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calimary

(90,039 posts)
52. Damn... so sorry to hear. I'm so sorry this has torn up your family.
Sat Aug 27, 2022, 05:51 PM
Aug 2022

I’m glad we all have this crazy place where we can vent in safety, knowing we’ll find validation and consolation.

Yeah, it’s your parents. I had conflict with both of mine. They encouraged me to be an independent thinker but then didn’t approve of where my thoughts took me.

I know it’s hard. I know it hurts. And I know you want to stay classy and above it all for the sake of keeping the peace.

Just know this: it’s safe to vent and share and talk through stuff here. There probably are more adult children struggling with this kind of issue with their parents - here. There’s a lot of sympathy and kindness and non-judgmentalism here. Lots of support here. Avail yourself of it. And it really does make a difference.



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... Sky Jewels Aug 2022 #1
... Aristus Aug 2022 #2
I know it hurts Skittles Aug 2022 #3
That's what I would say to you, mtbgirl. Deuxcents Aug 2022 #14
Happy Dorian Gray Aug 2022 #40
... elleng Aug 2022 #4
I'm sorry..both my parents are dead and I've disowned my only 2 siblings for their samnsara Aug 2022 #5
Your daughter is fortunate to have her mother in her corner notinkansas Aug 2022 #6
So sorry but try to think how much has changed in her life questionseverything Aug 2022 #7
((hugs)) slightlv Aug 2022 #8
Let me tell you that I am thrilled for you and your daughter. delisen Aug 2022 #9
Sorry that is not an easy thing to deal with Meowmee Aug 2022 #10
I didn't speak to my parents for seventeen years localroger Aug 2022 #11
I'm going to hazard a guess gratuitous Aug 2022 #12
Funny story about that subject-- mtngirl47 Aug 2022 #16
Perhaps just be happy for your daughter yourself gratuitous Aug 2022 #20
it took me a decade I scrimped to pay off my student loans lambchopp59 Aug 2022 #13
... SheltieLover Aug 2022 #15
If she won't change on her own, there's nothing to be done about it. Just tell yourself no one's Karadeniz Aug 2022 #17
If she couldn't share in my joy Katcat Aug 2022 #18
: onecaliberal Aug 2022 #19
Late 80s..let love flow, and ask to hear stories from her youth lostnfound Aug 2022 #21
so sorry sweetie. i have GOPig relatives too. My younger sister and 3 of her 4 kids & spouses Trueblue1968 Aug 2022 #22
Congrats to your daughter! How wonderful and so glad she has/will feel a sense of relief! MLAA Aug 2022 #23
The brainwashing is so fast and thorough now. Shame. live love laugh Aug 2022 #24
It really is and has worked extremely well to divide us. Autocrat model. Never thought here. Evolve Dammit Aug 2022 #41
It really is and has worked extremely well to divide us. Autocrat model. Never thought here. Evolve Dammit Aug 2022 #42
being able to compartmentalize means being mature adult AlexSFCA Aug 2022 #25
But you do understand how difficult that can be, AlexSFCA? vanlassie Aug 2022 #26
Mom and dad were born and raised in the South. multigraincracker Aug 2022 #27
Wow, your sister thinks loan forgiveness diminishes degrees? Laura PourMeADrink Aug 2022 #28
Just let your mom know that your daughter is in "good" company disambiguation Aug 2022 #29
Feeling sorry for your Mom. usonian Aug 2022 #30
that jerk split families , sisters . mothers and fathers sons and daughters and down the line AllaN01Bear Aug 2022 #31
So happy for you and your daughter. Don't let your mom steal the joy iluvtennis Aug 2022 #32
It made three of my grandchildren very happy tavernier Aug 2022 #33
Sit down with pen & paper and write Mom a letter KS Toronado Aug 2022 #34
Did she understand what you were saying? Doodley Aug 2022 #35
... pazzyanne Aug 2022 #36
Late 80s? I suggest, give her the benefit of the doubt... DemocraticPatriot Aug 2022 #37
Gee. I didn't know degrees now have become zero sum. halfulglas Aug 2022 #38
I understand your need to vent Dorian Gray Aug 2022 #39
A steady diet of Faux News and/ or hate radio does it all the time. Doesn't matter how old you are. Evolve Dammit Aug 2022 #43
My heart goes out to you on your Mom's reaction. But by far the most important detail of SWBTATTReg Aug 2022 #44
Send her this cartoon. CrispyQ Aug 2022 #45
I got my degree as an adult, (this is a long boring story) cksmithy Aug 2022 #46
Your mom is a Republican Polybius Aug 2022 #47
You should print that out and mail it to her. A HERETIC I AM Aug 2022 #48
this saddens me Riverman100 Aug 2022 #49
She's 80+. Leave her to her ideas. You can still celebrate your daughters good fortune. I don't Pisces Aug 2022 #50
My mom is 89 and I'm in the same boat as you onlyadream Aug 2022 #51
Damn... so sorry to hear. I'm so sorry this has torn up your family. calimary Aug 2022 #52
That's tough. I'm sorry. But, I'm very happy for your daughter. Hope your mom comes around. Joinfortmill Aug 2022 #53
I was a fortunate one Better Days Ahoy Aug 2022 #54
It's hard, but honestly, isn't it better to know Bettie Aug 2022 #55
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