Fat shaming is deplorable and this board is littered with it.

[Hekate]

115. Probably we should keep our mouths shut so we don't inadvertently "shame" someone by accident

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Over the years, I’ve made no bones about my own struggles, how I discovered one shocking cause (a medication I was on for fibromyalgia starting at a slender age 40, that flipped a switch in my brain that turned off my lifelong ability to regulate sweets — and how I literally could feel the switch flip back on once the medication cleared my system 50+ pounds later). How I grew up with a mother who just hated herself for her body. How very early in life I decided to have nothing to do with the societal cruelty that reinforced those sad feelings in others.

That kind of thing is called personal insight. It’s not all about me.

During the years I was gaining weight and couldn’t figure out what went wrong, you bet I got shaming from my medical providers, every one of whom had a list of my medications in front of them and not one of whom could be bothered to connect the dots between the “tri-cyclic” and the woman sitting in front of them. It still pisses me off when I recall it — but not once did I confuse myself with Donald Fucking Trump.

I look at each person as a person — my friends of whatever size who are dear to me, and the person Trump is who is a murderous dictator wannabe who is also a piggish slob.

But, this is a nice, divisive thread, isn’t it? The F(at) word must be banned lest someone mistake a comment about an evil orange man as a comment about themselves. The F word must be banned lest someone feel the S(hame) word that is directed toward a sociopath who has no S word at all, is somehow intended toward them personally. No, no it isn’t.

I get a vibe off this thread almost like the “let’s all kick DiFi” thread earlier today: it’s not only not helping, it’s counterproductive.