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56. I don't see it so much as whining

Mon Dec 4, 2023, 01:03 PM

Dec 2023

But as yet another example of how our safety nets are collapsing around us. For many daycare costs are out of control. The acceptable fallback forever and a day has always been family,especially retired family. No family stepping up when needed means someone will miss work.

I'm glad my child is an adult. I couldn't afford daycare nowadays.

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Boomers are providing less child care to their grandkids than other generations [View all] Demovictory9 Dec 2023 OP

whiney millenials think grandma's house is a daycare for the little ones lol nt msongs Dec 2023 #1

if I used the phrase 'whiney Boomers' here I'd be roasted alive, yet the broad-brush bashing of us younger folk is A-OK Celerity Dec 2023 #14

Seriously! Prairie Gates Dec 2023 #16

'61 boomer but don't feel much like a boomer. Two decade spread there LizBeth Dec 2023 #41

The term "Generation Jones" is catching on for us later boomers. Gidney N Cloyd Dec 2023 #51

I like that and fits our coolest generation at every stage of our life. Not like our label LizBeth Dec 2023 #61

Gen Jones - For those who missed all the goodies the boomers got. Merlot Dec 2023 #62

Like Vietnam? niyad Dec 2023 #78

And widespread gay bashing? thucythucy Dec 2023 #106

Exactly!!! niyad Dec 2023 #110

If you think the Jones generation ExWhoDoesntCare Dec 2023 #120

I'm very sorry to hear about your experience. thucythucy Dec 2023 #124

They only first came up with date rape in early 80's about the same time they came out with the drug LizBeth Dec 2023 #131

I assume you're being ironic, yes? thucythucy Dec 2023 #132

You do realize that Vietnam ExWhoDoesntCare Dec 2023 #121

OFFS, of course I realize it, I was there too. Nowhere was I dismissing what niyad Dec 2023 #122

Keep drinking! TheKentuckian Dec 2023 #113

the article is about millenials and they are whining. nobody is obligated to do their parenting for them nt msongs Dec 2023 #99

bollocks, 'whining' is a pejorative framing meant to belittle, mock, and delegitimise Celerity Dec 2023 #119

The point of the article being, Boomers did not have to whine to get parents as daycare LizBeth Dec 2023 #39

That is a wild generalization. viva la Dec 2023 #55

I agree...boomer years are when Americans began movi g away from family Demovictory9 Dec 2023 #89

Exactly... we got the ------ out. B.See Dec 2023 #111

My parents, born in the 1920s, already moved away after college DFW Dec 2023 #149

Thank you for the fairly realistic essay, Viva La. My own comments are at #136 "My grandma was 3,000 miles away" Hekate Dec 2023 #140

I agree-- that article relied on rosy-past stereotypes- viva la Dec 2023 #142

The point of the criticism of the article being thucythucy Dec 2023 #104

I wish! Bluesaph Dec 2023 #118

I don't see it so much as whining xmas74 Dec 2023 #56

I agree-- we should think of this as "Half a century of lousy daycare options." viva la Dec 2023 #67

and boomers claim those damn kids are selfish for not spawning pstokely Dec 2023 #117

Right. And I say enough already. How many times is this thread going to run and be argued out here on DU? brush Dec 2023 #126

You mean I missed the others??? niyad Dec 2023 #129

Over and over this has run. You see the number of reponses are in the hundred, right? brush Dec 2023 #130

Sad to read. Blue Dawn Dec 2023 #159

I'm not sure JustAnotherGen Dec 2023 #2

Ya, myu parents did not have parents to hand off. I didn't hand off my kids often at all LizBeth Dec 2023 #42

Another blame boomers post by Millennials who can't figure out their own lives? brush Dec 2023 #3

+1 betsuni Dec 2023 #6

Amen. DURHAM D Dec 2023 #23

Must be they don't want to wear the shoes the same way. LiberalFighter Dec 2023 #37

don't matter how... just wear 'em B.See Dec 2023 #112

This message was self-deleted by its author DURHAM D Dec 2023 #24

This message was self-deleted by its author RandySF Dec 2023 #4

The article ignores RandySF Dec 2023 #5

That's very true. Haggard Celine Dec 2023 #8

Raising 2 grandkids here. yagotme Dec 2023 #125

That's Bull crap Tickle Dec 2023 #7

It's less about being "too busy" and more about living too-far-away. Oopsie Daisy Dec 2023 #9

Yes, this is the main factor. honest.abe Dec 2023 #22

Spot on. n/t yorkster Dec 2023 #30

I haven't Delphinus Dec 2023 #93

Interesting given the trend a few years ago of Boomers BECOMING the parents when their hlthe2b Dec 2023 #10

A lot of us snowybirdie Dec 2023 #11

It's all situational nitpicked Dec 2023 #12

This is a more realistic and balanced viewpoint. Rec n/t ms liberty Dec 2023 #20

Interesting malaise Dec 2023 #13

Poor Mom is stressed out? llmart Dec 2023 #25

True but dad is usually there to help out malaise Dec 2023 #29

I realize my situation when I was a young mother is not the norm... llmart Dec 2023 #32

Younhad it hard malaise Dec 2023 #34

It's easier when there's a little "village"-- viva la Dec 2023 #68

My dad was a Green Beret JustAnotherGen Dec 2023 #82

Thank you! llmart Dec 2023 #84

People don't want to leave their kids with their boomer parents Prairie Gates Dec 2023 #15

"aren't most boomer's grandkids getting too old for babysitting?" llmart Dec 2023 #27

Born in 1963 exboyfil Dec 2023 #40

I am a boomer born 61, my boys 28 and 25. So gonna say.... meh. LizBeth Dec 2023 #44

In my experience Bettie Dec 2023 #128

The youngest boomers are not yet 60. Sky Jewels Dec 2023 #65

Neither of my boomer siblings are even 65 yet TheKentuckian Dec 2023 #116

Our four grandkids are 9 months, and 2,3 and 5 years old DFW Dec 2023 #147

This JustAnotherGen Dec 2023 #155

Eh, not my personal experience. phylny Dec 2023 #17

It's great you can support your kids with babysitting Demovictory9 Dec 2023 #18

Oh, I love it. In fact, she's sick with a fever (but otherwise very rambuctius and happy today) phylny Dec 2023 #60

Cry me a river. I do travel as much as I want and sinkingfeeling Dec 2023 #19

I always want to laugh when an article points out that (some) Boomers have disposable income. viva la Dec 2023 #69

But it was much, much, much easier to pay rent and buy houses and cars Sky Jewels Dec 2023 #87

What's odd is... supply and demand in education. viva la Dec 2023 #133

That's true. Unfortunately, Sky Jewels Dec 2023 #134

In my state, it's required that the 4-year public colleges accept cc transfer credit. viva la Dec 2023 #135

I'm a boomer (late stage, 1959) and I grew up a solid 8 hour drive from the grandparents ms liberty Dec 2023 #21

Again in these articles, we GenXers (who also have Boomer parents) are completely Xed out..... marmar Dec 2023 #26

Shhhhhhh! EllieBC Dec 2023 #31

It really is amazing. I know it's a "small" generation, but... so often ignored. viva la Dec 2023 #71

My mom hated that term JustAnotherGen Dec 2023 #156

I know. It's almost comical. Sky Jewels Dec 2023 #88

Every damn time. I'm GenX with Silent Generation parents, two groups Wingus Dingus Dec 2023 #123

Yeah JustAnotherGen Dec 2023 #154

Shocked!!!! edisdead Dec 2023 #28

This is such bullshit. EllieBC Dec 2023 #33

Months in advance? I call that hogwash!! LiberalFighter Dec 2023 #35

Some younger boomers may have elderly parents yorkster Dec 2023 #36

The article appears to be entirely anecdotal. nt Voltaire2 Dec 2023 #38

I know. And every single one of us can match that author anecdote for anecdote. viva la Dec 2023 #74

Can we ever! DFW Dec 2023 #150

I am a mid-period boomer and my two children (now in their early 40s) are childless by choice. Chainfire Dec 2023 #43

This survey does not include me Freddie Dec 2023 #45

I don't remember my grandparents in the 50's Emile Dec 2023 #46

Talked to my son after they had the grandbaby MOMFUDSKI Dec 2023 #47

LOL Emile Dec 2023 #49

Boomer here edhopper Dec 2023 #48

Not in my neighborhood. hunter Dec 2023 #50

Neither my generation, nor my marybourg Dec 2023 #52

++++ same here. Diamond_Dog Dec 2023 #101

an affluent subset of boomers are traveling and dining out frequently DBoon Dec 2023 #53

This! nt redqueen Dec 2023 #63

My kid is 3k miles away.. viva la Dec 2023 #54

This boomer would love to see her grandkids more but I'M STILL WORKING! Beaverhausen Dec 2023 #57

Boomers mostly refused to look after their own parents as well. NameAlreadyTaken Dec 2023 #58

Not in my experience. Akacia Dec 2023 #64

Every female boomer I know took the lead in taking care of their parents in their later years Beaverhausen Dec 2023 #66

I don't think that is very true. viva la Dec 2023 #73

Wrong Delphinus Dec 2023 #94

Not at all my experience. thucythucy Dec 2023 #108

Then you know an entirely different set of Boomers than most of us do, and are. niyad Dec 2023 #109

This, thank you Hekate Dec 2023 #141

Based on what data? Voltaire2 Dec 2023 #152

Hmmm. The example, a 61 year old, is barely a boomer ismnotwasm Dec 2023 #59

At the snap of a finger? Jesus... nolabear Dec 2023 #70

Entitlement is sure rampant in today's society nini Dec 2023 #72

Because people are having children later Johonny Dec 2023 #75

Message auto-removed Name removed Dec 2023 #81

Sounds like malarkey to me, elleng Dec 2023 #76

I never lived near my parents or inlaws--my husband's career Wingus Dingus Dec 2023 #77

That tracks. Bok_Tukalo Dec 2023 #79

Message auto-removed Name removed Dec 2023 #80

How many of those "Boomers" are still working themselves? GoCubsGo Dec 2023 #83

Apparently, when you finally CAN stop working, you're supposed to sit at home Wingus Dingus Dec 2023 #86

LOL B.See Dec 2023 #115

Many work into their 70s DBoon Dec 2023 #107

One reason I don't have kids is I had no expectation of any help from parents Iris Dec 2023 #85

My sister and Rebl2 Dec 2023 #90

My grandparents were in their late 40s when they watched me Kaleva Dec 2023 #91

Message auto-removed Name removed Dec 2023 #92

A Counter Anecdote ProfessorGAC Dec 2023 #95

My wife and I are early 50s Boomers. Mr.Bill Dec 2023 #96

My parents used to drop us off at our grandparents for entire summers ecstatic Dec 2023 #97

I have watched my grandkids twice that way Tree Lady Dec 2023 #143

Who is surprised by this? budkin Dec 2023 #98

Is that an informed statement of fact you're giving us, thucythucy Dec 2023 #102

....riiiiight.... B.See Dec 2023 #114

"Majority" yagotme Dec 2023 #127

Gen Xer here, and this article is hilarious. flvegan Dec 2023 #100

My next door neighbor just retired early from her senseandsensibility Dec 2023 #103

Thank you. thucythucy Dec 2023 #105

Division senseandsensibility Dec 2023 #139

My grandma was 3,000 miles away. My mother had me for a babysitter from 11 y.o. onward. Hekate Dec 2023 #136

One thing we can do to bring our DU blood pressure down is consider the source: Business Insider Hekate Dec 2023 #137

Not these boomers. redwitch Dec 2023 #138

Remember what boomers were treestar Dec 2023 #144

Boomer with Silent Gen parents shanti Dec 2023 #145

This isn't our experience either. We keep our grandchildren all the time. GoodRaisin Dec 2023 #146

My parents used to take overnight trips Dorian Gray Dec 2023 #148

I am gen x. My children needed some minding for a couple hours a day. boston bean Dec 2023 #151

We certainly do find meaningless things to be concerned about... Think. Again. Dec 2023 #153

Tail end boomer Woodwizard Dec 2023 #157

This message was self-deleted by its author sinkingfeeling Dec 2023 #158

When Family Help Becomes Unreliable, Childcare Takes Over truddy777 Jan 18 #160