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Hugh_Lebowski

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17. My brother is a school teacher, he and his ex-wife have 2 kids, 11 and 8.
Sat Jul 1, 2023, 11:48 PM
Jul 2023

She makes about 3 times what he makes.

He lives in Dublin, CA (this is where he was raised, and their kids were raised til a couple years ago), a VERY expensive to live.

She cheated on him, having affairs with doctors and other medical people, lying about working late shifts, etc.

When they divorced, she moved to her parents house out in Modesto, where she lives rent-free. The kids now go to school out there 80 miles from where they grew up going to school, had friends, etc.

Guess WHO has to pay WHO ... the fucking alimony?

Yep, you guessed right.

There's times alimony is appropriate, but it's also a whole lotta fucking bullshit in other cases. And probably 90% of the time, it's the man paying it, just because.

Funnily enough here in freaking Arizona, it's harder for somebody to get alimony than it is in CA.

Lucky me

(note: I supported my ex-wife financially our ENTIRE MARRIAGE, and even before ... while she pursued her dream of being a famous clothing designer ... which didn't happen. To her credit, she did not even ask the court for it, however, given the circumstances).

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HOLE LEE SHIT! TheBlackAdder Jul 2023 #1
i know!!.. he's signing so many laws, the public can't keep up. BlueWaveNeverEnd Jul 2023 #2
My reaction too. LoisB Jul 2023 #7
So married for thirty year and raised kids. Freethinker65 Jul 2023 #3
Give up a career to raise kids, spouse has a midlife crisis.. lostnfound Jul 2023 #14
exactly why women should never give up their careers Skittles Jul 2023 #16
NEVER!! GenThePerservering Jul 2023 #24
THIS! Exactly. LizBeth Jul 2023 #28
and here he advertises for a bunch of"family values" sleazeballs DonCoquixote Jul 2023 #4
Guess who's getting divorced. Effete Snob Jul 2023 #5
That's what popped in my head. His fairytale marriage might not be so Disneyesque. TheBlackAdder Jul 2023 #11
what's wrong with the court taking in all the facts of the situation and ruling based on that? Takket Jul 2023 #6
The cruelty is the point. Hassin Bin Sober Jul 2023 #9
It's not cruelty GenThePerservering Jul 2023 #25
Can he actually do that? 2naSalit Jul 2023 #8
Can he sign a law passed by the legislature? Yes. onenote Jul 2023 #18
Once again, there's a need for a reality check... regnaD kciN Jul 2023 #10
But it puts a time limit edhopper Jul 2023 #12
CALIFORNIA LAW RE SPOUSAL SUPPORT: "Marriage of Long Duration" -- "indefinite" end to support Scottie Mom Jul 2023 #13
I guess child support will be next. $5 per day until age 6? LoisB Jul 2023 #15
My brother is a school teacher, he and his ex-wife have 2 kids, 11 and 8. Hugh_Lebowski Jul 2023 #17
wow, your brother got unfairly bollocksed hard Celerity Jul 2023 #20
Yeah, my bro's experience with alimony has me pretty bitter about the subject Hugh_Lebowski Jul 2023 #21
"it could leave some spouses, particularly women, in a vulnerable financial position." CousinIT Jul 2023 #19
Is that what happens in the other 44 states too? jimfields33 Jul 2023 #26
Keep Digging deMoRon..I'm thinking magat women Cha Jul 2023 #22
Perhaps, but IMO the magat women generally hate other women. Laffy Kat Jul 2023 #23
Husbands are going to flock to move to FL to file for divorce. no_hypocrisy Jul 2023 #27
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