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BobTheSubgenius

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63. I'm so sorry, and I feel so badly for the two of you.

Tue Feb 16, 2021, 01:17 AM

Feb 2021

I also wish I had some good advice, but I have no real experience with chemo, et al. My best friend died from cancer, but it was so advanced when it was confirmed, the oncologist could only offer a shot at an additional 6 months. Going through all that and only getting the worst 6 months of your life at the end of it seemed like an awful idea, so she passed.

I do know that fentanyl was very ineffective for her, which, given its incredible overdose power seems unlikely, but I see someone else mentioned it. What worked for her was a methadone patch and 8mg dilaudid for "breakthrough" pain.

I would also agree with looking into cannabinoids, but don't pin your hopes on them. For some, they work very, very well, and for others, almost not at all.

The last bit I have is also mentioned above, and it was also my father's mantra. When you're sick, eat what you feel like. It's probably something the body can tolerate.

The very, very best of fortune to you both!

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I am so sorry. Evergreen Emerald Feb 2021 #1

Damn...I'm so sorry Rustyeye77 Feb 2021 #2

I wish ChazII Feb 2021 #3

I can't help you, but I'm wishing you both the best. Crunchy Frog Feb 2021 #4

Sorry you two are going through this. I'm completely ignorant about it, but -kick- for visibility. Hermit-The-Prog Feb 2021 #5

I'm sorry. Here is a link to a colon cancer forum Croney Feb 2021 #6

Thank-you!!! SkyDaddy7 Feb 2021 #48

I had colon cancer, discovered in the ER... OneGrassRoot Feb 2021 #7

Thank-you! SkyDaddy7 Feb 2021 #56

Oh my.... OneGrassRoot Feb 2021 #69

I know I will be ridiculed and dismissed by most that read this. alittlelark Feb 2021 #8

I, for one, would never ridicule you for that advice. StarryNite Feb 2021 #21

I agree. But I would not put all my wnylib Feb 2021 #42

I am bdamomma Feb 2021 #9

My son's palliative team ChazII Feb 2021 #12

I was going to post the same thing. yardwork Feb 2021 #20

What a nightmare, and so sorry to hear this frazzled Feb 2021 #10

The only thing I would suggest to this post is to record every consult/visit, etc, not just niyad Feb 2021 #16

Thank-you!! SkyDaddy7 Feb 2021 #59

The best advice I can give you is to find an online support group of people with colon cancer. Ms. Toad Feb 2021 #11

Thank-you! SkyDaddy7 Feb 2021 #60

Hugs to you in your time of need ProudMNDemocrat Feb 2021 #13

♥️ SkyDaddy7 Feb 2021 #61

I'm sorry to hear this, no advice except to wait for the final diagnosis. Demonaut Feb 2021 #14

I'm so sorry. central scrutinizer Feb 2021 #15

Your love and support Sunny Daze Feb 2021 #17

All you can really do is to be there for her and let her know she is loved, world wide wally Feb 2021 #18

I am so very sorry for what you and your wife are going through. There is some very good advice niyad Feb 2021 #19

What a Horrific situation! Ok I just quickly googled up... electric_blue68 Feb 2021 #22

I've been through chemo twice... OneGrassRoot Feb 2021 #23

Wow I had not heard that! Thanks for info. Much good luck to you! electric_blue68 Feb 2021 #27

I should have also said that... OneGrassRoot Feb 2021 #28

Got it. Thanks electric_blue68 Feb 2021 #29

Please, palliative care is the best option for her condition Cozmo Feb 2021 #24

There's a lot of really good advice here. Staph Feb 2021 #25

My wife donated her hair central scrutinizer Feb 2021 #32

Ask your healthcare pro about resources for palliative care Cozmo Feb 2021 #26

My heart goes out to you and your wife. Oldem Feb 2021 #30

I am so sorry for you both, that is just plain a lot to get at once. bottomofthehill Feb 2021 #31

My heart goes out to you AncientOfDays Feb 2021 #33

I am so sorry to hear this. No advice just Marie Marie Feb 2021 #34

It's a very frightening and confusing situation for anyone. Don't forget to take care of yourself. KY_EnviroGuy Feb 2021 #35

I don't have any specific advice but I do wish the very best for you and your wife LymphocyteLover Feb 2021 #36

that is so true. my brother had his Hepatitis C reversed. SleeplessinSoCal Feb 2021 #40

it's true that doctors are curing diseases now at much greater rates than they used to LymphocyteLover Feb 2021 #70

About 5 years ago my wife had such back pain tiredtoo Feb 2021 #37

When my wife was dying in 2009 bluescribbler Feb 2021 #38

Peace Gilbert Moore Feb 2021 #39

I'm so sorry that you and your wife are going through this terrible ordeal. Beacool Feb 2021 #41

My wife had cancer twice. Each case is different. DFW Feb 2021 #43

SkyDaddy, I'm So Sorry COL Mustard Feb 2021 #44

So sorry to hear of your situation SkyDaddy7. Having read your Post and the replies, I believe c-rational Feb 2021 #45

I am so sorry. PoindexterOglethorpe Feb 2021 #46

Hope for the best canetoad Feb 2021 #47

I'm so sorry for what your wife and the rest of your loved ones are going through. Progressive Jones Feb 2021 #49

I'm so very sorry. I'm a 12 year Stage IV cancer of the tonsils survivor, sinkingfeeling Feb 2021 #50

Need help people Feb 2021 #51

So sorry you are going through this. FuzzyRabbit Feb 2021 #52

I am so very sorry for your wife and you to receive such news... Moostache Feb 2021 #53

Sending you a big virtual hug marlakay Feb 2021 #54

I'm so sorry but hope this helps NewEnglandAutumn Feb 2021 #55

My brother was diagnosed with Stage 4 colon cancer in 2003. BadgerMom Feb 2021 #57

it often sounds like a crap shoot (hey is that a pun?) Skittles Feb 2021 #80

I promise, you'll know 1plus1equals1 Feb 2021 #58

I have several suggestions MyMission Feb 2021 #62

I'm so sorry, and I feel so badly for the two of you. BobTheSubgenius Feb 2021 #63

I am so sorry. EndlessWire Feb 2021 #64

I second this advice! ancianita Feb 2021 #71

I am so very sorry to hear this. crickets Feb 2021 #65

Need Advice ms.pamela Feb 2021 #66

So sorry to hear this. Truly an unimaginable nightmare. Vivienne235729 Feb 2021 #67

no advice but sending healing vibes. Demovictory9 Feb 2021 #68

Offering my prayers of hope carburyme Feb 2021 #72

The DU is filled with brilliant and compassionate people... Freedomofspeech Feb 2021 #73

I'm so very sorry, SkyDaddy mcar Feb 2021 #74

I'm so sorry and tho I have no advice I'll send up a prayer 🙏🏽 nt live love laugh Feb 2021 #75

I have no advice and can only offer up to you both all the UpInArms Feb 2021 #76

What you are describing is horrendous. Makes me feel like my sometimes difficult life is OregonBlue Feb 2021 #77

Our liver is way-oversized for emergencies like this. lagomorph777 Feb 2021 #78

SkyDaddy7 just remember that someone is ALWAYS here on DU Skittles Feb 2021 #79