Welcome to DU! The truly grassroots left-of-center political community where regular people, not algorithms, drive the discussions and set the standards. Join the community: Create a free account Support DU (and get rid of ads!): Become a Star Member Latest Breaking News Editorials & Other Articles General Discussion The DU Lounge All Forums Issue Forums Culture Forums Alliance Forums Region Forums Support Forums Help & Search

General Discussion

In reply to the discussion: Stalking [View all]

H2O Man

(78,504 posts)
12. That's good!
Wed Jan 18, 2023, 12:03 PM
Jan 2023

When I trained mental health workers in "community crisis response" -- which at the time often involved mental health workers, but has become primarily a lawn enforcement task -- the first thing I would say was to survey the landscape before getting out of the car. In upstate New York, there were a lot of isolated, lonely places we were called to. In cases where we determined police were required, there could be a long wait. Quite a few times, the people with me expressed surprise at the list of things I looked for, I suppose because the average person doesn't look for them in normal situations. But having a gun pointed at you by an angry person just one time can change one's expectations of "normal," I think.

Combine that survey of surroundings with the information from the call that resulted in your going to this home. That is, of course, an intellectual exercise. But at least as important -- and often more important -- is to trust your gut feelings.

Recommendations

0 members have recommended this reply (displayed in chronological order):

Stalking [View all] H2O Man Jan 2023 OP
So terrifying to think of those poor girls knowing there was someone stalking Saoirse9 Jan 2023 #1
Thank you! H2O Man Jan 2023 #3
No nightmare! Saoirse9 Jan 2023 #9
That's good! H2O Man Jan 2023 #12
Maybe it is posted elsewhere in the thread Saoirse9 Jan 2023 #26
All great points H2O Man. MontanaMama Jan 2023 #2
Very interesting! H2O Man Jan 2023 #4
Again YOU raise excellent points. MontanaMama Jan 2023 #5
Thank you! H2O Man Jan 2023 #13
I hope you're okay! MontanaMama Jan 2023 #21
Thanks! H2O Man Jan 2023 #23
Golly I had the same experience Saoirse9 Jan 2023 #11
Long ago, H2O Man Jan 2023 #15
Wow. Your post gave me chills, Saoirse. MontanaMama Jan 2023 #20
My stalker used my nickname Saoirse9 Jan 2023 #27
I relayed your post to my husband just now... MontanaMama Jan 2023 #29
So creepy isn't it? Saoirse9 Jan 2023 #30
I'm not convinced this was stalking Warpy Jan 2023 #6
Stalking is a behavior, H2O Man Jan 2023 #8
Again, we disasgree Warpy Jan 2023 #14
I don't think we disagree on that much. H2O Man Jan 2023 #16
I was stalked by my first husband when I left him. wnylib Jan 2023 #7
That's a good example H2O Man Jan 2023 #10
Thanks, H2O Man. There were several other wnylib Jan 2023 #17
Once again, you raise H2O Man Jan 2023 #18
In my case, I was too afraid to not seek support. wnylib Jan 2023 #19
That is great to hear! H2O Man Jan 2023 #22
When in a threatening situation, take advantage wnylib Jan 2023 #24
I believe in clear communication. H2O Man Jan 2023 #25
That's quite a situation to be in. wnylib Jan 2023 #28
Latest Discussions»General Discussion»Stalking»Reply #12