I am a SWM, 63, and have never understood many older men.

[Jerryatric]

56. It isn't really about having the hots for them, I don't think.

I had enough horrible bosses to think that it's really all about power and ego. The more powerful they get, the more they expect people to do whatever they want and the more people that do, the more they expect it. Until they wind up being old, hideous men who are still hitting on girls in their 20's who have no idea what to do when the boss is acting like that. Or at least we didn't when I was young; there were no laws, there was no HR department, there was nothing but quit, try to avoid him, or play along and hope like hell he's just flirting and he won't go any further. Meanwhile, he's so used to getting his way every single minute in every aspect of his life that he never considers that his feelings aren't all that matter.

They're shocked when someone says no to them, the same way a guy in a bar once said to me in the early 80's - "but I'm Englebert's road manager" as if that was some kind of way to make me go upstairs. He was shocked that being sent by some rich old man to get my friend and me to come upstairs to "meet" Englebert wasn't some magic phrase that always worked and he seemed actually surprised that I was laughing at him. They're so used to people saying yes that it never enters their mind that someone might not.