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Chainfire

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10. A lot of people who had children, by choice, or by accident shouldn't have.

Reply to marmar (Original post)

Mon Apr 24, 2023, 08:53 PM

Apr 2023

People who make the decision not to have children can have a lot of good reasons for the choice.

I would like to have grandbabies to bounce on my knee, but both of my children (40ish) are apparently going to remain child free. Perhaps I should sue them...I respect their decisions and have never tried to influence them one way or the other; their lives, their choices.

For my wife and I, looking back, the best, most fun years or our life, were when we were raising our kids, but different strokes for different folks.

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Do people actually regret not having children? Possibly not [View all] marmar Apr 2023 OP

nope Skittles Apr 2023 #1

I have regrets, but I'm too neurotic to be a good parent Ex Lurker Apr 2023 #22

Do people actually regret having children? (n/t) PJMcK Apr 2023 #2

According to the article, yes. TwilightZone Apr 2023 #4

Yes. I work with one or two who do. roamer65 Apr 2023 #5

There are things I could have done without them Maeve Apr 2023 #7

I don't regret having children, but it's a tough job and I can understand people who don't wish Arkansas Granny Apr 2023 #11

That's a very taboo topic. Very few people will ecstatic Apr 2023 #17

More than a few people have told me that if they had it to do over again they wouldn't have children shrike3 Apr 2023 #24

Nope, not me. TwilightZone Apr 2023 #3

Totally happy with no children, never regretted it for a minute. Meadowoak Apr 2023 #6

63 YO. Never wanted kids. Still don't. brooklynite Apr 2023 #8

Lol no shit WhiskeyGrinder Apr 2023 #9

A lot of people who had children, by choice, or by accident shouldn't have. Chainfire Apr 2023 #10

I have 4 children. Two have children, two do not. I respect their decision. Arkansas Granny Apr 2023 #12

I Love my daughters and regret nothing about them being in the world. Maru Kitteh Apr 2023 #13

I was always ambivalent about it Meowmee Apr 2023 #14

No regrets. Made my decision in my early twenties. Polly Hennessey Apr 2023 #15

Do people think and feel in monolithic ways? edisdead Apr 2023 #16

It was the right choice for me gratuitous Apr 2023 #18

absolutely no regrets.... bahboo Apr 2023 #19

We all make decisions, large and small Bettie Apr 2023 #20

Child-free both by choice, later cemented by side-effects of a failed niyad Apr 2023 #21

trade off. perfectly willing to entertain stopdiggin Apr 2023 #23

I don't regret having kids Buckeyeblue Apr 2023 #25

The people I know who regret kids saw their children not turn out very well. shrike3 Apr 2023 #27

I don't regret having kids, except when I do. BlueTsunami2018 Apr 2023 #26