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msfiddlestix

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67. Learn an instrument, if you don't have one. or start playing again if you do

Reply to leftyladyfrommo (Original post)

Mon Jan 16, 2023, 12:01 PM

Jan 2023

Join a local choir if your voice is your sole instrument.

Making music with others not only dissolves all of the empty nest effects, but it is also amazingly healing for mental and emotional health and well being.

I started a couple of different music meet ups with neighbors who never fancied themselves as musically inclined. one is singing and the other group is instrumental. Some of the participants who started with one group have since joined with the other.

It's really been a very rewarding experience. It actually gets me high in a manner of speaking.

Give it a shot, your world will change!

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Anybody else having trouble with being alone? [View all] leftyladyfrommo Jan 2023 OP

yes me too essaynnc Jan 2023 #1

We have folks in our UU fellowship fighting this as well. CanonRay Jan 2023 #68

I watched a Social Security tax guy say how when saving for a house, his family moved in with elder. TheBlackAdder Jan 2023 #79

Yes it is really getting to me. My best friend is in Florida for the winter Walleye Jan 2023 #2

Sorry to hear of your gut discomfort & aloneness. SheltieLover Jan 2023 #9

Thank you. I can't express how much I appreciate it. Walleye Jan 2023 #24

You're most welcome! SheltieLover Jan 2023 #33

Yeah I can't watch the Sunday shows makes my blood pressure go up Walleye Jan 2023 #35

If you ever need someone to chat with KS Toronado Jan 2023 #50

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Walleye True Blue American Jan 2023 #27

Nope, I'm schizoid and it's my nature to want to be alone. elocs Jan 2023 #3

Same here. Haggard Celine Jan 2023 #15

Well, being schizoid certainly has served me well during Covid. elocs Jan 2023 #22

I'm the same way. blueinredohio Jan 2023 #54

I enjoy people True Blue American Jan 2023 #32

depends on the alternative dembotoz Jan 2023 #4

Volunteer. Get out of the house. Join a club. 3Hotdogs Jan 2023 #5

Agree. Very important to stay connected and join social clubs, volunteer, or hobby clubs. Also get onetexan Jan 2023 #13

Agreed! Thanks LymphocyteLover Jan 2023 #52

Great post! True Blue American Jan 2023 #34

If I lost my wife I would be lost. Emile Jan 2023 #6

Ditto on finding volunteer opportunities Sugarmaggie Jan 2023 #7

Check out your local senior center? SheltieLover Jan 2023 #8

Yale is offering free "Science of Well Being" course SheltieLover Jan 2023 #10

THIS!! onetexan Jan 2023 #14

Yw! SheltieLover Jan 2023 #16

This course was a lifesaver during the pandemic dlk Jan 2023 #29

So happy to hear you found it helpful & that you shared it! SheltieLover Jan 2023 #36

Yes, I'm a fan of Dr. Laurie Santos dlk Jan 2023 #45

Her podcast sounds great! SheltieLover Jan 2023 #48

It's a great idea dlk Jan 2023 #57

Thank you for this link! Elessar Zappa Jan 2023 #75

Yw! SheltieLover Jan 2023 #76

This orangecrush Jan 2023 #11

Yes, pets are just wonderful. 🥰 Mine always can make me smile Raine Jan 2023 #26

I was going to suggest getting a dog. rubbersole Jan 2023 #56

I am down to one dog. I would be lost without him. nt leftyladyfrommo Jan 2023 #78

If you like animals, consider volunteering for a rescue or humane group. japple Jan 2023 #12

Guessing we will all need extra support during the dark months of qpuke controlled House! SheltieLover Jan 2023 #18

Yes, But you just keep on keeping on. Beachnutt Jan 2023 #17

I live alone Marthe48 Jan 2023 #19

So glad you've found new ways to cope! SheltieLover Jan 2023 #38

You have been a wonderful constant Marthe48 Jan 2023 #49

Awwwww, ty Marthe! SheltieLover Jan 2023 #51

Been decluttering True Blue American Jan 2023 #39

I'm either a caretaker or a crossroad Marthe48 Jan 2023 #53

If you can, check out volunteer opportunities at the local schools jmbar2 Jan 2023 #20

Covid and flu are going through here big time right now. leftyladyfrommo Jan 2023 #21

I agree wholeheartedly! SheltieLover Jan 2023 #40

Totally. Laurian Jan 2023 #23

Winter makes it so much worse. I can't walk when rhe leftyladyfrommo Jan 2023 #25

Same here, the cold weather keeping me inside is making it so much worse Walleye Jan 2023 #30

SAD, True Blue American Jan 2023 #41

Seasonal affective disorder? SheltieLover Jan 2023 #42

I spend 2 hours at True Blue American Jan 2023 #71

During bad weather I go to my nearest park rec center and walk around the track inside. MLAA Jan 2023 #60

You are right, for a depressed person new relationships can be very stressful Walleye Jan 2023 #28

Actually, no. I want to be alone. Butterflylady Jan 2023 #31

Get outside and get some sunshine Alpeduez21 Jan 2023 #37

Great advice! SheltieLover Jan 2023 #43

Free online live classes for seniors (link) SheltieLover Jan 2023 #44

I don't have a computer or a tv leftyladyfrommo Jan 2023 #46

They're free & you can do on phone. SheltieLover Jan 2023 #47

Yes but I am trying to reach out to others cally Jan 2023 #55

Being a care taker is hard. True Blue American Jan 2023 #72

I'm not alone, but I hope you don't mind if I share a very rewarding passtime I discovered 70sEraVet Jan 2023 #58

That's a wonderful thing to do Raine Jan 2023 #62

I am physically able to get out and search cemeteries for grave markers. 70sEraVet Jan 2023 #64

There really is a lot of value in helping that makes us feel better. mahina Jan 2023 #65

Wonderful! True Blue American Jan 2023 #73

Wow. That is awesome. I love that idea. Scrivener7 Jan 2023 #83

Yes.. whathehell Jan 2023 #59

You don't need to be alone to be lonely. twodogsbarking Jan 2023 #61

Read, books can be great company, manage your politics intake, meditate. Escurumbele Jan 2023 #63

Learn an instrument, if you don't have one. or start playing again if you do msfiddlestix Jan 2023 #67

Tell me all about it. usonian Jan 2023 #69

There's always an eye or ear to turn to here on DU. Pyryck Jan 2023 #70

I'm not alone but Elessar Zappa Jan 2023 #74

Yes. My husband died a year ago tonight about midnight BlueLucy Jan 2023 #77

You're not alone, day after day I am too JuJuChen Jan 2023 #80

I'm so glad I found your post again. I figured out how to post an image. mahina Jan 2023 #81

The fact that it's starting to get to you is not unhealthy. Scrivener7 Jan 2023 #82

I am older abd live alone. I can't do all the stuff younger leftyladyfrommo Jan 2023 #84

YouTube videos really helped me during lockdown. sarcasmo Jan 2023 #85