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In reply to the discussion: I am a SWM, 63, and have never understood many older men. [View all]TlalocW
(15,374 posts)I Infoseeked (pre-Google) "Hispanic Latin Women" because my grad school's Hispanic Student Association was going to focus on them for the upcoming Hispanic Heritage Month events. First I learned the importance of making my searches more specific, but I also ran across a webpage for a Latin Women Listserv (for those who have forgotten or are too young - a listserv was basically an email list centered around a topic you could sign up for where all the emails from members were put together into a nice digest once a day). I joined for kicks because most of the members were conservative, older men (40s and up) who legitimately believed they were owed hot, submissive wives, felt American women were ruined by society (and weren't keen on Mexicans since they were so close to America), and were focusing mainly on Colombia, which had a lot of dating services for American men. It was quite an eye-opener into entitlement. None of them could speak Spanish, knew anything about the culture, and a lot were also on the Russian Women listserv for the same reasons with the same handicaps (couldn't speak Russian, etc). I admit I trolled* them a bit in my spare time. The listserv owner actually thanked me because he thought I was a positive influence - so much for trolling - because I would say things like you need to be interested in the culture to actually show potential partners that you value them as people and not just status symbols. I was actually jeered by some members for that.
*The best troll was when I had a bi friend of mine join as a woman looking for a Latin bride. I would send her details about a part of Mexico I used to know very well (Oaxaca), and she would fashion a story about going there and meeting a woman (Guadalupe). Oh, the howls of indignation that there was THAT kind of person on the listserv, and even worse, she was having SUCCESS! It ended up with Lupe moving to Seattle and their having a commitment ceremony... which just made the howls louder from half the list.
TlalocW