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SunSeeker

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105. Of course it is not disrespectful to say your brother has kids.

Sun Sep 5, 2021, 12:52 AM

Sep 2021

You're not announcing your brother "had" (i.e. gave birth to) a baby.

Just like it would not have been disrespectful for the OP to say "the Buttigiegs have twins!" But instead, the OP said the Buttigiegs "had twins!" , rather than how Pete described the birth of the twins, and thus erased the involvement of a woman from the process of the birth of a baby.

With what is going on in Texas, we should be a little more thoughtful about how we use our language with regard to reproduction. Pete certainly is.

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The Buttigiegs had twins! [View all] Mosby Sep 2021 OP

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Awwww MissB Sep 2021 #2

Wow... Hard to adopt newborns at all, but twins....! How fortunate they are. hlthe2b Sep 2021 #3

Yes, they worked with a surrogate TexasBushwhacker Sep 2021 #96

awwwww i cant wait to watch them grow up..... samnsara Sep 2021 #4

Penelope Rose and Joseph August Buttigieg 🥂 Budi Sep 2021 #5

Awww StarryNite Sep 2021 #6

awww. i wanted twins so bad, even tho it terrified me. mopinko Sep 2021 #7

I have older brothers (74) who are twins. Mr.Bill Sep 2021 #97

My sisters are twins Retrograde Sep 2021 #109

i had a pair of twin cousins. mopinko Sep 2021 #115

I'm a twin and wanted twins with my first pregnancy in the worst way... Pacifist Patriot Sep 2021 #116

my 4th kid mopinko Sep 2021 #117

I just saw this on Instagram and my heart exploded with happiness for them zeusdogmom Sep 2021 #8

Those kiddos are going to have an awesome life! hamsterjill Sep 2021 #9

They sure will! SheltieLover Sep 2021 #11

Pete will be challenged cilla4progress Sep 2021 #10

I was thinking that! catrose Sep 2021 #21

I think it will give Chasten purpose while Pete is so busy. femmedem Sep 2021 #84

Infant twins in DC, 2 dogs, 1 (high-paying) job, elleng Sep 2021 #99

I read he was working, but that was ages ago. Treefrog Sep 2021 #121

Right? That's what I was thinking... msfiddlestix Sep 2021 #120

Double Joy!! FM123 Sep 2021 #12

CONGRATULATIONS TO THE NEW FAMILY!!! pazzyanne Sep 2021 #13

OMG wryter2000 Sep 2021 #14

That is wonderful news! brer cat Sep 2021 #15

Congrats to the Buttigieg's! Bayard Sep 2021 #16

That is such a beautiful picture the eye to eye. LizBeth Sep 2021 #17

So happy for the sweet family! MoonRiver Sep 2021 #18

Awwwwwwwwwwww... calimary Sep 2021 #19

The Happy Couple Just Outgrew Their 1 Bedroom Apartment in DC. Indykatie Sep 2021 #20

Congrats! 💖🥰😘😍 (I'm not crying! You're crying!) NurseJackie Sep 2021 #22

Anti-Adoption brigade? StarfishSaver Sep 2021 #25

Who do you think? OrangeJoe Sep 2021 #83

Read Nurse Jackie's post again StarfishSaver Sep 2021 #85

Yep. We had people on du saying not too long ago that marriage equality was a "pony" Hassin Bin Sober Sep 2021 #90

I will repeat what I have previously said. StevieM Sep 2021 #48

No, it's a better life. So much better. Better than you'll ever know or can imagine. NurseJackie Sep 2021 #53

I guess I didn't need to ask about the "anti-adoption brigade." I should have just waited StarfishSaver Sep 2021 #94

Unfortunately That's Not Always True Jim G. Sep 2021 #74

Thank you for sharing. It's sad for me to realize that some folks online... NurseJackie Sep 2021 #88

Adoption does sometimes provide a better life StarfishSaver Sep 2021 #93

Of course it's hostile radical noodle Sep 2021 #111

I remember that radical noodle Sep 2021 #110

Congrats to the proud dads! Politicub Sep 2021 #23

AWESOME!!!! Upthevibe Sep 2021 #24

Matching salt and pepper shakers. How adorable! tblue37 Sep 2021 #26

Message auto-removed Name removed Sep 2021 #27

If they had a surrogate then they are biological parents PortTack Sep 2021 #30

Some happy news..pretty scarce these days PortTack Sep 2021 #28

A woman had twins. cbabe Sep 2021 #29

You can do better kcr Sep 2021 #32

Agree! mountain grammy Sep 2021 #35

There is "nothing wrong" with the OP? How about the fact it misspelled Buttigieg? SunSeeker Sep 2021 #36

Right. Because people who struggle with grammar and spelling kcr Sep 2021 #38

This message was self-deleted by its author kcr Sep 2021 #40

Pete Buttigieg and his family deserve to have their name spelled correctly. SunSeeker Sep 2021 #43

They deserve to have their status as a family respected even more n/t kcr Sep 2021 #47

Who is disrespecting their status as a family? SunSeeker Sep 2021 #50

Why the need to "correct" their announcement? kcr Sep 2021 #54

It was the OP who "corrected" the announcement. SunSeeker Sep 2021 #56

Well, now, I don't know kcr Sep 2021 #58

The OP should have used the wording Pete used. SunSeeker Sep 2021 #59

I edited. Sorry about the spelling. Mosby Sep 2021 #63

You are making a mountain out of an anthill Moebym Sep 2021 #67

Nobody is saying name the woman. SunSeeker Sep 2021 #69

I'm guessing it was a play on the picture they used kcr Sep 2021 #72

No. It's expecting people to use Pete's own words. SunSeeker Sep 2021 #78

This message was self-deleted by its author pinkstarburst Sep 2021 #70

His name is right in the tweet. Not that tricky. SunSeeker Sep 2021 #79

As a retired teacher of the dyslexic, I don't ever judge someone else's spelling. summer_in_TX Sep 2021 #106

I don't see any evidence the OP is dyslexic. They have corrected the misspelling. nt SunSeeker Sep 2021 #108

I have a feeling many Americans look down on people who make spelling mistakes. summer_in_TX Sep 2021 #123

Message auto-removed Name removed Sep 2021 #124

Birth mothers are not breeding mules. StevieM Sep 2021 #44

And straw men aren't actually made of straw kcr Sep 2021 #46

My tears are reserved for birth mothers who are in pain. StevieM Sep 2021 #51

Nope. I'm sorry. kcr Sep 2021 #57

I can't speak for every single poster on this thread. But I can speak for myself. StevieM Sep 2021 #62

Then with all due respect kcr Sep 2021 #65

This is ridiculous, isn't it? StarfishSaver Sep 2021 #87

An open adoption is not "the right thing" for everyone StarfishSaver Sep 2021 #86

I was thinking the same thing. nt SunSeeker Sep 2021 #37

Thank you for pointing this out. StevieM Sep 2021 #41

Oh, please. ShazzieB Sep 2021 #89

Many women who sign the papers are in dire circumstances and don't have much of a choice. StevieM Sep 2021 #98

Right? Some comments here are ridiculous mdelaguna Sep 2021 #114

I have not seen details - Ms. Toad Sep 2021 #42

Regardless of who the biological father was, the woman still had the babies. SunSeeker Sep 2021 #49

I wasn't that picky when I was the pregnant one Ms. Toad Sep 2021 #52

Sorry, that's ridiculous. meadowlander Sep 2021 #102

Respecting women is not ridiculous. As Pete said, they're "becoming parents." SunSeeker Sep 2021 #103

The magic of the English language is that there is more than one way to say something. meadowlander Sep 2021 #104

Of course it is not disrespectful to say your brother has kids. SunSeeker Sep 2021 #105

It was adoption riverwalker Sep 2021 #76

The woman who changed her mind was never a birth mother. StevieM Sep 2021 #80

Dafuq is this response? Music Man Sep 2021 #61

Nothing like shitting on a celebration n/t FreeState Sep 2021 #64

Yes. I have used the ignore button on 2 people in this thread. Boomerproud Sep 2021 #68

Yep it's an FreeState Sep 2021 #73

Cbabe... Upthevibe Sep 2021 #119

Easy search Buttigieg adoption. cbabe Sep 2021 #122

FABULOUS! elleng Sep 2021 #31

That's so adorbs! ananda Sep 2021 #33

This message was self-deleted by its author SunSeeker Sep 2021 #34

Lovely! Hekate Sep 2021 #39

How delightful! Jilly_in_VA Sep 2021 #45

Hubby just came back from walking the dog, & said Awwwww, when I showed him this picture... Hekate Sep 2021 #55

What a pleasant surprise! Moebym Sep 2021 #60

That should read, GoCubsGo Sep 2021 #66

Thank you for the editing, finally. Treefrog Sep 2021 #71

Excellent news! Tiger8 Sep 2021 #75

Lucky kids, they will have a wonderful life with these parents! secondwind Sep 2021 #77

Cute couple. tblue37 Sep 2021 #81

wonderful!!! markie Sep 2021 #82

Ode to Joy! Botany Sep 2021 #91

That pic is too adorbs for words! 🥰 ShazzieB Sep 2021 #92

Congratulations MustLoveBeagles Sep 2021 #95

I'd like to know how they came up with the names for their babies. RicROC Sep 2021 #100

I wondered about Joseph's name, too. 😊 ShazzieB Sep 2021 #112

Family name Crepuscular Sep 2021 #118

Awww! What a lovely photo of the new family! smirkymonkey Sep 2021 #101

Message auto-removed Name removed Sep 2021 #107

Awwww! BlancheSplanchnik Sep 2021 #113