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wnylib

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22. It's not uncommon for an abused

Mon Sep 20, 2021, 06:06 PM

Sep 2021

woman to blame herself for many possible reasons. She might fear retaliation if she tells the truth. She might be conditioned by upbringing to believe that a good relationship is a woman's responsibility. So if he gets angry enough to hit her, she thinks that she did something wrong to upset him. If she has become emotionally or financially dependent on him as a result of intimidation through abuse, she will act like a person experiencing Stockholm Syndrome and try to protect him.

Abuse can really mess up your mind in the hands of a skilled narcisist.

(Been there, many years ago, and God help the guy who ever tries it on me again.)

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Gabby Petito: The original police interview, Cops failed her. Laundrie hit & slapped her. [View all] Budi Sep 2021 OP

This is so damned inexcusable. Jirel Sep 2021 #1

Had they called in a female cop trained in dv & listened to Gabby's story, she would have been .... Budi Sep 2021 #4

So who thinks these cops don't beat women themselves malaise Sep 2021 #2

Narcissism is more common than one thinks & it is accepted & covered up by the same Budi Sep 2021 #5

You know what makes me even sicker malaise Sep 2021 #6

It is the twisted manipulation of a narcissist that controlled the outcome of the cop call. Budi Sep 2021 #11

And there are dozens of victims daily across the planet malaise Sep 2021 #13

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Good point because Ma and Pa allowed him to live at home with her malaise Sep 2021 #27

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He could be on a beach in Mobay malaise Sep 2021 #39

Police did separate them after the fight. LisaL Sep 2021 #30

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That fight was 2 weeks before her mother last spoke to her. LisaL Sep 2021 #38

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This message was self-deleted by its author malaise Sep 2021 #7

+1 2naSalit Sep 2021 #9

Yup. The narcissist will always convince you that it's your fault. Always. Budi Sep 2021 #14

Right? Not even 2M people in all of Montana PLUS Wyoming. Maru Kitteh Sep 2021 #43

It's not uncommon for an abused wnylib Sep 2021 #22

Sad malaise Sep 2021 #23

Hey, no self violence, either! wnylib Sep 2021 #37

Bingo! I believe that's it. Nt LittleGirl Sep 2021 #24

Any half hour of television will quickly teach you Maru Kitteh Sep 2021 #46

This message was self-deleted by its author malaise Sep 2021 #3

i recently found out that in some chicago's suburbs, if you call in a dv, that person must to jail. mopinko Sep 2021 #8

... 2naSalit Sep 2021 #10

the process of determining female sanity is about like reading chicken entrails if you ask me. still mopinko Sep 2021 #12

I really can't argue with that... 2naSalit Sep 2021 #36

So many people on social media calling her the abuser obamanut2012 Sep 2021 #15

She was only 22 yrs old. Just starting out into adulthood. Budi Sep 2021 #16

The cops said she was the offender Deuxcents Sep 2021 #17

"Maybe he'll meet up with an alligator and put this all to rest." Budi Sep 2021 #19

Why doesn't the truth come out FIRST??? Karma13612 Sep 2021 #18

If I am following this correctly Zeitghost Sep 2021 #41

Since the police clearly falsified their report cate94 Sep 2021 #20

It's not just twisted, it's archaic. wnylib Sep 2021 #29

You are right cate94 Sep 2021 #57

The friend was a couple years older than I was wnylib Sep 2021 #60

It'd be interesting to know what the dispatcher told the police Sympthsical Sep 2021 #21

How long are those dispatchers trained? LittleGirl Sep 2021 #25

fuck TallMike Sep 2021 #28

Only IF he really is in Florida. I think that wnylib Sep 2021 #34

I don't believe he is in Florida or even on US Soil.. Pachamama Sep 2021 #58

This message was self-deleted by its author Chin music Sep 2021 #35

Just finished watching the Karma13612 Sep 2021 #33

The cops in Utah dropped the ball. Treefrog Sep 2021 #42

The cops in Utah Karma13612 Sep 2021 #56

Well... 2naSalit Sep 2021 #40

Yeah, this really helps explain things. honest.abe Sep 2021 #44

I have only seen one reference to this on TV today. I hope senseandsensibility Sep 2021 #45

He had bite and scratch marks she had none. Tribetime Sep 2021 #47

He had a mark on his hand and told them he scratched it on a fence. boston bean Sep 2021 #50

Probably defending herself. boston bean Sep 2021 #51

If they had DV training it might wnylib Sep 2021 #52

I agree I think they made their decision on their training Tribetime Sep 2021 #53

Their PD could use some training, though. wnylib Sep 2021 #54

Anyone else see the parallels with the FBI and the US Women's Gymnastic team?? bullwinkle428 Sep 2021 #48

The cop telling her this, I want you to listen closely very closely boston bean Sep 2021 #49

+100000 Pachamama Sep 2021 #59