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Orrex

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22. Some additional:

Wed Jul 27, 2022, 10:42 AM

Jul 2022

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6. The bully likely has a history of abuse and has a lot of experience taking a punch, so understand that simply hitting the bully won’t likely do much to deter them
7. Understand that, when you retaliate, you will almost certainly be punished more severely than the bully, who has a lot of practice at getting away with it
7a. The bully is very good at acting without being seen by people in authority
7b. The bully is very good at playing the victim, so that any retaliation will draw the attention of those in authority
8. If you report the bully to those in authority, literally nothing will be done to the bullly, and you might be force to apologize to them “In the interest of harmony” etc.

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"How to deal with bullies", according to my Dad: [View all] Atticus Jul 2022 OP

It's a good system. Bluethroughu Jul 2022 #1

If struck go to step 4 Woodswalker Jul 2022 #2

I think, as a country, we're on #4 now. lastlib Jul 2022 #34

My mom told me if someone hit me to grab their chowder66 Jul 2022 #3

I ever did that either but that is one of things suggested for big attackers...I bet it works...did Demsrule86 Jul 2022 #18

Lol. I didn't... but I will now! chowder66 Jul 2022 #32

Or grab and pull their ear if you are closer to it. Maraya1969 Jul 2022 #31

I thought only teachers did that! chowder66 Jul 2022 #33

You just need to stare right at them very calmly. BSdetect Jul 2022 #4

You just need to stare right at them very calmly. BSdetect Jul 2022 #5

All good until you actually face it. Srkdqltr Jul 2022 #6

Everyone has a plan until they get punched in the mouth. Probatim Jul 2022 #8

As someone who HAS been punched in the mouth---more than once or twice---I have Atticus Jul 2022 #13

+11x11 to the nth power Higherarky Jul 2022 #20

Years ago I put it in my mind how I would respond when threatened. LiberalFighter Jul 2022 #23

I had a would be mugger True Blue American Jul 2022 #38

If an attack is imminent...you must hit them first...better odds. Demsrule86 Jul 2022 #19

Military say "No plan survives contact with the enemy" but Eisenhower also said Bernardo de La Paz Jul 2022 #35

The girl class bully homegirl Jul 2022 #40

Good for you! MLAA Jul 2022 #48

In the eighth grade the school bully pushed me over the edge cutroot Jul 2022 #7

Bullying today has grown to pandemic proportions & in severity. Symptomatic of RW "fuck yer feelings Bernardo de La Paz Jul 2022 #36

On several occasions, I found that my flexing fingers, held at the appropriate niyad Jul 2022 #9

But nails can do some serious damage. True Blue American Jul 2022 #39

My hair is stronger than my nails. niyad Jul 2022 #64

I found a product called Miracle Nail. True Blue American Jul 2022 #65

Vitamin E is the only thing that has ever worked for me. niyad Jul 2022 #67

That is good, too True Blue American Jul 2022 #69

My rule is very much like that... 2naSalit Jul 2022 #10

EXACTLY. ShazzieB Jul 2022 #21

I agree... 2naSalit Jul 2022 #25

Sometimes it doesn't involve fists leftieNanner Jul 2022 #11

My parents had useless advice Warpy Jul 2022 #12

Interesting you should say that about your parents, because my parents gave a similar Martin68 Jul 2022 #59

I suppose they'd gotten the same advice when they were kids Warpy Jul 2022 #63

I couldn't stand bullies hurting kids Jarqui Jul 2022 #14

You did the right thing, only thing you could when adults wouldn't help. MLAA Jul 2022 #49

Your Dad sounds like my Dad...only on number four he would have added pick up a two by four Demsrule86 Jul 2022 #15

This message was self-deleted by its author Demsrule86 Jul 2022 #16

Bullies may face greater health risks than victims duhneece Jul 2022 #17

Some additional: Orrex Jul 2022 #22

"---taking A punch---"? Another of Dad's guides was "Never hit someone just once". Atticus Jul 2022 #28

Don't give them too many chances. LiberalFighter Jul 2022 #24

✔️ live love laugh Jul 2022 #47

When I was young I was very small and the bullies came a calling. I learned a few things. fightforfreedom Jul 2022 #26

I tend to call them out or worse, laugh. KentuckyWoman Jul 2022 #27

I Find Laughing RobinA Jul 2022 #62

#1 and #2 If confronted, laugh at them or ridicule-then walk away. #3) If struck-go to Pepsidog Jul 2022 #29

You were a good kid. 🙂 MLAA Jul 2022 #51

Show no remorse dlbell Jul 2022 #30

Not everyone can follow that advice bucolic_frolic Jul 2022 #37

I think you left out some of the lesson! The Jungle 1 Jul 2022 #41

And if you feel you haven't any options and give the first punch make it count. flying_wahini Jul 2022 #42

Recommended. H2O Man Jul 2022 #43

One other thing I've learned the hard way. ananda Jul 2022 #44

I skip Step #3. Martin68 Jul 2022 #45

I always liked H2O Man Jul 2022 #50

LOL. That's in the Survival Guide. Let the guy hit you first and he'll probably stick you in the gut Martin68 Jul 2022 #55

I was once H2O Man Jul 2022 #57

That's what friends are for! Martin68 Jul 2022 #58

Walking away from a bully is an invitation. live love laugh Jul 2022 #46

cheeky Slammer Jul 2022 #52

Got the same advice from my Dad.. Permanut Jul 2022 #53

when mom was in high school she was at a school recital. AllaN01Bear Jul 2022 #54

i had a brother + uncles. if needed i hit back as a kid. ok, i think i whallopped a kid once. pansypoo53219 Jul 2022 #56

I'm less tolerant Septua Jul 2022 #60

My go-to is Stephen King's 'Salem's Lot. Grokenstein Jul 2022 #61

I use 1 & 2 for incidents of road rage. Emile Jul 2022 #66

My dad, and my sensei, differed as to #3. sir pball Jul 2022 #68

Yesterday the green arrow came on, I looked both ways to make sure True Blue American Jul 2022 #70

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