Go on The Offensive With the Transphobes:

[Hugh_Lebowski]

11. I'm not necessarily saying they're 'in the closet' like I'm not saying 'they're actually gay'

I'm like ... (apologize in advance if TMI) I've been with guys over my lifetime. Far more women, but some guys. My 'viewing' tastes tend to shuffle, most times I like watching hetero, but I'll flip to the gay channel (or the trans channel) from time to time. I think most sex is hot, I don't care the genders involved.

But I cannot imagine LOVING ... another male. A trans-girl? Maybe, but I'm a classic example of hetero-flexible. I don't say 'Bi' because that's not quite right to me. Never had a romantic attraction to a male. Doesn't mean I wouldn't get down with one from time to time.

Thing is, I've never felt ashamed that this is 'how I am'. And part of that I'm sure is because I was raised by liberal parents, in the SF Bay Area. I also am not prone to binary thinking, which conservatives are wired for, IMHO. Right/wrong, good/evil, etc.

I imagine a great many of the extreme homo/trans phobes of the world are similar to me, but their lineage and conservative/religious upbringing leads them to feel great shame about it ... in a way I simply do not, being a liberal, raised by liberals, in a liberal area.

Being willing, and even having sex, with your same gender is not what makes you 'gay'. Gay means you fall in love with your own gender, exclusively. I'm not saying that about these phobic types. But THEY think their own interest in gay sex means they're gay (I don't think that's necessarily true obvs), and they hate it, and by extension, gay people.