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sinkingfeeling

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63. I have no guilt about my decision to have an abortion at 9 weeks. I

Mon Oct 11, 2021, 08:49 AM

Oct 2021

shed a few tears the afternoon of it, but they were more for me than the fetus. I have rarely thought about the procedure since. The father stood by me and we had an on-again/off-again relationship for decades.
I have no regrets. No guilt, and definitely, no self-flogging.

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"I'm not ashamed. I never was. I'm what abortion looks like." [View all] kpete Oct 2021 OP

Heartbreaking. The only thing with which I disagree is, "abortion is between a woman, niyad Oct 2021 #1

You're point is understood but consider this PJMcK Oct 2021 #6

You are absolutely right. A woman may wish to consult with Arkansas Granny Oct 2021 #7

Exactly! Duppers Oct 2021 #8

Yep. The woman's decision. She may get feedback and seek information from PatrickforB Oct 2021 #14

Exactly, but never unsolicited "wisdom" from ANYBODY who has no uterus! jaxexpat Oct 2021 #44

This message was self-deleted by its author sl8 Oct 2021 #2

I wonder if it is verifiable. thesquanderer Oct 2021 #10

There are thousands of women with the same story. They could sinkingfeeling Oct 2021 #11

This message was self-deleted by its author sl8 Oct 2021 #16

Mine was from 1987. dhol82 Oct 2021 #62

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KnR!! sarchasm Oct 2021 #3

Kick and recommend. bronxiteforever Oct 2021 #4

And still the people who want to outlaw this seem to think it's a fun thing that women Vinca Oct 2021 #5

Heartbreaking. What a brave woman. Joinfortmill Oct 2021 #9

Evangelicals...Walk a mile in someone's shoes before making blanket judgements. paleotn Oct 2021 #12

"I'm not ashamed. I never was. I'm what abortion looks like." markie Oct 2021 #13

Exactly drmeow Oct 2021 #17

THIS!!! calimary Oct 2021 #61

I honestly do not care why anyone gets an abortion. Sharing trauma shouldn't have to be a WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2021 #18

Exactly. niyad Oct 2021 #21

My nephew died in-vitro in '91 LittleGirl Oct 2021 #19

"I begged to be put under" Dukkha Oct 2021 #20

The guilt and self-flogging lasts a lifetime. LakeArenal Oct 2021 #22

For some people, not others. For many people it's a pretty easy decision. WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2021 #23

I know of no one that thought it was easy. LakeArenal Oct 2021 #24

Are we talking about the same thing? Male politicians talking about how easy it is to decide WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2021 #25

I guess not. I don't understand how anyone moves on free of guilt. LakeArenal Oct 2021 #26

Some people do get abortions because it's inconvenient for them to be pregnant at that WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2021 #28

Who are these women you speak of. LakeArenal Oct 2021 #34

I had an abortion. Demobrat Oct 2021 #39

People who don't want to be pregnant anymore and then aren't. WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2021 #40

I hear what you're saying, BUT, you know. jaxexpat Oct 2021 #45

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Perhaps, instead of talking about "the most difficult decision," soldierant Oct 2021 #48

But it's not necessarily "the most consequential decision." How can anyone say that for someone WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2021 #49

Thank you for your comments in this thread, WhiskeyGrinder. ShazzieB Oct 2021 #60

What I have a problem with are things like "most" people think or do.... LakeArenal Oct 2021 #57

The only reason someone would feel guilt Mariana Oct 2021 #29

"The only reason someone would feel guilt" markie Oct 2021 #31

Great point Thanks. LakeArenal Oct 2021 #33

Hmmm this is just not my experience. Yours seems completely different. LakeArenal Oct 2021 #32

I have no guilt about my decision to have an abortion at 9 weeks. I sinkingfeeling Oct 2021 #63

Great ... Easy peasy. LakeArenal Oct 2021 #64

I have never doubted my moral decision. Wonder what you would have done if sinkingfeeling Oct 2021 #66

You are the one who feels fine about it. LakeArenal Oct 2021 #67

Powerful! keithbvadu2 Oct 2021 #27

If a woman does not get to decide what happens to her body, she is not free. BeckyDem Oct 2021 #30

Absolutely correct and this is the diverdownjt Oct 2021 #36

Totally agree. BeckyDem Oct 2021 #37

We had a similar situation... son and daughter-in-law.... albacore Oct 2021 #35

what I don't get is--no exception for rape or incest!! If you are strong enough demigoddess Oct 2021 #38

I'm as pro-abortion as they come and I don't understand this argument, tbh. WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2021 #41

What a very odd and detached thing to say Hekate Oct 2021 #43

Help me out. CW -- rape scenario. WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2021 #46

"with the help of family members and after graduating..." Ilsa Oct 2021 #51

I do believe you, because I know it happens. WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2021 #52

Thank you. We can wish for everyone to be emotionally healthy. Ilsa Oct 2021 #56

I get it, Ilsa. ShazzieB Oct 2021 #58

Amen. nt Ilsa Oct 2021 #69

My dad is a doctor Demobrat Oct 2021 #68

Lmaooooo WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2021 #70

Can you not imagine what it would be like Demobrat Oct 2021 #50

But if the person who is pregnant decides with full support to bear and keep the child, is that WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2021 #53

You are describing a rainbows and unicorns scenario. Demobrat Oct 2021 #54

I mean, it does happen. WhiskeyGrinder Oct 2021 #55

Choice. Between woman and doctor. LakeArenal Oct 2021 #65

In the dark days before Roe, that & life of the mother,was the universal exception, as far as I know Hekate Oct 2021 #42

Dr Tiller - NotANeocon Oct 2021 #59