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mvd

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234. I'm sorry but I still can't agree with some of this

Wed Jul 27, 2022, 12:54 AM

Jul 2022

I can not walk, period, for example. My mom has no stamina and I am not in shape and it is a dangerous path/road. Should I risk falling and getting hit? You have the right to say this but I don’t have to agree with all of this either. You either try to live or you live a bad life. I try to live ok.

I would never be judgmental of someone honestly in need. I have been here a long time (over 20 years) and never needed or asked for anything until recently. At least you really do seem to hope I get on a better path. But I choose to do it my way with the many good suggestions here. I do want to help myself badly, but not everything fits in our lives.

I have said a lot of things here are good ideas. Just go over the posts. Also you can disagree with me but please do not make up things like dishonesty or sketchiness, because it is certainly not.

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Trouble with the GoFundMe page Omaha Steve Jul 2022 #1

Thanks so much! mvd Jul 2022 #2

It seems to be working in Chrome now Omaha Steve Jul 2022 #4

This message was self-deleted by its author mvd Jul 2022 #5

I didn't have a problem with Go Fund Me - Ms. Toad Jul 2022 #18

Kick for visibility mvd Jul 2022 #3

Just wanted to add.. mvd Jul 2022 #6

Kick! CaliforniaPeggy Jul 2022 #7

Thanks Peggy! mvd Jul 2022 #13

One more kick today mvd Jul 2022 #8

Wow, again? Treefrog Jul 2022 #9

No, I never said that mvd Jul 2022 #10

We need a separate GoFundMe forum! USALiberal Jul 2022 #11

That's a good idea mvd Jul 2022 #12

One GFM last October, one in January, one in May, and now this one. I think there were some before. BlackSkimmer Jul 2022 #21

Glad i'm not the only one inthewind21 Jul 2022 #31

My elderly relatives get their social security LisaL Jul 2022 #39

Everybody I know gets it on or right after their birthday. BlackSkimmer Jul 2022 #59

Like I said it doesn't work that way for my elderly relatives. LisaL Jul 2022 #60

What Day of the Month Do I Get my Social Security Payment? Omaha Steve Jul 2022 #62

You beat me to it! n/t Ms. Toad Jul 2022 #64

My relatives presumably count into this category (age). LisaL Jul 2022 #70

Thank you. That's the way it works for me and for everyone I know. BlackSkimmer Jul 2022 #98

The other exception are payments to people living abroad. SocSec pays on the 2nd. GoneOffShore Jul 2022 #278

Here's the rule Ms. Toad Jul 2022 #63

My SS comes on the third of every month - almost a week before my birthday womanofthehills Jul 2022 #65

It does say there are exceptions to the rule Omaha Steve Jul 2022 #66

No, it's the rule. It probably takes a couple of days for it to hit the bank account. LisaL Jul 2022 #71

Mr X gets his the 3rd XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #68

Once upon a time everyone got theirs on the 3rd dflprincess Jul 2022 #220

I get mine on or around the 15th of each month. tblue37 Jul 2022 #86

Hey blackskiimmer obamanut2012 Jul 2022 #95

Mom fell tonight going up the steps mvd Jul 2022 #14

kick Hermit-The-Prog Jul 2022 #15

Morning kick mvd Jul 2022 #16

Are you getting help with your disability case? XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #17

I was going to have the hearing test when I had this tooth emergency mvd Jul 2022 #19

The process is labyrinthine XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #22

KNR niyad Jul 2022 #20

Matt, you have two "gofundme's" open right now Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #23

I pay out-of-pocket for dental insurance XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #25

The last one is done. Just have to delete it mvd Jul 2022 #26

Actually I looked it up. MY dentist accepts medicaid. I never knew. So, indeed apparently I have Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #28

And I understand that mvd Jul 2022 #29

Contacting Senior Centers XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #33

I'm always looking for advice mvd Jul 2022 #34

Go for it XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #35

I worked for county senior services just out of college, and that was ages ago. They provided a lot. BlackSkimmer Jul 2022 #36

DU has given lots of great advice mvd Jul 2022 #37

This appears to be your county. BlackSkimmer Jul 2022 #51

You don't appear to be "old" and it seems you're living off your mom's social security. BlackSkimmer Jul 2022 #30

My mom is old, not me mvd Jul 2022 #32

Here are the previous GFMs you've posted. BlackSkimmer Jul 2022 #24

The hearts? That was so little mvd Jul 2022 #27

The hearts are not "little" obamanut2012 Jul 2022 #96

I'm not demeaning the hearts themselves mvd Jul 2022 #97

I don't even have a star right now demtenjeep Jul 2022 #236

I am not sure how it makes sense to spend a lot of money on a dentist who doesn't take your LisaL Jul 2022 #38

I know this dentist well mvd Jul 2022 #40

But that is not living within your means when you don't have means. LisaL Jul 2022 #41

I understand what you mean mvd Jul 2022 #43

This message was self-deleted by its author Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #48

Mr X would give his eyeteeth XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #42

I have a lot of dental expenses recently even though I have insurance. LisaL Jul 2022 #44

New crown here XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #46

I had to have dental surgery. LisaL Jul 2022 #47

New crown here in NM $225 with local hospital (Presbyterian) senior plan womanofthehills Jul 2022 #156

I sure would like to find one mvd Jul 2022 #45

Since you're both in a tight spot XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #49

Yes, but I have calculated with my mom's lawyer.. mvd Jul 2022 #50

Again, contact your county. Here: BlackSkimmer Jul 2022 #52

Not bewildering - just hard to know where to start mvd Jul 2022 #53

Why hasn't your mother's attorney been involved? Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #54

He focuses on the foreclosure mvd Jul 2022 #58

Ummmm inthewind21 Jul 2022 #138

Try to create an account on social security XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #56

One can lose medicaid benefits if one sells the house. LisaL Jul 2022 #55

Ah, good to know XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #57

One more kick for today mvd Jul 2022 #61

Almost to half my goal mvd Jul 2022 #67

After this, getting more income is so important mvd Jul 2022 #69

Have you tried food pantries? XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #72

Mom already qualifies for and gets SNAP mvd Jul 2022 #73

Well, from one disabled person to another XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #74

How much is disability in your state? mvd Jul 2022 #75

You ssdi is determined XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #76

So if I have never worked due to my disability I have had.. mvd Jul 2022 #77

You need help with this XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #78

I thank you your suggestions mvd Jul 2022 #79

I am sorry- but you need to call a social worker first thing Monday morning. Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #80

Perfectly true mvd Jul 2022 #81

Don't be scared. And for goddess' sake, don't be like Blanche Dubois Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #82

Lol, I like that example mvd Jul 2022 #83

I wish I could be the one being kind to others mvd Jul 2022 #84

Unfortunately, that's not reality for most people. Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #88

I hope so Matt. I really think you need to plan your future immediately Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #85

Thank you for being so nice to this man. shrike3 Jul 2022 #209

Kick. tblue37 Jul 2022 #87

I hope things get better for you and your mom soon & you can get some services liberal_mama Jul 2022 #89

Thank you! mvd Jul 2022 #90

GOOD LUCK Omaha Steve Jul 2022 #91

I think finding dental care is hard to find when you're on Medicare no matter where you live. dflprincess Jul 2022 #222

Thank you, DU! mvd Jul 2022 #92

$1,040 Omaha Steve Jul 2022 #93

There's this donor who is just incredible and so special mvd Jul 2022 #94

Lol. BlackSkimmer Jul 2022 #99

? mvd Jul 2022 #100

Then why haven't you called senior services in over a year since you started these GFMs? BlackSkimmer Jul 2022 #101

Wish I could rec this post n/t SickOfTheOnePct Jul 2022 #103

Thank you demtenjeep Jul 2022 #117

Yup obamanut2012 Jul 2022 #186

You and your mother can get free, XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #102

That would be so useful mvd Jul 2022 #104

You would know if you had called Senior Services obamanut2012 Jul 2022 #187

K&R for visibility. nt tblue37 Jul 2022 #105

Before I let this sink, any other advice? mvd Jul 2022 #106

Another thing mvd Jul 2022 #107

Stay strong MinisterPathos Jul 2022 #108

Thank you mvd Jul 2022 #109

One more bring up mvd Jul 2022 #110

Did you call Elder services? XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #111

Mostly for adults who can't bathe, dress, etc. mvd Jul 2022 #112

Update mvd Jul 2022 #113

Matt, water bills aren't a surprise. Did you call any of the services that were suggested? Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #119

Sometimes surprise expenses can interfere mvd Jul 2022 #134

Apply for LIWAP xmas74 Jul 2022 #132

Looking at MyCOMPASS right now mvd Jul 2022 #133

Speak to someone. xmas74 Jul 2022 #137

❤️ ✿❧🌿❧✿ ❤️ Lucinda Jul 2022 #114

Thank you mvd Jul 2022 #115

Wow, you can't catch a break nt XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #118

I can. We all have relatives that are in their 70's and up Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #120

Because everything is so rigid and uncaring mvd Jul 2022 #121

Matt- being an adult means that you know the power, electric and gas bills are coming on the same Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #123

I am sorry but it is not so simple mvd Jul 2022 #125

This message was self-deleted by its author Hekate Jul 2022 #205

And I have always been able to pay this bill.. mvd Jul 2022 #124

Kick. BlueLucy Jul 2022 #116

Thank you very much! mvd Jul 2022 #122

Night kick mvd Jul 2022 #126

Goodness MVD MinisterPathos Jul 2022 #127

I was hoping. I really don't want to do this again mvd Jul 2022 #129

Kicking your own post??? USALiberal Jul 2022 #160

Like it has never been done? mvd Jul 2022 #161

Stay strong MVD! BlueLucy Jul 2022 #128

Hugs - thank you very much mvd Jul 2022 #130

Ok good night all mvd Jul 2022 #131

Kick mvd Jul 2022 #135

So many good suggestions, but I am asking for help mvd Jul 2022 #136

what did her Dr. say? Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #139

She is seeing her doctor tomorrow mvd Jul 2022 #140

You don't need uber money. County assistance will pay for it. Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #141

They said they have no transportation services mvd Jul 2022 #142

Her doctor is talking to her now mvd Jul 2022 #143

This message was self-deleted by its author Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #144

Have her ask her doctor XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #145

Whoops aimed at mvd XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #146

What?? mvd Jul 2022 #147

This message was self-deleted by its author Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #148

I did find this mvd Jul 2022 #149

This message was self-deleted by its author Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #150

Reality XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #151

I just have to do the hearing test part mvd Jul 2022 #152

I don't think you are grasping the reality of getting disability MissB Jul 2022 #171

Thanks so much again, DU mvd Jul 2022 #153

Kick for visibility. nt BlueLucy Jul 2022 #154

Thanks mvd Jul 2022 #155

Congrats on reaching your goal, too! mvd Jul 2022 #157

Bringing this up again because.. mvd Jul 2022 #158

Also.. mvd Jul 2022 #159

Posted an update in the fundraiser mvd Jul 2022 #162

Oh good grief demtenjeep Jul 2022 #165

You just nailed it Demtenjeep. BlackSkimmer Jul 2022 #168

Not helpful for our situation mvd Jul 2022 #173

I think people on DU are generous- and are sorry about your situation. However Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #176

an excuse for every piece of advice demtenjeep Jul 2022 #178

I raised the goal to cover the overdraft mvd Jul 2022 #163

WOW inthewind21 Jul 2022 #164

until next month demtenjeep Jul 2022 #166

Generally, all checking accounts have OD protection- Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #167

It's taxable inthewind21 Jul 2022 #183

With overdraft protection, is an overdraft a crime? liberal_mama Jul 2022 #170

Not true mvd Jul 2022 #172

dude demtenjeep Jul 2022 #179

He is keeping the gfm open indefinitely obamanut2012 Jul 2022 #195

yea demtenjeep Jul 2022 #199

and he hasn't added in moving expenses yet either demtenjeep Jul 2022 #203

After saying a week or so ago, that he had closed it. BlackSkimmer Jul 2022 #211

oh no demtenjeep Jul 2022 #180

I have crohn's disease and I'm not supposed to have stress-YET I work demtenjeep Jul 2022 #181

I got bipolar bad XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #182

thank you-doing okay demtenjeep Jul 2022 #185

how are you doing demtenjeep Jul 2022 #196

After 14 months out of work XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #198

I am truly sorry demtenjeep Jul 2022 #200

They will XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #202

I think he's talking about his mother. shrike3 Jul 2022 #212

one is not a problem but 6 in the last year demtenjeep Jul 2022 #213

He's been here since 2001. He waited that long? shrike3 Jul 2022 #251

I agree (except for GFMs being banned). n/t demmiblue Jul 2022 #258

I admire your compassion. I've just seen this happen once too often shrike3 Jul 2022 #262

Even if they are for real, where did the money from multiple GoFundme go if LisaL Jul 2022 #260

Being poor is extremely expensive. shrike3 Jul 2022 #261

I am kind of broke myself at the moment. LisaL Jul 2022 #264

Hate to say this, but cigarettes is one thing Republicans bring up when they complain about the poor shrike3 Jul 2022 #266

Whatever MVD is doing or not doing he's going through a rough time. DemocratSinceBirth Jul 2022 #286

Yes, I agree, he is going through a rough time. shrike3 Jul 2022 #288

Wtf people on fixed incomes paid your overdraft obamanut2012 Jul 2022 #193

AND the overdraft was about the same amount as the "late contribution by an amazing DUer" Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #194

This situation is untenable for you XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #169

Yes it's unfortunate but sometimes I have to use the overdraft mvd Jul 2022 #174

It is past time for you to call a social worker Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #177

what sort of budgeting tools do you use? MissB Jul 2022 #175

Most on DU have been very good and understanding mvd Jul 2022 #184

Until inthewind21 Jul 2022 #188

humm another water bill and another overdraft? someone can't keep their stories straight demtenjeep Jul 2022 #206

$1500 for Uber. Guess I'll never Uber nt XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #207

in Jan he didn't want to do another ...he had done 2 before and 3 after demtenjeep Jul 2022 #230

we are not out to get youyou just seem to think that getting money from us is the only solution demtenjeep Jul 2022 #190

He's around 46 Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #192

and the district is not making students be masked either demtenjeep Jul 2022 #201

This message was self-deleted by its author Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #191

I get all that, but please realize that no one's situation is easy! MissB Jul 2022 #197

Well it is easier for some than others mvd Jul 2022 #208

K&R ismnotwasm Jul 2022 #189

Merely a friendly suggestion. MinisterPathos Jul 2022 #204

I understand but that's so personal mvd Jul 2022 #210

Post removed Post removed Jul 2022 #214

Here XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #216

Ok. Lets tackle this! MinisterPathos Jul 2022 #215

On one of his previous pleas, he admitted that "mom" and he have difficulty controlling their credit BlackSkimmer Jul 2022 #217

Thank you mvd Jul 2022 #219

Listen, ForgedCrank Jul 2022 #227

I'm sorry but I still can't agree with some of this mvd Jul 2022 #234

I told ForgedCrank Jul 2022 #235

I do understand things won't always be easy mvd Jul 2022 #237

There's no need to pay for internet now tishaLA Jul 2022 #218

Good idea - I get it with my cell phone service mvd Jul 2022 #221

Everyone keeps offering ideas and tishaLA Jul 2022 #223

No I was just saying what I have now mvd Jul 2022 #224

"just this one time" still trying to make a goal. demtenjeep Jul 2022 #229

Just from reading this thread, I can tell that you are wasting a lot of money. Luciferous Jul 2022 #225

It wouldn't be free dental care and there are very few mvd Jul 2022 #226

Anyone know if Meals on Wheels has rides? mvd Jul 2022 #228

you have a phone-CALL Them demtenjeep Jul 2022 #233

I have a silly question hjh3rd Jul 2022 #257

I don't pay for Medicaid mvd Jul 2022 #275

yea...not that 25$ is anything but I would be super pissed if it went to cigs demtenjeep Jul 2022 #231

The cost of ForgedCrank Jul 2022 #232

Why correct hen next month demtenjeep Jul 2022 #240

I don't ForgedCrank Jul 2022 #241

What is your address? Bluesaph Jul 2022 #238

Better to take to PM mvd Jul 2022 #243

I already did Tree-Hugger Jul 2022 #253

Why are food stamps/EBT not happening? Sympthsical Jul 2022 #239

My mom already has EBT mvd Jul 2022 #242

Why don't *you* have EBT? Sympthsical Jul 2022 #244

Didn't qualify before - was kicked off when my dad died and no longer his caretaker mvd Jul 2022 #245

You need a game plan for if you don't get disability XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #248

I've been trying since last year mvd Jul 2022 #276

See an ssdi attorney shrike3 Jul 2022 #289

Not sure what some want me to say when I need a little more help now, but.. mvd Jul 2022 #246

And stop askimg demtenjeep Jul 2022 #247

Why not stop making lists, and start acting on those items on the list. BlackSkimmer Jul 2022 #249

And "hoping" to get SSI and SSDI XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #254

And they've been tightening up approvals for years Sympthsical Jul 2022 #256

I know someone who was denied twice. shrike3 Jul 2022 #265

There is a lot of fraud in the system Sympthsical Jul 2022 #267

Like I said, this guy does this for a living. shrike3 Jul 2022 #268

Any experience I have would be purely anecdotal Sympthsical Jul 2022 #271

Oh, I'm sure there are people who game the system. shrike3 Jul 2022 #274

That's what I'm doing XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #269

I'm very sorry. It is extremely difficult. shrike3 Jul 2022 #270

Thank you XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #280

The system really is Darwinian. shrike3 Jul 2022 #281

The system is total bullshit XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #283

I truly am sorry it's been so difficult for you. shrike3 Jul 2022 #290

This message was self-deleted by its author shrike3 Jul 2022 #282

Ok I am already calling mvd Jul 2022 #294

Good luck. I really don't think you are going to get mucn more though Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #295

How's your mom doing? XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #296

Yes the psychiatrist phone appointment mvd Jul 2022 #297

And you're going to take these suggestions XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #306

Post removed Post removed Jul 2022 #250

Resources Tree-Hugger Jul 2022 #252

You are a saint Arazi Jul 2022 #255

Amazing post nt XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #263

Thank you very much!! mvd Jul 2022 #272

nope, please don't bookmark MissB Jul 2022 #285

Oh yes indeed mvd Jul 2022 #291

Can you update everyone? Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #292

That was very kind of you to compile that list. demmiblue Jul 2022 #273

You are a very nice person Sympthsical Jul 2022 #277

You are a good soul, Tree-Hugger. You renew my faith in humanity. Hekate Jul 2022 #284

That is amazing. You are amazing! likesmountains 52 Jul 2022 #287

I sent a personal thanks also mvd Jul 2022 #293

You have to cut every unnecessary expense (like cigarettes) madibella Jul 2022 #259

I am willing for sure. I wanted to be honest about mvd Jul 2022 #279

I'm very low this month, so I will have to ask some more mvd Jul 2022 #298

Maybe move this to the lounge! USALiberal Jul 2022 #299

I agree; this needs to be moved to the lounge. shrike3 Jul 2022 #300

I would be fine with that at this point mvd Jul 2022 #301

Hopefully, they will grant the request. shrike3 Jul 2022 #302

There is no way to move a thread from one forum to another. Ptah Jul 2022 #303

Then I could repost there mvd Jul 2022 #304

You could delete it yourself. Ptah Jul 2022 #305

Better locked so I can refer back to this mvd Jul 2022 #310

United Way of PA XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #312

Maybe members can't do it? shrike3 Jul 2022 #308

I've never seen that happen. Ptah Jul 2022 #309

Wait, you are asking for MORE money from your ask a free days ago? obamanut2012 Jul 2022 #307

You may not get more cash XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #311

Yep, called both yesterday and today mvd Jul 2022 #313

I posted the link for UW upthread nt XanaDUer2 Jul 2022 #317

I think the well is dry. You have not gotten any donations for over a week. likesmountains 52 Jul 2022 #314

I can keep it but am waiting for this to be locked so that.. mvd Jul 2022 #315

Just delete your OP. Ptah Jul 2022 #316

Ok thanks! I did not know you could see the rest mvd Jul 2022 #318

I am truly sorry- but I don't think you are going to Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #319