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NowISeetheLight

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32. Dad

Fri Sep 22, 2023, 10:50 PM

Sep 2023

I moved my Dad to a nice assisted living apartment around 2014. My Mom passed in 2013 (Alzheimers). I had moved in with them a few years earlier and had am aide in during the day and I'd care for them at night.

It was the best decision fir both of us. He couldn't care for himself and I was burning out. After he moved I had time to resolve the house issues. I could visit him daily, he was attended too and it was a really nice place. I knew he was in a safe place.

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Tough Ass Day for me [View all] Botany Sep 2023 OP

I'm sorry. It's very difficult. She's lucky to have a good son spooky3 Sep 2023 #1

I'm sorry, I can see how difficult this is ... 💕 Raine Sep 2023 #2

I am the elderly person homegirl Sep 2023 #39

.... Spazito Sep 2023 #3

Very sorry Tetrachloride Sep 2023 #4

When my mom passed in '99. we had the same situation. OAITW r.2.0 Sep 2023 #5

I feel for you, Botany. Diamond_Dog Sep 2023 #6

I am sorry to hear this. MOMFUDSKI Sep 2023 #7

make sure she keeps getting flowers Skittles Sep 2023 #8

+ 1 nt pazzyanne Sep 2023 #36

It's very hard. badhair77 Sep 2023 #9

So sorry to hear that.... COL Mustard Sep 2023 #10

That is a sad day. surfered Sep 2023 #11

Know that feeling Rebl2 Sep 2023 #12

I'm sorry, Botany. It's hard to be the adult in charge of a parent. brer cat Sep 2023 #13

(((Hugs))) WestMichRad Sep 2023 #14

It's hard letting go of what was. We all get there, but it's still hard. Lonestarblue Sep 2023 #15

I'm sorry to hear it. Quite a corner for her to turn. Artcatt Sep 2023 #16

It's rough. I get it. blogslug Sep 2023 #17

God bless. Joinfortmill Sep 2023 #18

You can't prepare for such a massive change! Our feelings are with you !! Karadeniz Sep 2023 #19

So sorry. Been there. tavernier Sep 2023 #20

I am so sorry. irisblue Sep 2023 #21

Hugs to you and your mom. LoisB Sep 2023 #22

I'm so sorry, Botany, that you're going through this! We have suffered three similar situations this LaMouffette Sep 2023 #23

I'm so sorry, Botany, that you're going through this! We have suffered three similar situations this LaMouffette Sep 2023 #24

What an impressive resume your father had. My dad passed away last month and while preparing Pepsidog Sep 2023 #25

. . . Stinky The Clown Sep 2023 #26

That has to be heartbreaking, Botany. greatauntoftriplets Sep 2023 #27

Thanks for letting us know, Botany. calimary Sep 2023 #28

((HUGS))) to you! 2naSalit Sep 2023 #29

Hugs across the water sister. Time moves right through us sometimes, hey? mahina Sep 2023 #30

Hugs KentuckyWoman Sep 2023 #31

Dad NowISeetheLight Sep 2023 #32

You are doing... tosh Sep 2023 #33

I also know the feeling. lastlib Sep 2023 #34

So sorry to see this. mountain grammy Sep 2023 #35

You're doing the right thing. Liberty Belle Sep 2023 #37

Dang 3auld6phart Sep 2023 #38

My mom is only 78 but we moved her out this year too budkin Sep 2023 #40

Oh, dear! A hug for you! electric_blue68 Sep 2023 #42

Thanks 🫶 budkin Sep 2023 #44

Love to you Randomthought Sep 2023 #41

Strength to you and her. I'm glad she got to spend one more summer with her flower garden. electric_blue68 Sep 2023 #43

So sorry, Botany. 70sEraVet Sep 2023 #45

So hard to do but you did the right thing malaise Sep 2023 #46

To walk into the now emptied out house afterwards hit me kind of hard. Aussie105 Sep 2023 #47

I still have to do some more work on the place to get it ready for sale so I be in and out of there Botany Sep 2023 #53

Hugs, Botany SilverDawg Sep 2023 #48

It's the worst AmBlue Sep 2023 #49

No fun Old Crank Sep 2023 #50

I'm sorry. That's very hard. yardwork Sep 2023 #51

I feel you, Botany. ancianita Sep 2023 #52

What bothers me is how many people refuse to understand that there PoindexterOglethorpe Sep 2023 #54

Once you get past the house walk NJCher Sep 2023 #55

My family had to move my Mom out of her home about 5 years ago. Archae Sep 2023 #56

Here: PCIntern Sep 2023 #57

Oh I'm so sorry for the grief you feel wendyb-NC Sep 2023 #58

We sold the house I grew up in a few years ago Maeve Sep 2023 #59

💔Such a difficult transition! Dark n Stormy Knight Sep 2023 #60

Sorry to hear this, Botany peggysue2 Sep 2023 #61

Hey, Botany, how are you doing? calimary Sep 2023 #62

This message was self-deleted by its author Botany Sep 2023 #66

Ok Botany Sep 2023 #67

I'm so sorry, Botany. It's so hard to have to accept when a loved one can no longer highplainsdem Sep 2023 #63

Very sorry Botany. It's extremely difficult and painful. Take care, ED Evolve Dammit Sep 2023 #64

Look at it from a different angle mercuryblues Sep 2023 #65

I am so sorry for all of you. Moving days can be hard on the heart. Ilsa Sep 2023 #68