DUers I'm trying to learn the preferred usage of pronouns for...

[WhiskeyGrinder]

9. Every trans person has their own preference, just like any cis or nonbinary person does.

Alex tells you she prefers she/her. So when you talk about her, you say, "This is my friend Alex; she likes cookies."

Jules tells you he prefers he/him. So when you talk about him, you say, "Do you know my friend Jules? He works with Alex at the cookie shop."

Sheigh tells you they prefer they/them. So when you talk about them, you say, "I met your friend Sheigh yesterday; they were super cool and I enjoyed talking with them."

Brynne says she prefers she/they. So when you talk about her, you might stick with one or the other, or switch back and forth; it's harder to get it "wrong" in a case like this.

Deadnaming is when someone has changed their name during their transition and you actively use their old name in an effort to deny the new reality. It's as rude as calling anyone by the wrong name on purpose.