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Hortensis

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44. :) THIS, and as others have said similarly. Make your wife happy

Sun Dec 26, 2021, 09:25 PM

Dec 2021

with your behavior around her relatives (surely the most important thing for both of you?) by modeling your behavior around them on someone who is able to handle them calmly and competently.

Being accepting and forebearing with her relatives is being loyal to and supportive of her.

Absolutely do not allow their and your behavior to be a problem between you. Worst advice ever!

Becoming permanently estranged from family, while no doubt highly desirable in some cases, is a luxury for those with no duties they feel a need to fulfill and no one they're concerned about hurting by doing that. So, not an option in your case.

And remember, this will pass, or at least ease up, someday.

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My in-law family drive me mad. What advice can you give me? [View all] Doodley Dec 2021 OP

Sorry, I wouldn't have anything to do with people like that. BlackSkimmer Dec 2021 #1

That's My Take, Too ProfessorGAC Dec 2021 #4

My BP is sky high. Put me in hospital a few times. Keep taking more meds. Doodley Dec 2021 #10

Sexual intellectuals. lpbk2713 Dec 2021 #12

Sorry, I've got nothing but digital hugs to give you. alwaysinasnit Dec 2021 #2

Thank you. Doodley Dec 2021 #11

Personally Timewas Dec 2021 #3

Agreed. Keep them out of your grid space. Yikes! sarcasmo Dec 2021 #6

My wife isn't on the same page. We are already strained because of her family. Doodley Dec 2021 #8

Avoid them like the plague. Strangely, we are in the middle of an actual plague Ocelot II Dec 2021 #5

THIS 👍 I'd also like to have him cite all of his references to see who is perverting his mind. TheBlackAdder Dec 2021 #37

I'm so sorry. MLAA Dec 2021 #7

Fart spray? dchill Dec 2021 #9

Serenity now! betsuni Dec 2021 #13

If you can manage to establish a "no politics or religion at family gatherings" rule, it might help JHB Dec 2021 #14

Yes, I think that works for the young ones. Doodley Dec 2021 #16

We've had that rule Sgent Dec 2021 #50

Tell your wife you're done with the idiots, life's too short. dem4decades Dec 2021 #15

hang tight, and when the time comes, turn them into the feds for mandatory vaccination cadoman Dec 2021 #17

Ignore and avoid NewHendoLib Dec 2021 #18

First and foremost don't let it disturb your peace of mind vlyons Dec 2021 #19

But don't let them give you Covid! roody Dec 2021 #35

:) THIS, and as others have said similarly. Make your wife happy Hortensis Dec 2021 #44

It sounds to me like this is more about you and your wife than you and her family. WhiskeyGrinder Dec 2021 #20

I have some friends and relations of one of my best friends who are like that bhikkhu Dec 2021 #21

I think your friend, the one who doesn't allow political talk in the house, Haggard Celine Dec 2021 #32

The parents care and the anti science issues may be at odds Tetrachloride Dec 2021 #22

Ignorant rants drive your uncle. Family can be toxic, so IGNORE THEM! 634-5789 Dec 2021 #23

Just ask for proof. GoCubsGo Dec 2021 #24

Ask your wife to implement a ban on political talk iemanja Dec 2021 #25

Sounds like your problem is with your wife. She is caught... TreasonousBastard Dec 2021 #26

Thanks for your perceptive reply. Yes, I think we need help. Doodley Dec 2021 #30

Stay away from them Jilly_in_VA Dec 2021 #27

Thanks for the good advice. Doodley Dec 2021 #31

You have a lot of options. PTWB Dec 2021 #28

divorce lapfog_1 Dec 2021 #29

Maybe suggest that you watch a funny movie together (Don't Look Up). waterwatcher123 Dec 2021 #33

My wife lays down the law: No Politics in our house redstateblues Dec 2021 #34

You could say, roody Dec 2021 #36

Lol, right. Maybe the two of them could come up with Hortensis Dec 2021 #49

I stay away from my right-wing in-laws as much as possible. texasfiddler Dec 2021 #38

Avoid them as much as possible ibegurpard Dec 2021 #39

Although I can sympathize ForgedCrank Dec 2021 #40

Serve them hot soup. Torchlight Dec 2021 #41

Look at them, cock your head slightly, smile, and say... LuckyCharms Dec 2021 #42

If you have to be around them just don't react Buckeyeblue Dec 2021 #43

Saying it once is enough. qwlauren35 Dec 2021 #45

Don't interact, don't let them bait you ismnotwasm Dec 2021 #46

My sympathies Meowmee Dec 2021 #47

I take my kindle and find Bettie Dec 2021 #48

My family is fight club. Those ill-equipped to fight quickly remove themselves from the festivities. hunter Dec 2021 #51

Agree to disagree, don't talk about religion or politics Raine Dec 2021 #52

Cut them out like the cancer they are. I would never invite dogshit like that to pollute my life. Celerity Dec 2021 #53

For your own safety Saoirse9 Dec 2021 #54