Feb 2021 #37

When my wife was dying in 2009 bluescribbler Feb 2021 #38

Peace Gilbert Moore Feb 2021 #39

I'm so sorry that you and your wife are going through this terrible ordeal. Beacool Feb 2021 #41

My wife had cancer twice. Each case is different. DFW Feb 2021 #43

SkyDaddy, I'm So Sorry COL Mustard Feb 2021 #44

So sorry to hear of your situation SkyDaddy7. Having read your Post and the replies, I believe c-rational Feb 2021 #45

I am so sorry. PoindexterOglethorpe Feb 2021 #46

Hope for the best canetoad Feb 2021 #47

I'm so sorry for what your wife and the rest of your loved ones are going through. Progressive Jones Feb 2021 #49

I'm so very sorry. I'm a 12 year Stage IV cancer of the tonsils survivor, sinkingfeeling Feb 2021 #50

Need help people Feb 2021 #51

So sorry you are going through this. FuzzyRabbit Feb 2021 #52

I am so very sorry for your wife and you to receive such news... Moostache Feb 2021 #53

Sending you a big virtual hug marlakay Feb 2021 #54

I'm so sorry but hope this helps NewEnglandAutumn Feb 2021 #55

My brother was diagnosed with Stage 4 colon cancer in 2003. BadgerMom Feb 2021 #57

it often sounds like a crap shoot (hey is that a pun?) Skittles Feb 2021 #80

I promise, you'll know 1plus1equals1 Feb 2021 #58

I have several suggestions MyMission Feb 2021 #62

I'm so sorry, and I feel so badly for the two of you. BobTheSubgenius Feb 2021 #63

I am so sorry. EndlessWire Feb 2021 #64

I second this advice! ancianita Feb 2021 #71

I am so very sorry to hear this. crickets Feb 2021 #65

Need Advice ms.pamela Feb 2021 #66

So sorry to hear this. Truly an unimaginable nightmare. Vivienne235729 Feb 2021 #67

no advice but sending healing vibes. Demovictory9 Feb 2021 #68

Offering my prayers of hope carburyme Feb 2021 #72

The DU is filled with brilliant and compassionate people... Freedomofspeech Feb 2021 #73

I'm so very sorry, SkyDaddy mcar Feb 2021 #74

I'm so sorry and tho I have no advice I'll send up a prayer 🙏🏽 nt live love laugh Feb 2021 #75

I have no advice and can only offer up to you both all the UpInArms Feb 2021 #76

What you are describing is horrendous. Makes me feel like my sometimes difficult life is OregonBlue Feb 2021 #77

Our liver is way-oversized for emergencies like this. lagomorph777 Feb 2021 #78

SkyDaddy7 just remember that someone is ALWAYS here on DU Skittles Feb 2021 #79