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niyad

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38. Years ago, I was dining with a friend at a very nice, semi-upscale restaurant. My friend

Mon Sep 13, 2021, 01:54 PM

Sep 2021

was early 30's, I was early 20's. Our server (probably mid 20's) came over, and said, "and what can I get you girls started with?" I replied, "To start with, you can stop disrespecting your elders. Do you say "boys" when you are talking to older men?" He sputtered for a few seconds, then tried to say it was only because we both looked so young, which did not get the intended reaction.

To be fair, after that we got excellent, attentive service, and free dessert. He was tipped well.

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AOC fires back at Manchin after he refers to her as 'young lady' [View all] Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Sep 2021 OP

✊ Deuxcents Sep 2021 #1

Love you AOC malaise Sep 2021 #2

This message was self-deleted by its author malaise Sep 2021 #3

His patronizing and condescending attitude is readily reconizable by most women. hlthe2b Sep 2021 #4

I love it Diamond_Dog Sep 2021 #5

She is not wrong. irisblue Sep 2021 #6

and if she called him azureblue Sep 2021 #50

Aren't male representatives addressed as "gentleman" Klaralven Sep 2021 #7

so? He did not refer her to as the gentlewoman from New York Sanity Claws Sep 2021 #14

THIS Ferrets are Cool Sep 2021 #19

Also used by angry parents toward wnylib Sep 2021 #80

I recently addressed someone as "young lady" Fortinbras Armstrong Sep 2021 #100

And it is "Gentlewoman" for the women members. You know this, and you know niyad Sep 2021 #15

word. KG Sep 2021 #17

By referring to her as "Young Lady" he was subtlety expressing his perceived dominance over her. Fla Dem Sep 2021 #42

THIS malaise Sep 2021 #55

"She is his equal" No she isn't. A HERETIC I AM Sep 2021 #64

Ha -you are correct malaise Sep 2021 #65

Ha -you are correct malaise Sep 2021 #66

Not so subtle to the recipient, more like a sledge hammer. NH Ethylene Sep 2021 #67

Nothing subtle about it. meadowlander Sep 2021 #74

In some cultures such a title must be earned by actions worthy of the distinction. A shame indeed Ford_Prefect Sep 2021 #20

Yes they are. Caliman73 Sep 2021 #113

Manchin's moment in the spotlight is revealing a lot about him Walleye Sep 2021 #8

None of it good. Surprised he hasn't already switched parties. KentuckyWoman Sep 2021 #22

No he's enjoying his power too much. And he would be pretty liberal for a Republican believe it or n Walleye Sep 2021 #26

Exactly. He has all the power now. yardwork Sep 2021 #39

PAST! AKwannabe Sep 2021 #88

Wish Rebl2 Sep 2021 #9

Old Man Chin . . . (nt) Richard D Sep 2021 #41

It would probably go over his head. littlemissmartypants Sep 2021 #43

Good for her. Solly Mack Sep 2021 #10

Chauvinistic Males marieo1 Sep 2021 #11

☝️ Walleye Sep 2021 #28

They should still be called out on it every time. NH Ethylene Sep 2021 #68

Many call here all sorts of things...but one thing for sure ... ashredux Sep 2021 #12

Chauvinistic Males marieo1 Sep 2021 #13

I also find it patronizing when someone calls an older woman "young lady." Native Sep 2021 #16

Some 30-something male called me that last week. I'm 68. SharonClark Sep 2021 #27

Years ago, I was dining with a friend at a very nice, semi-upscale restaurant. My friend niyad Sep 2021 #38

I was just thinking about that. Delmette2.0 Sep 2021 #36

I get that kind of patronizing treatment wnylib Sep 2021 #81

Cultural chasms misanthrope Sep 2021 #82

I might see it that way if I were in the South. wnylib Sep 2021 #86

A former doctor once called me "young lady". MetalMama Sep 2021 #70

If for only this alone... Ferrets are Cool Sep 2021 #18

Glad she fired back Bettie Sep 2021 #21

It was worse in my younger days. KentuckyWoman Sep 2021 #23

The story was well told in the movie Tootsie Walleye Sep 2021 #29

LOL! lunatica Sep 2021 #60

I have done it to my children Bettie Sep 2021 #63

My daughter never feared me no matter what I called her! ShazzieB Sep 2021 #72

You know, with three boys Bettie Sep 2021 #73

I knew I was in trouble when my mother used my middle name dflprincess Sep 2021 #77

I think it is Bettie Sep 2021 #94

I bet they still know they're in trouble though! lunatica Sep 2021 #109

Calling a 31 year old woman young lady is a choice . . . Sympthsical Sep 2021 #24

I am astonished that most news stories identify subjects by age. Thunderbeast Sep 2021 #25

It's 2021 Joe Manchin. Niagara Sep 2021 #30

I agree with her, except for the last part Polybius Sep 2021 #31

Since many people refer to their male parent as " the old man", do you see that niyad Sep 2021 #33

He's not her parent Polybius Sep 2021 #85

no it isn't qazplm135 Sep 2021 #35

Sure it is Polybius Sep 2021 #84

that's a ridiculous comment qazplm135 Sep 2021 #108

I'm not old enough to say young lady, nor will I likely ever say it Polybius Sep 2021 #110

Nonsense reply qazplm135 Sep 2021 #111

Yet you replied to it Polybius Sep 2021 #121

riiight qazplm135 Sep 2021 #122

Young is is good, most of us wish we were younger Polybius Sep 2021 #124

Fossil Fuel Manchin. Tommymac Sep 2021 #32

The old man is a putz and a plant blowing carbon smoke out his ass, Magoo48 Sep 2021 #46

He cares about his own ethically challenged daughter. Tommymac Sep 2021 #53

I actually do respond like that. Susan Calvin Sep 2021 #34

Hahahaha tavernier Sep 2021 #54

My Wife Does That ProfessorGAC Sep 2021 #58

Wait... are we married? tavernier Sep 2021 #62

Mine is darlin'.. niyad Sep 2021 #95

Give em hell congresswoman! jcgoldie Sep 2021 #37

Daddy Smogbucks says what?? Pinback Sep 2021 #40

I love her. She takes no shit from anyone. jalan48 Sep 2021 #44

A doctor once addressed me as "young lady" BlueSky3 Sep 2021 #45

I have an equally dismissive term for Manchin BradAllison Sep 2021 #47

I have been called "young lady" thousands of time in my life mrsadm Sep 2021 #48

MANCHIN is horrible and he MUST appolige to the Congresswoman Trueblue1968 Sep 2021 #49

This message was self-deleted by its author ExTex Sep 2021 #51

Good for you, Congresswoman! crickets Sep 2021 #52

Calls for a little Kathyrn Hepburn whistler162 Sep 2021 #56

Now you've done it. twodogsbarking Sep 2021 #98

Good for her StarfishSaver Sep 2021 #57

K&R Blue Owl Sep 2021 #59

'Old men' ignore her at their own risk. LanternWaste Sep 2021 #61

Condescending Ass. spanone Sep 2021 #69

Exactly mdelaguna Sep 2021 #92

Here he is using "young man" cardonay Sep 2021 #115

nice try. spanone Sep 2021 #117

What's the difference between canetoad Sep 2021 #119

According to your own personal dictionary? cardonay Sep 2021 #123

🙄 NurseJackie Sep 2021 #71

Yet you have not. /nt tonedevil Sep 2021 #89

Oh, look! What a surprise. 🙄 NurseJackie Sep 2021 #93

Sexism needs to be called out every single time. Period. niyad Sep 2021 #101

The words "young lady" hardly rise to that level, IMHO. NurseJackie Sep 2021 #102

And that refusal to see sexism where it exists is part of the reason we still have niyad Sep 2021 #104

No it doesn't. NurseJackie Sep 2021 #105

'He sneered, she growled' The Magistrate Sep 2021 #114

Here's Manchin calling a young man "young man" cardonay Sep 2021 #112

Is he a member of Congress? qazplm135 Sep 2021 #125

This message was self-deleted by its author ExTex Sep 2021 #106

DIYD, DIYD. NurseJackie Sep 2021 #107

Lol, Joe says thanks. BGBD Sep 2021 #75

Wow. You have no problem with his blatant sexism? And you equate her with the f'n niyad Sep 2021 #96

Interesting observations. NurseJackie Sep 2021 #103

Don't worry, there will be plenty of people who come to 48656c6c6f20 Sep 2021 #76

+1 Celerity Sep 2021 #79

Post 75. niyad Sep 2021 #97

Reading through the Twitter thread dflprincess Sep 2021 #78

The replies are toxic nt mdelaguna Sep 2021 #91

Women too. Here also Arazi Sep 2021 #116

This reminds me of All the sexist remarks from Dr.s I worked with in the 70-80's. flying_wahini Sep 2021 #83

Next time you see him... in the halls AKwannabe Sep 2021 #87

she is far too intelligent and classy to ever do something like that Celerity Sep 2021 #90

He won't get it. twodogsbarking Sep 2021 #99

Manchin sucks budkin Sep 2021 #118

Spot on. gldstwmn Sep 2021 #120