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Warpy

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6. I'm not convinced this was stalking
Wed Jan 18, 2023, 01:42 AM
Jan 2023

which is a mental illness wherin the stalker hangs a person's face on his delusional state and fantasy of a perfect romance. It can involve anyone from a casual date to someone at a McD's drive through to somebody on TV or in a movie or on a concert stage. It quickly deteriorates into vandalism and violence because the person being stalked has no access to the stalker's script and wouldn't follow it if s/he did. Stalkers also won't stop until they are stopped.

Stalkers are sick, something that has been seriously muddied by Hollywood's shitty romcom tropes. There is nothing remotely romantic about being stalked, it can ruin your life very quickly. Even when antistalking laws are in place, cops don't like to take it seriously because it has been portrayed as something romantic by Hollywood. It is not. It gets dangerous quickly. Whether this was stalking or a thrill killing, the cops most likely didn't take it seriously, "well, he didn't hurt you/steal your shit, nothing to see here get a dog/buy a gun." Stalkers need an involuntary commitment and treatment, chemically banishing the delusions so therapy has a chance.

This sounds more like a control trip/thrill killing/ attempt at the perfect crime, ice cold and calculated. Stalker killings are usually sloppy and poorly thought out. The stalker doesn't leave the scene in some cases, proud of his work and feeling justified.

Stalkers generally pick just one person at a time, not four of them, which is another way this doesn't fit the mold.

Either way, this guy is a sicko and needs to be medicated into the Thorazine shuffle for the rest of his life.

(I was stalked years ago and my case was cited when this state got its antistalking statute. I had to stop him by myself. He died a few years ago, I had nothing to do with it)

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Stalking [View all] H2O Man Jan 2023 OP
So terrifying to think of those poor girls knowing there was someone stalking Saoirse9 Jan 2023 #1
Thank you! H2O Man Jan 2023 #3
No nightmare! Saoirse9 Jan 2023 #9
That's good! H2O Man Jan 2023 #12
Maybe it is posted elsewhere in the thread Saoirse9 Jan 2023 #26
All great points H2O Man. MontanaMama Jan 2023 #2
Very interesting! H2O Man Jan 2023 #4
Again YOU raise excellent points. MontanaMama Jan 2023 #5
Thank you! H2O Man Jan 2023 #13
I hope you're okay! MontanaMama Jan 2023 #21
Thanks! H2O Man Jan 2023 #23
Golly I had the same experience Saoirse9 Jan 2023 #11
Long ago, H2O Man Jan 2023 #15
Wow. Your post gave me chills, Saoirse. MontanaMama Jan 2023 #20
My stalker used my nickname Saoirse9 Jan 2023 #27
I relayed your post to my husband just now... MontanaMama Jan 2023 #29
So creepy isn't it? Saoirse9 Jan 2023 #30
I'm not convinced this was stalking Warpy Jan 2023 #6
Stalking is a behavior, H2O Man Jan 2023 #8
Again, we disasgree Warpy Jan 2023 #14
I don't think we disagree on that much. H2O Man Jan 2023 #16
I was stalked by my first husband when I left him. wnylib Jan 2023 #7
That's a good example H2O Man Jan 2023 #10
Thanks, H2O Man. There were several other wnylib Jan 2023 #17
Once again, you raise H2O Man Jan 2023 #18
In my case, I was too afraid to not seek support. wnylib Jan 2023 #19
That is great to hear! H2O Man Jan 2023 #22
When in a threatening situation, take advantage wnylib Jan 2023 #24
I believe in clear communication. H2O Man Jan 2023 #25
That's quite a situation to be in. wnylib Jan 2023 #28
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