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WhiskeyGrinder

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12. You're welcome. Keep in mind, in English, this generally an issue only when you're talking *about*

Reply to brush (Reply #10)

Thu Apr 13, 2023, 11:14 PM

Apr 2023

someone and not directly to them. But in any conversation, we may talk about other people in front of them, so it's important to pay attention and get it right. As long as you make an effort and don't dwell on it too much if you screw up, it's fine. "So when I was talking to Alex, I told him -- whoops, her, sorry -- that she needed to make more of those cookies." That's it.

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DUers I'm trying to learn the preferred usage of pronouns for... [View all] brush Apr 2023 OP

I often use they them for everyone leftieNanner Apr 2023 #1

That's probably the safest way to go. TheRealNorth Apr 2023 #3

IME it depends sarisataka Apr 2023 #2

I just ask the person what they prefer. But I guess I go to "they" by default till I know. Scrivener7 Apr 2023 #4

Feel like if you always just use the person's name Hugh_Lebowski Apr 2023 #5

Specifically, what are the pronouns they prefer? brush Apr 2023 #7

She, of course Hugh_Lebowski Apr 2023 #13

I'm going to the store later. I won't be wearing make-up. BlackSkimmer Apr 2023 #22

It depends on the individual Tree-Hugger Apr 2023 #6

Sorry, what is "deadnaming"? brush Apr 2023 #8

Deadnaming Tree-Hugger Apr 2023 #14

Every trans person has their own preference, just like any cis or nonbinary person does. WhiskeyGrinder Apr 2023 #9

This is perfect, so helpful. Thank you WG. brush Apr 2023 #10

You're welcome. Keep in mind, in English, this generally an issue only when you're talking *about* WhiskeyGrinder Apr 2023 #12

You need to ask. Ms. Toad Apr 2023 #11

Your last graph is why i'm asking. brush Apr 2023 #16

To be clear, the set mentioned was about a hypothetical person of any gender muriel_volestrangler Apr 2023 #18

Since I didn't see the other references I was responding to what was asked here. Ms. Toad Apr 2023 #19

Yeah, the OP here is not worded well muriel_volestrangler Apr 2023 #21

I am sometimes confused, DemocraticPatriot Apr 2023 #15

Ask them. meadowlander Apr 2023 #17

Thank you! N/t Ms. Toad Apr 2023 #20