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Hekate

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120. She unfriended me 3+ years ago, & I kind of soured on FB as a platform...

Wed May 5, 2021, 06:36 PM

May 2021

There is so much that is attractive about it, but in addition to being a time-suck, I felt terrible every time I went on. Both my husband and my SIL said I could simply enter thru their portals if I wanted to keep up with the grandkids, but that made me feel like the Little Match Girl in Hans Christian Andersen’s book so I refused.

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I'm having a terrifying experience, as my husband is on the phone fighting w our anti-vax daughter [View all] Hekate May 2021 OP

.. Demovictory9 May 2021 #1

Tell her that FDR was crippled as a child, way before the 40's when DDT was invented Beakybird May 2021 #2

Probably should not tell her anything untrue because she will use it to discredit everything said... RockRaven May 2021 #13

This message was self-deleted by its author DenaliDemocrat May 2021 #54

One could always ask why it is that we don't see a polio epidemic. BobTheSubgenius May 2021 #75

Legend in our family was that DDT-sprayed potatos Backseat Driver May 2021 #86

FDR was 39 years old in 1921 when he contracted Polio, definitely NOT a child. He recovered from The_REAL_Ecumenist May 2021 #35

Actually, FDR got polio as an adult. GoCubsGo May 2021 #60

Actually mgardener May 2021 #110

That would be so hard. I am sorry. I get an headache immediately then comes stomach pain. LizBeth May 2021 #3

Hugs Hekate denbot May 2021 #4

What disease does she think you spread to her children? Irish_Dem May 2021 #5

yes, they believe that vaccinated folk are "shedding" the virus. Grasswire2 May 2021 #18

Where do they hear that crap from? SunSeeker May 2021 #24

FECEbook lagomorph777 May 2021 #94

Ahhhhh, FaceBook, the source of all knowledge. At least for NoMoreRepugs May 2021 #131

People spread complete lies on social media IronLionZion May 2021 #113

Opposite of scientific research. Irish_Dem May 2021 #27

Then they should get vaccinated to be protected, period. Liberty Belle May 2021 #29

Yup, had someone close to me say this shit to me this week Marrah_Goodman May 2021 #50

I'd call him on the "my doctor told me" BS. wnylib May 2021 #56

That one drives me nuts. GoCubsGo May 2021 #61

I think one theory is that vaccinated people can become infected, don't become sick, but spread it. Klaralven May 2021 #91

I think they just have no understanding of how the new-technology vaccines work. GoCubsGo May 2021 #101

Only possible good from this is they start wearing masks to protect themselves from the "vaccine" Nevilledog May 2021 #80

+1 yes Silver lining ..whatever it takes luckone May 2021 #105

Hahaha... an ironic twist that could do some good. The Wielding Truth May 2021 #114

Wait -- If the virus isn't worth getting vaccinated for in the first place, then... Beartracks May 2021 #133

How could you spread it DENVERPOPS May 2021 #25

All you can do is try bottomofthehill May 2021 #6

I hope for you and your husband strength and patience. Solly Mack May 2021 #7

This is awful, Hekate!! cilla4progress May 2021 #8

The same scenario is playing out radical noodle May 2021 #9

I know we are not alone, which is why I dared to post this here. I appreciate the support... Hekate May 2021 #119

Sending vibes and hugs, elleng May 2021 #10

... sprinkleeninow May 2021 #11

FDR was crippled by Polio, a disease that was eradicated by... Downtown Hound May 2021 #12

No, FDR was NOT a child when he contracted Polio, He was 39 YEARS old, (1921), a practising atty in The_REAL_Ecumenist May 2021 #19

I already corrected it. Downtown Hound May 2021 #20

Sorry. Didn't see it. The_REAL_Ecumenist May 2021 #36

TY for that info.. & Cha May 2021 #23

get on the phone, tell her she's a brat and tell her to shut up TomDaisy May 2021 #14

I'll second that! (nt) NoRethugFriends May 2021 #43

Tell her to quit disrespecting her father. LakeArenal May 2021 #64

Parents who talk to their kids in that way often lose access to their grandkids womanofthehills May 2021 #124

Can't begin to imagine canetoad May 2021 #15

Am hanging in there. You too. Hekate May 2021 #42

... AKwannabe May 2021 #16

Sanity Vibes coming your Cha May 2021 #17

There should be some changes made to your will. Trusts for grandkids that certain adults cant touch. ZonkerHarris May 2021 #21

Seriously? Over a shot? I know its important for sure jimfields33 May 2021 #47

Kindest thing she can do for the daughter lostnfound May 2021 #51

I guess that's true. jimfields33 May 2021 #52

Post didn't say "take her out of will", only to have separate trusts for grandkids lostnfound May 2021 #115

How did she become an anti-vaxxer with such rational parents? SunSeeker May 2021 #22

Sometimes kids want to be opposite Tree Lady May 2021 #103

Short version: if you lose a baby to SIDS, there is a whole movement to tell you it was vaccines.... Hekate May 2021 #118

Sending good wishes. I know a similar situation, and the 'obsessive' person is bi polar. MerryBlooms May 2021 #26

Sending blessings and good thoughts. I know of very similar situation. It's hard! KatK May 2021 #28

I'm so sorry! Buckeye_Democrat May 2021 #30

I'd hit that bottle one more time. SergeStorms May 2021 #31

That's been my observation too. Buckeye_Democrat May 2021 #37

I'm so sorry. JohnnyRingo May 2021 #32

He is absolutely to blame for this. John Fante May 2021 #39

Thanks for sharing this. I think we've all been through something similar with friends /family C Moon May 2021 #33

Thank you all so much for the support. It lasted an hour & 38 minutes. Gah. I feel better... Hekate May 2021 #34

I'm so sorry, Hekate. Does this mean her kids have Covid pnwmom May 2021 #38

No, and I don't think they are sick. One child already had a rash & it got worse. Another child... Hekate May 2021 #41

All of us adults and our significant others have gotten their vaccines. pnwmom May 2021 #48

She unfriended me 3+ years ago, & I kind of soured on FB as a platform... Hekate May 2021 #120

If you want to be in your grandkids life, arguing with their mom is never a good idea womanofthehills May 2021 #126

I agree completely. I refuse to fight with her, but she has become obsessive about this issue... Hekate May 2021 #135

Is she preventing you from interacting with your grandchildren? I am so sorry! n/t pnwmom May 2021 #127

Not as such, or at least not any more since we moved away... Hekate May 2021 #136

I can only imagine. pnwmom May 2021 #140

How's your husband? mgardener May 2021 #111

He takes it less hard than I do, altho he needed to decompress after he hung up the phone Hekate May 2021 #121

I'm so sorry for you and your husband, Hekate. smirkymonkey May 2021 #40

We need an national detox. too many suffer along with you. SleeplessinSoCal May 2021 #44

I'm late to support you, but I have an adult daughter, too. herding cats May 2021 #45

i know MFM008 May 2021 #46

We laugh around here when it's strangers in Walmart, but it's shocking and tragic when it's in... TreasonousBastard May 2021 #49

What exactly are we (vaccinated people) supposed to be shedding? LisaL May 2021 #53

It's stupefying how reasonable parents can have unreasonable children DFW May 2021 #55

I just heard about "shedding" of proteins yesterday. It's BS. Show this article to your daughter. panader0 May 2021 #57

There is no point -- she won;t believe any of it obamanut2012 May 2021 #63

"All you can do" is all you can do. Hang on. nt Atticus May 2021 #58

I so feel for you. We have one of those in our family too. mainer May 2021 #59

I'm so sorry to read that. MineralMan May 2021 #62

As a fully vaccinated person Raftergirl May 2021 #65

Hang in there my friend. sheshe2 May 2021 #66

I have one nephew who doesn't want to be vaccinated malaise May 2021 #67

Sending vibes for protection and peace for you and your husband. niyad May 2021 #68

The lax and anti-vaxxers are very worrisome. ananda May 2021 #69

I want to give you this Hekate bdamomma May 2021 #70

I would give her information about Polio and Smallpox and the devastation it caused Maraya1969 May 2021 #71

Hey! mgardener May 2021 #112

Doing that is what got me unfriended from her FB group. I was naive... Hekate May 2021 #122

Yea, you probably made a very good point and someone became very uncomfortable. Maraya1969 May 2021 #132

Sad to say, there are still cases of polio in Afghanistan and Pakistan womanofthehills May 2021 #125

There are remote places in Pakistan and Africa where public health teams have been murdered... Hekate May 2021 #137

Duplicate, sorry Hekate May 2021 #138

If she reads, ancianita May 2021 #72

I'm so sorry my beautiful friend duhneece May 2021 #73

Sending my best... Snackshack May 2021 #74

Your daughter might be in the Qanon cult sobenji May 2021 #76

Remember when dealing with stressful encounters like this.... KS Toronado May 2021 #77

Unfortunately Anti-Vaxxers are not aligned with Rethugs, they exist in all parties and walks of life Tommymac May 2021 #78

This is very disheartening to hear. Fringe non-science tearing people apart. BobTheSubgenius May 2021 #79

... Nevilledog May 2021 #81

I recommend... jcgoldie May 2021 #82

Glad the party was very nice, Hekate. As for this, it will pass. Hortensis May 2021 #83

You have my deepest sympathy. hay rick May 2021 #84

Had a short conversation with an anti-vaxxer who came to our rummage sale last wknd... Heartstrings May 2021 #85

gah, ive given up on these people. full stop. AllaN01Bear May 2021 #87

I'm sorry seta1950 May 2021 #88

You done your best. You both have kept it coming from a place of love. There comes ... marble falls May 2021 #89

There have been a few times that MOMFUDSKI May 2021 #90

Then why TheFarseer May 2021 #92

You have my sympathy and prayers and thank you for welcoming both into your thread Dreampuff May 2021 #93

I'm so sorry. :( Sending you a big hug, from someone in a similar situation, just haven't reached chia May 2021 #95

If your husband is attempting rationality, it won't work TrogL May 2021 #96

It's heartbreaking when someone you care about chooses fear over science dlk May 2021 #97

Same for my sister's long-time evangelical friend, BUT... Buckeye_Democrat May 2021 #102

Nothing like a good dose of reality to wake people up dlk May 2021 #128

I hope you're feeling better today lunatica May 2021 #98

My best thoughts and prayers to the Gods that be, to help you in dealing w/ this ... SWBTATTReg May 2021 #99

check out this. it might help... Javaman May 2021 #100

Healing vibes on the way! 💗💗💗 SheltieLover May 2021 #104

Not much worse than fighting with relatives lillypaddle May 2021 #106

Don't bother alotus51 May 2021 #107

So sad but he put in the effort good for him some won't come around the first time keep trying luckone May 2021 #108

I'm so sorry XanaDUer2 May 2021 #109

My sympathies. I have a similar situation. NH Ethylene May 2021 #116

Sending good vibes, it will be ok! CaptainTruth May 2021 #117

I am so sorry to hear you and your husband are going through this. crickets May 2021 #123

Two fingers of whiskey. A dollop of cool whip :) . sarcasmo May 2021 #129

Send her this (link) Beachnutt May 2021 #130

I'm sorry about this. It is always difficult when a family member PatrickforB May 2021 #134

It takes two to argue. Set boundries. Kaleva May 2021 #139