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MotorCityBeard

(201 posts)
112. 25 years wasn't too much for me - A Gay Perspective
Tue Mar 2, 2021, 07:53 PM
Mar 2021

I met my first partner when I was 34 and he was 59. We fell in love. Age was never an issue to us. We both knew how our families would react (Mike was the same age as my mother; I found that funny, Mike, not so much...) and we didn't care. We were in love, and it showed. Both our families were fine with that.

We had 5 wonderful years together until cancer took him. I have absolutely no regrets and feel I am lucky for our time together.

I've always liked older men, even when I was 18. It was just a personal preference. I'm 56 now, and grew into the age group I preferred.

I met my second partner a couple of years after I lost Mike, and we fell for each other. Steve is only a year older than me. To me. it just goes to show that it's the person, not the age, that is the attraction.

I'm a SWF age 64 and here are a couple of my theories. no_hypocrisy Mar 2021 #1
All excellent ideas. n/t MicaelS Mar 2021 #2
I think they're also really immature- dawg day Mar 2021 #12
It's bad to generalize a situation. There are times when the young girl is interested. Claustrum Mar 2021 #3
I guess you are right. n/t MicaelS Mar 2021 #4
There are very few times when an attractive 24 year old is interested in someone 40 years older, spooky3 Mar 2021 #6
My cousin in his 70's has fallen moonscape Mar 2021 #16
I think you feel creeped out because you sense spooky3 Mar 2021 #26
I've not even met her, just seen moonscape Mar 2021 #58
She's not for real. I've seen this script on my wife's toxic TV shows. lagomorph777 Mar 2021 #98
Maybe she's angling for US citizenship. She could get it through marrying him, pnwmom Mar 2021 #45
He is here on a Green Card. He's a moonscape Mar 2021 #59
It's odd. If your cousin is in good health and the two have similar interests, haele Mar 2021 #95
Thanks for this. You're right. My cousin is moonscape Mar 2021 #111
Not quite the age difference, but Tracer Mar 2021 #100
At my age (67) it doesn't happen much anymore, Mr.Bill Mar 2021 #110
In a public setting, He asked, was rebuffed and moved on. aeromanKC Mar 2021 #5
And the Titantic hit a small chunk of ice, a non story. dem4decades Mar 2021 #9
So when there is an age difference in a relationship, its like thousands of people dying? Gore1FL Mar 2021 #25
No, he touched her bare back, and he put his hands on her face. pnwmom Mar 2021 #50
Made men have yachts. That works for many older men I've heard. Baked Potato Mar 2021 #7
That is the fucking post of the night ChubbyStar Mar 2021 #18
So your think that younger women are sluts when they date older men? Gore1FL Mar 2021 #24
The insulting language around age gap relationships is always so gross obamanut2012 Mar 2021 #66
I'm sorry kcr Mar 2021 #78
You Don't Believe RobinA Mar 2021 #104
So you are saying Karma13612 Mar 2021 #79
If that's the only reason, that would be the implication. nt Gore1FL Mar 2021 #97
No, I made light of a ridiculous OP. Baked Potato Mar 2021 #103
Thank you for clarifying. Gore1FL Mar 2021 #106
No problem, it's cool. I know it's a serious issue. Baked Potato Mar 2021 #107
I'm 54 and been with the same woman for 33 years. She is now 60. And still hot! GulfCoast66 Mar 2021 #8
I am glad your outcome was better than mine Gore1FL Mar 2021 #23
Sorry about that. I admit I hit the jackpot with my wife. GulfCoast66 Mar 2021 #36
A great friend of mine was in his 60s. He was chased (and caught) by a woman in her 20s. Gore1FL Mar 2021 #39
Jesus! I can't imagine being around a 20 something all the time! GulfCoast66 Mar 2021 #55
I'm similar to GoreFL's friend obamanut2012 Mar 2021 #68
My best explanation canetoad Mar 2021 #10
Loving someone of a different age is unevolved. Gore1FL Mar 2021 #22
How did you come up with that conclusion canetoad Mar 2021 #31
I stand corrected. Gore1FL Mar 2021 #32
No worries buddy canetoad Mar 2021 #34
It does me, too obamanut2012 Mar 2021 #69
Maybe I am weird , but- scuciti Mar 2021 #11
If someone in their 50s finds love with someone their 20s, is it wrong? Gore1FL Mar 2021 #21
Maybe because some say yes? Gore1FL Mar 2021 #13
6 years is not that much treestar Mar 2021 #86
25 years wasn't too much for me - A Gay Perspective MotorCityBeard Mar 2021 #112
Paul Newman said it. lpbk2713 Mar 2021 #14
That statement kind of grossed me out anyway Beringia Mar 2021 #88
Most younger women are not in interested in much older men TexasBushwhacker Mar 2021 #15
Or, you know, maybe they actually love each other. Gore1FL Mar 2021 #19
I think the OP is right. Why would some young woman he's just met pnwmom Mar 2021 #35
That wasn't the OP topic. Gore1FL Mar 2021 #37
I bet if you ask the OP, it was Cuomo's egotistical behavior that he had in mind. pnwmom Mar 2021 #38
They didn't mention Cuomo. Gore1FL Mar 2021 #41
Maybe mention Cuomo then? Gore1FL Mar 2021 #42
Each of the women Cuomo thought might like his sexual flirtation was three or four decades younger. pnwmom Mar 2021 #53
The OP is snarking about age gap relationships obamanut2012 Mar 2021 #72
So, all the younger women who marry older men or women are sugarbaby golddiggers? obamanut2012 Mar 2021 #71
+1 in spite of their protestations treestar Mar 2021 #83
This will likely never be an issue for me. Aristus Mar 2021 #17
Careful, apparently loving people of different ages is a terrible thing. Gore1FL Mar 2021 #20
'Any woman under the age of forty is a child, in my opinion.' Celerity Mar 2021 #28
It's awesome to pass judgement, apparently. Gore1FL Mar 2021 #29
I was going to track your responses canetoad Mar 2021 #43
I wish I had the chance to try out my relationship. Gore1FL Mar 2021 #46
I was referring to the outrageously condescending and misogynistic labelling of us women in Celerity Mar 2021 #54
"Any woman under the age of forty is a child" obamanut2012 Mar 2021 #73
I think he only meant he does not treestar Mar 2021 #87
Yeah, but it was a bad choice of words. Aristus Mar 2021 #90
HS girls Mendocino Mar 2021 #27
Hah, that's Matthew McConaughey talking, who's now 51 FakeNoose Mar 2021 #102
K & R SunSeeker Mar 2021 #30
I was wondering the same thing. The EGO for men that age to think they're so appealing pnwmom Mar 2021 #33
If this about Cuomo, why aren't things like this posted every time a Republican does it? C Moon Mar 2021 #40
Is it about Cuomo? The OP makes no mention. Gore1FL Mar 2021 #44
:/ C Moon Mar 2021 #48
Really? Gore1FL Mar 2021 #51
I second the :/ kcr Mar 2021 #64
No, he isn't obamanut2012 Mar 2021 #74
Yes, he is kcr Mar 2021 #80
Substitute race or gender for age in this OP. Gore1FL Mar 2021 #76
You seem to be the only one who doesn't get what this thread is about kcr Mar 2021 #77
Where did I defend sexual harrasssment? Gore1FL Mar 2021 #96
This is a thread about sexual harassment kcr Mar 2021 #99
No it's not. Gore1FL Mar 2021 #105
Context is difficult to see when it's inconvenient. LanternWaste Mar 2021 #108
Let me block quote the OP. Gore1FL Mar 2021 #109
Did you see the picture of the woman today with his hands holding her face? pnwmom Mar 2021 #52
The photo has issues. Cetacea Mar 2021 #61
Anna Ruch isn't anonymous, and she's a Democrat and a former Biden campaign staffer. pnwmom Mar 2021 #62
Madison Cawthorn has 4 women accusing him of sexual assault Arazi Mar 2021 #65
Women lose their hormones - men don't. Talitha Mar 2021 #47
Young women aren't there for older men to use because their wives aren't interested. pnwmom Mar 2021 #63
lol that is a MYTH obamanut2012 Mar 2021 #75
Many years ago... in the 90s TlalocW Mar 2021 #49
It isn't really about having the hots for them, I don't think. Jerryatric Mar 2021 #56
It is absolutely about power TexasBushwhacker Mar 2021 #57
Exactly. When I think back now on some of the bosses I had Jerryatric Mar 2021 #60
And you need the job. leftyladyfrommo Mar 2021 #89
I see it in Florida. There are a lot of older women who need financial support. I saw someone Baitball Blogger Mar 2021 #67
To paraphrase Chauncey Gardener: I like to look. GoneOffShore Mar 2021 #70
It symbolizes power treestar Mar 2021 #81
This is a separate concept, imo. Oneironaut Mar 2021 #82
I think the OP WAS talking about the same concept kcr Mar 2021 #85
It is a thin line between old man and dirty old man taxi Mar 2021 #84
Grow up! Johnny2X2X Mar 2021 #91
Well, attraction is attraction mvd Mar 2021 #92
Please allow me to apologize. Aristus Mar 2021 #93
My hubby is 9 MONTHS younger than me. I call him my boy toy😊😊😊 Politicalgolfer Mar 2021 #94
Money and power. BannonsLiver Mar 2021 #101
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