Andrea Mitchell's name is Andrea Mitchell

[Ms. Toad]

118. It is far less about the specific person you are insulting using sexist comments

Than everyone else within the sound of your "voice" for whom you are creating a hostile environment.

It is exhausting for those of us who are women/minorities to encounter sexist, racist, homophobic, etc. crap both directed at us - and generally. But to encounter it in a place like DU, which has rules in place to make this a space which should be free from such crap makes the places in the world where we have to have our armor up all the time smaller.

So, while you should apologize to any woman you refer to as Mrs. Husband S. Name, you should also (1) exercise your empathy so that you actually change your attitude, (2) apologize to everyone who heard it, and (3) make changes in how you interact that reflects your changed attitude.

But, based on this conversation, I'm not holding my breath. It makes me sad that far too many on DU spend far more time finding excuses for why it is OK to be bigoted, sexist, homophobic, transhostile than they do listening to those impacted by both the bigoted insults they hurl at Republicans, and by their rationalization, repeated ad nauseum, about why it is hunky dory because we shouldn't coddle Republicans.