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102. You did try!

Tue Aug 3, 2021, 11:53 PM

Aug 2021

Respect!

Here's my too-long story: hubby bought me a small 25 Beretta handgun because he thought I could be in danger working in a field construction trailer. He was right! One evening after everyone had left & I was gathering my things, one roughneck employee knocked & told me his time chart wasn't correct. My error was that I had not yet locked the door. Smelling alcohol & suspecting something was up, I sat behind my desk & put my hand inside my purse. As he too quickly made his intentions obvious, I put the gun in his face, holding it with both hands. Never been so scared in my life! The guy immediately left & I immediately called the cops. He was picked up & charged with drunk driving & spent the weekend in jail. His wife, I was told, refused his bail. He was fired. (So yes, I carried & was glad I did.) Why do some men think they can do these things?!

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OK retired DUers - how did you handle sexual harassment back in the day [View all] malaise Aug 2021 OP

I called them on it every time. no_hypocrisy Aug 2021 #1

Hit you? malaise Aug 2021 #4

Yeah, a hard whack on the upper arm without warning. no_hypocrisy Aug 2021 #31

The first time I was 14. DURHAM D Aug 2021 #2

Good malaise Aug 2021 #47

Hugs to Dad! That's the way you do it! 2Gingersnaps Aug 2021 #91

I guess I have been very lucky Betty88 Aug 2021 #95

I got sexually harassed every day at work and school in the 80s and 90s liberal_mama Aug 2021 #3

This message was self-deleted by its author malaise Aug 2021 #6

Damn that was tough malaise Aug 2021 #7

Words are inadequate. I hope that you are healing. Know that your DU family is here niyad Aug 2021 #11

... Aristus Aug 2021 #14

Thank you for speaking up here Bucky Aug 2021 #84

My sister was 13, we were in foster care, our remaining parent, our Dad had died less 2Gingersnaps Aug 2021 #88

You did try! Duppers Aug 2021 #102

I'm very, very sorry. lindysalsagal Aug 2021 #107

I also had a co-worker that came up behind me DURHAM D Aug 2021 #5

Good malaise Aug 2021 #9

Thank God there was a "right person!" 2Gingersnaps Aug 2021 #92

As a young man, I worked in an office with some ladies that thought grabbing my ass was funny. Midnight Writer Aug 2021 #8

We don't discuss that other sexual harassment malaise Aug 2021 #10

I think it might be because young men often like the attention and don't feel physically at risk. GulfCoast66 Aug 2021 #35

You're one of the good guys malaise Aug 2021 #48

One does ones best. Been with the wife for 34 years! GulfCoast66 Aug 2021 #51

Thank you, we know you guys are out there and some of us deeply appreciate it. 2Gingersnaps Aug 2021 #93

It's nothing my church did that made me a freethinker. GulfCoast66 Aug 2021 #94

I Called Other Men On It ProfessorGAC Aug 2021 #12

Somehow I knew you'd be that guy malaise Aug 2021 #24

Once I became a manager I've fired men over it. GulfCoast66 Aug 2021 #101

I duck taped a recorder to my chest Mary in S. Carolina Aug 2021 #13

Wonderful malaise Aug 2021 #25

This message was self-deleted by its author malaise Aug 2021 #26

Awesome!!!! lindysalsagal Aug 2021 #109

hmm.... bdamomma Aug 2021 #128

In my state, recorders not allowed as evidence Mary in S. Carolina Aug 2021 #131

I worked at a large corporation Deuxcents Aug 2021 #15

I always looked the other way or laughed it off. Dream Girl Aug 2021 #16

Awful malaise Aug 2021 #76

Awful malaise Aug 2021 #77

Gave it back to them Politicalgolfer Aug 2021 #17

oh goodness,,,, not well,,,, KarenS Aug 2021 #18

You survived in a tough environment malaise Aug 2021 #38

You survived in a tough environment malaise Aug 2021 #39

Many years ago, a friend and I were having a drink after work. One of our coworkers niyad Aug 2021 #19

That usually works malaise Aug 2021 #33

Someone I worked for tried to grab me by the boobs HipChick Aug 2021 #20

Same here malaise Aug 2021 #34

I was never bdamomma Aug 2021 #129

Racheting Cable cutter... haele Aug 2021 #21

This message was self-deleted by its author malaise Aug 2021 #27

THIS malaise Aug 2021 #28

Sometimes I get pushback: LakeArenal Aug 2021 #22

Girl you covered the field but the penis pump malaise Aug 2021 #29

Exactly. LakeArenal Aug 2021 #50

I think the difference between then and now could be Laura PourMeADrink Aug 2021 #130

In my mid-20s, a high-level executive of the company I worked for at the time greatauntoftriplets Aug 2021 #23

Damn - that's creepy malaise Aug 2021 #30

This asshole got his revenge on me too. greatauntoftriplets Aug 2021 #32

Good grief malaise Aug 2021 #36

That poor woman. She should have been pro union. greatauntoftriplets Aug 2021 #40

The last laugh is often the sweetest malaise Aug 2021 #41

I was looking around before they fired me. greatauntoftriplets Aug 2021 #42

This message was self-deleted by its author malaise Aug 2021 #37

when I found my locker papered with Playboy centerfolds Skittles Aug 2021 #43

Bwaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah malaise Aug 2021 #49

AMATEURS Skittles Aug 2021 #59

You are brilliant!!! lindysalsagal Aug 2021 #113

you know what really bothered me? Skittles Aug 2021 #121

I dumped a beer in his lap LiberalBrooke Aug 2021 #44

Good malaise Aug 2021 #89

Good malaise Aug 2021 #90

A flasher opened his coat LiberalBrooke Aug 2021 #45

My response was.. luvs2sing Aug 2021 #61

"it looks like a penis, only smaller!" Skittles Aug 2021 #64

I used that line on the RR train musette_sf Aug 2021 #87

K&R spanone Aug 2021 #46

Told them I was straight. Let's face 9 times out 10 if there's a sexual harrassment it was ... marble falls Aug 2021 #52

I was never against consensual banter malaise Aug 2021 #55

I had no taste for locker room talk, not even in the locker room. Polite and light. marble falls Aug 2021 #60

Wow. lindysalsagal Aug 2021 #106

Men are craven for the most part. Even with each other. marble falls Aug 2021 #119

Mostly was successful by ignoring them treestar Aug 2021 #53

Right out of college I worked for Merrill Lynch kimbutgar Aug 2021 #54

I am color blind when you're a scumbag malaise Aug 2021 #57

I learned how to deal with men.. luvs2sing Aug 2021 #56

Wow - that was fascinating malaise Aug 2021 #62

My mom used to laugh at the man and say, "Not a chance in the world!" twin_ghost Aug 2021 #58

SHe must know my favorite aunt malaise Aug 2021 #63

That is what I did. Raftergirl Aug 2021 #65

As a new hospital RN (I was 28), I had a doctor put his hand on my knee TNNurse Aug 2021 #66

That is the best way to deal with them - up front malaise Aug 2021 #69

If I had been 21 not sure I could have. TNNurse Aug 2021 #78

Doesn't have to be retired. Blue_true Aug 2021 #67

A little help from a friend. TygrBright Aug 2021 #68

Whatever works malaise Aug 2021 #70

This message was self-deleted by its author malaise Aug 2021 #71

Live with it Bear Creek Aug 2021 #72

Brute Force! TFRD Aug 2021 #73

So here's a funny one hurple Aug 2021 #74

Some folks can be such scumbags malaise Aug 2021 #82

I have to admit... hurple Aug 2021 #96

LOL malaise Aug 2021 #97

As a single mom no child support Tree Lady Aug 2021 #75

Just another scumbag malaise Aug 2021 #83

I quit one summer job. femmedem Aug 2021 #79

It is much harder when you really need the job and have kids to feed malaise Aug 2021 #85

I put up with it from the late 60s until the corporation decided to sinkingfeeling Aug 2021 #80

50- 1 malaise Aug 2021 #86

I was fortunate to work for a global 100 company MLAA Aug 2021 #81

My crazy grandma was a shipyard welder during World War II. hunter Aug 2021 #98

They were clearly way ahead of their time malaise Aug 2021 #104

One of the few benefits of being ugly. KentuckyWoman Aug 2021 #99

If they touched me canetoad Aug 2021 #100

In 1970 I would quit Wicked Blue Aug 2021 #103

Glad the second scumbag was fired malaise Aug 2021 #110

The first one was a veterinarian Wicked Blue Aug 2021 #125

My ex-wife (17 years together) worked for a few months MineralMan Aug 2021 #105

At least you did get tot he point malaise Aug 2021 #111

At least you did get tot he point malaise Aug 2021 #112

This message was self-deleted by its author hamsterjill Aug 2021 #108

Your daddy was correct malaise Aug 2021 #114

Twice I had to deal with it... Ohio Joe Aug 2021 #115

If we had more folks at the top like you malaise Aug 2021 #118

A big ugly guy at work took something expensive of mine. I told him to give it back. He threatened t lindysalsagal Aug 2021 #116

I thought this thread might trigger some forgotten memories Nittersing Aug 2021 #117

You were lucky malaise Aug 2021 #122

Mostly I ignored it Meowmee Aug 2021 #120

I shut down, sometimes for days at at time, and eventually quit my job if it doesn't stop. meadowlander Aug 2021 #123

I grew up without a father and my mother was fairly tough BUT I still wasn't prepared... Phentex Aug 2021 #124

Few of us are prepared malaise Aug 2021 #127

I was 22 Silver Swan Aug 2021 #126