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demtenjeep

(31,997 posts) Thu Jul 28, 2022, 10:11 AM Jul 2022

what would you do-how would you feel if you donated money to someone believing they were in need [View all]

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only to find out that person was using money to buy cigarettes, using instacart for food deliveries and running internet on one phone and paying for a different internet for the half million dollar house they live in?

Would you ask for a refund or would that make you feel like a louse?

I give freely when I feel someone is in dire straits but feel very used!

how would you feel?

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what would you do-how would you feel if you donated money to someone believing they were in need [View all] demtenjeep Jul 2022 OP

Get your money back. Meadowoak Jul 2022 #1

Conflicted robodruid1 Jul 2022 #2

You gave freely MuseRider Jul 2022 #3

I think the angst is because of the language used Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #32

I got the impression the poster was taking the path of least resistance. shrike3 Jul 2022 #36

Not abusive towards people donating Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #39

I did not pick that up, no. But you may be right. We have no way of knowing. shrike3 Jul 2022 #42

Agreed. But the poster doesn't sound like he has a network at all- Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #46

Yes, I know he doesn't. He made that clear. shrike3 Jul 2022 #48

Yeah, I'm not going to worry it if I see some homeless person I gave ten dollars to... hunter Jul 2022 #49

It's not up to me to determine another's needs leftstreet Jul 2022 #4

Exactly. n/t shrike3 Jul 2022 #5

"Nobody needs an AR/15" Shrek Jul 2022 #38

Have you been donating money to people who think they "need" guns? hunter Jul 2022 #51

I was responding to the notion in post 4 Shrek Jul 2022 #52

When I give someone money, that money no longer belongs to me. MerryBlooms Jul 2022 #6

Bingo. PoindexterOglethorpe Jul 2022 #31

Everybody with a heart has been used arlyellowdog Jul 2022 #7

Is this about a DU member? Ptah Jul 2022 #8

Of course n/t shrike3 Jul 2022 #11

I take it DakotaSnow Jul 2022 #13

Let it go. Ocelot II Jul 2022 #9

Some "street" people are also just con artists. Pobeka Jul 2022 #10

Don't change yourself as a reaction. blm Jul 2022 #12

How do you know they have a half-million dollar house? shrike3 Jul 2022 #14

Just fucking stop. demmiblue Jul 2022 #15

I would report it to the fundraiser site as fraud obamanut2012 Jul 2022 #16

I do feel stupid demtenjeep Jul 2022 #17

most of my middle class neighborhood has houses valued at 500k bigtree Jul 2022 #18

I would accept it as a lesson and move on. Chainfire Jul 2022 #19

Was a scam from go greenjar_01 Jul 2022 #20

I don't know but I wouldn't complain about it in General. n/t eShirl Jul 2022 #21

Two true stories ..... H2O Man Jul 2022 #22

This message was self-deleted by its author shrike3 Jul 2022 #23

I don't do purity tests when I donate Tree-Hugger Jul 2022 #24

Agree with all your points. shrike3 Jul 2022 #25

The only thing that would really bother me are the cigarettes. ShazzieB Jul 2022 #26

I quit smoking 9 years ago demtenjeep Jul 2022 #27

I would do what I always do, and feel the same way I always feel. LuckyCharms Jul 2022 #28

I can only tell you what I did: I started offering advice...then when it was apparent that the Thtwudbeme Jul 2022 #29

Happened to me when I as 19. tavernier Jul 2022 #30

Once I give money. It is up to the person I gave it too to choose how it is spent. I lived Demsrule86 Jul 2022 #33

Some internet wisdom that always struck me as profound genxlib Jul 2022 #34

I would feel conned. Emile Jul 2022 #35

I would passive aggressively post about it on a message board. nt LexVegas Jul 2022 #37

I'd just write it off to experience. MineralMan Jul 2022 #40

I believe if I give a gift, the giftee has every right to do as they please Lettuce Be Jul 2022 #41

Once is not that problematic Chautauquas Jul 2022 #43

If I give someone money, I have no expectation of getting it back... SKKY Jul 2022 #44

You were charitable to someone not deserving charity. Live and learn. n/t FSogol Jul 2022 #45

caveat emptor SYFROYH Jul 2022 #47

I'm a sucker for anybody that asks. I give money freely. Except one woman who would hang outside Solomon Jul 2022 #50

My parents had more children than they could comfortably support. hunter Jul 2022 #53

I donated to the individual in a previous GFM, but haven't since. ARPad95 Jul 2022 #54

*LOCKING* Spazito Jul 2022 #55