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wnylib

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40. The Starbucks staff did the right thing.
Mon Oct 16, 2023, 02:02 AM
Oct 2023

Last edited Mon Oct 16, 2023, 02:55 AM - Edit history (1)

When I was 16, I had help from staff and a customer at a bus terminal diner.

I had spent the summer in SC visiting my Navy brother and his wife to help my SIL with their 2 babies, ages 14 months and 2 months. I took a Greyhound bus back home to PA because there was an airline strike at the time.

I missed my changeover bus at midnight in Richmond, VA because I was in the ladies room when they announced the boarding. Had to wait in the bus terminal until 4 am for the next bus.

A man about late 30s or early 40s asked why I was there alone at night. I told him what had happened. He offered to drive me as far as DC. Besides the fact that I would not go with a stranger, that would not have helped me get home or to the next bus headed home. I said that I'd wait for my bus.

I went to a magazine rack to buy something to read while waiting. He followed me, showed me his driver's license to "prove" who he was and therefore, it was safe for me to go with him. I told him that proof of identity was not proof of character and went to the terminal's diner to be near other people. He followed me there and continued trying to persuade me.

The waitress at the counter "chatted" with us, while making eye contact with me.

Waitress to me: Hi, honey. Where are you and your father going?

ME: He's not my father. I don't know him.

My stalker: She needs help. I'm looking after her. (Then, to me, he said: Order what you want. I 'll pay.)

ME: I'll pay for my own food. I don't need your help.

Waitress to stalker: She wants to be left alone.

Stalker: None of your business.

Customer in Marine uniform who overheard: If she wants to be left alone, I suggest that you do that.

The Marine then sat on the other side of me at the counter. The stalker left. The Marine was on leave and headed home to Alabama. He stayed in the diner with me until my bus came.







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How about some GOOD news? [View all] AntivaxHunters Oct 2023 OP
How clever and thoughtful of the Starbucks staff to offer this help! CaliforniaPeggy Oct 2023 #1
Yay!!!! Karadeniz Oct 2023 #2
Fantastic! There is human kindness left in this world. We need to encourage it when possible. Lonestarblue Oct 2023 #3
Notice concern and compassion comes from the average citizen worker Stargazer99 Oct 2023 #61
Seems a little weird, actually lostnfound Oct 2023 #4
No joke..oh, my gosh! Somebody approaching someone and Talking to them! masmdu Oct 2023 #5
No... Think. Again. Oct 2023 #6
What's not safe about someone talking to someone? masmdu Oct 2023 #10
Unfortunately... Think. Again. Oct 2023 #15
Not true. Elessar Zappa Oct 2023 #42
I agree with you... Think. Again. Oct 2023 #43
Maybe they Rebl2 Oct 2023 #18
You weren't there ExWhoDoesntCare Oct 2023 #56
How do you know the guy WAS? Rabrrrrrr Oct 2023 #69
Thank you for saying what I was going to say. Ferrets are Cool Oct 2023 #72
Nothing, in ideal circumstances. forgotmylogin Oct 2023 #71
Yeah, and it seems like they left out some details of the encounter Xavier Breath Oct 2023 #9
An older man talking to a very young woman can give a creepy vibe in a variety of ways. ShazzieB Oct 2023 #14
True, but I have to agree with the other posters saying it may have been an overreaction. Xavier Breath Oct 2023 #21
It's a social media post by someone who wasn't there ExWhoDoesntCare Oct 2023 #57
Yes, they need more there , as it gives ammunition treestar Oct 2023 #64
They empowered *her* to decide whether she was safe and whether the interaction was normal. Mister Ed Oct 2023 #12
Well said, and an excellent point. Think. Again. Oct 2023 #16
Agreed. FailureToCommunicate Oct 2023 #17
Wasn't she already empowered to do that? masmdu Oct 2023 #22
No one assumed anything. They merely asked her. Unobtrusively. Mister Ed Oct 2023 #26
Sure they did. The assumption was that one person approaching another and talking to them is masmdu Oct 2023 #29
+1. Excellent analysis. . . nt Bernardo de La Paz Oct 2023 #37
All this from the comfort of our place at the keyboard and the lofty heights of our ivory towers. Mister Ed Oct 2023 #39
Good, but "empowered" is not the right word. I'd say, they let her call the play without interfering Bernardo de La Paz Oct 2023 #36
Aye. I knew that wasn't exactly the word I wanted. Mister Ed Oct 2023 #38
Exactly we can do it Oct 2023 #46
Exactly we can do it Oct 2023 #47
I don't believe stories like this anyway. LisaM Oct 2023 #30
I've seen this story more than a few times already... Native Oct 2023 #34
same pic, tho. mopinko Oct 2023 #44
Your anecdote ExWhoDoesntCare Oct 2023 #53
Not sure Italy is a good example -A 65 yr old man can grope a teen as long as it's under 10 seconds. progressoid Oct 2023 #31
Oh, Delphinus Oct 2023 #51
This was my take RAB910 Oct 2023 #50
If you weren't there ExWhoDoesntCare Oct 2023 #52
As but one example of how gob-smacking naive it is ExWhoDoesntCare Oct 2023 #55
whoever tells the story knows we were not there treestar Oct 2023 #65
Anytime you see a child being forcefully taken to a car you should ask them if that is their parent. Maraya1969 Oct 2023 #59
It never hurts to be careful with people we dont know especially for females Stargazer99 Oct 2023 #62
Yeah, they need more description there treestar Oct 2023 #63
I like it republianmushroom Oct 2023 #7
Wow Demovictory9 Oct 2023 #8
Was this in Seattle? The Blue Flower Oct 2023 #11
For those with social anxiety like myself Xavier Breath Oct 2023 #13
Don't come to the south. I will start a conversation with just about anyone. Lochloosa Oct 2023 #19
True! "Accidentally" spent a couple of hours yesterday chatting with masmdu Oct 2023 #23
Same in the Keys tavernier Oct 2023 #28
And you showed up right? Lochloosa Oct 2023 #32
Me too. I make it a point of having pleasant conversations with strangers. CaptainTruth Oct 2023 #33
Do you approach people in a way that makes them ExWhoDoesntCare Oct 2023 #58
Well Bless Your Heart. I was not even responding to the original Post nor about the story. Lochloosa Oct 2023 #66
I read that as the drink was extra-hot, in case she needed to dump it his lap JoseBalow Oct 2023 #20
I stopped into the Highway 1 Brewery along the Coast Highway with my college-age niece. We were on NBachers Oct 2023 #24
Know the hand signal for distress. usonian Oct 2023 #25
Having worked in the food service industry (light years ago) you get used to "reading" fierywoman Oct 2023 #27
Something like this happened to me and I'm a guy. A woman came in and reached for Wonder Why Oct 2023 #35
The Starbucks staff did the right thing. wnylib Oct 2023 #40
Great story! I can't think of a better guardian to keep you safe. NBachers Oct 2023 #41
That one did in 1966 when this experience happened. wnylib Oct 2023 #48
One thing that I didn't mention. wnylib Oct 2023 #49
it was fla. mopinko Oct 2023 #45
EXCELLENT n/t CousinIT Oct 2023 #54
What a great anecdote!!! BobTheSubgenius Oct 2023 #60
It was a judgement call by the staff and they did the right thing. world wide wally Oct 2023 #67
I wish MorbidButterflyTat Oct 2023 #68
This is beautiful ❤️ redqueen Oct 2023 #70
So fucking what if it was an over-reaction??????????? Ferrets are Cool Oct 2023 #73
Crime statistic in general are not necessarily relevanyt to any given situation soldierant Oct 2023 #74
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