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shrike3

(5,370 posts)
24. More than a few people have told me that if they had it to do over again they wouldn't have children
Tue Apr 25, 2023, 02:47 AM
Apr 2023

I think they tell me because I don't have kids and so won't judge.

They have been, without exception, older people whose kids did not turn out particularly well. At times they have turned out to be dangerous or close to it. One poor lady that I know had to leave home to take care of a relative, and while she was gone her (addict) son got into her house and stole, then sold, everything that wasn't nailed down,

I assume these people are a very small percentage of the parents out there. I have never met a person with a young child who regretted them. But who could regret one of those? Adorable, even when they're being bad. But as they say, little kids, little problems. Big kids, big problems.

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nope Skittles Apr 2023 #1
I have regrets, but I'm too neurotic to be a good parent Ex Lurker Apr 2023 #22
Do people actually regret having children? (n/t) PJMcK Apr 2023 #2
According to the article, yes. TwilightZone Apr 2023 #4
Yes. I work with one or two who do. roamer65 Apr 2023 #5
There are things I could have done without them Maeve Apr 2023 #7
I don't regret having children, but it's a tough job and I can understand people who don't wish Arkansas Granny Apr 2023 #11
That's a very taboo topic. Very few people will ecstatic Apr 2023 #17
More than a few people have told me that if they had it to do over again they wouldn't have children shrike3 Apr 2023 #24
Nope, not me. TwilightZone Apr 2023 #3
Totally happy with no children, never regretted it for a minute. Meadowoak Apr 2023 #6
63 YO. Never wanted kids. Still don't. brooklynite Apr 2023 #8
Lol no shit WhiskeyGrinder Apr 2023 #9
A lot of people who had children, by choice, or by accident shouldn't have. Chainfire Apr 2023 #10
I have 4 children. Two have children, two do not. I respect their decision. Arkansas Granny Apr 2023 #12
I Love my daughters and regret nothing about them being in the world. Maru Kitteh Apr 2023 #13
I was always ambivalent about it Meowmee Apr 2023 #14
No regrets. Made my decision in my early twenties. Polly Hennessey Apr 2023 #15
Do people think and feel in monolithic ways? edisdead Apr 2023 #16
It was the right choice for me gratuitous Apr 2023 #18
absolutely no regrets.... bahboo Apr 2023 #19
We all make decisions, large and small Bettie Apr 2023 #20
Child-free both by choice, later cemented by side-effects of a failed niyad Apr 2023 #21
trade off. perfectly willing to entertain stopdiggin Apr 2023 #23
I don't regret having kids Buckeyeblue Apr 2023 #25
The people I know who regret kids saw their children not turn out very well. shrike3 Apr 2023 #27
I don't regret having kids, except when I do. BlueTsunami2018 Apr 2023 #26
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