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MadameButterfly

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14. ok to be happy about the passing of an abuser

Reply to CousinIT (Reply #9)

Thu Dec 7, 2023, 05:20 PM

Dec 2023

You have no repsonsiblility to be noble here. While your sister may mourn, he wasn't good for her and she couldn't let go. Now she is free. i'm glad she survived him and has a chance to be her real self without his influence.

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BIL who molested me as a preteen/teen is dying [View all] CousinIT Dec 2023 OP

*HUGS* TSExile Dec 2023 #1

Thank you. CousinIT Dec 2023 #3

No... Think. Again. Dec 2023 #18

I am hoping that without his MAGA brainwashing... CousinIT Dec 2023 #27

Heavens. I can really appreciate the conflicted feelings but it sounds like you are trying to hlthe2b Dec 2023 #2

I have learned to live with the fact that.. CousinIT Dec 2023 #7

He should have been prosecuted for statutory rape! Your sister married that POS? Amazing that Ziggysmom Dec 2023 #19

Yes he should have been prosecuted. And I was not his only instance ... CousinIT Dec 2023 #26

I had a nasty brother in law who used to put me and my husband down kimbutgar Dec 2023 #4

Yes I have been trying not to be happy ... CousinIT Dec 2023 #9

ok to be happy about the passing of an abuser MadameButterfly Dec 2023 #14

No, you are not a nasty person. You are human. redqueen Dec 2023 #5

Thank you. Good advice. CousinIT Dec 2023 #10

I'm so sorry. MorbidButterflyTat Dec 2023 #6

my advice? WhiteTara Dec 2023 #8

Hmm....Have a one-person party. CousinIT Dec 2023 #11

Kind of on topic BOSSHOG Dec 2023 #13

That sounds awesome! I hope they do exactly as you said. CousinIT Dec 2023 #25

I don't think you're a nasty person at all. IMO, the fact that you're so reflective petronius Dec 2023 #12

My hat's off to you. pandr32 Dec 2023 #15

You are holding the high ground. Best of luck through the process. Chainfire Dec 2023 #16

"a good person but is a RWer and bigoted, sexist" JoseBalow Dec 2023 #17

She is kind and giving to her family (most of the time) CousinIT Dec 2023 #22

My wife spent time this summer with her dying father, who had sexually.... 70sEraVet Dec 2023 #20

Wow. It is sad to see them sick, old and feeble.. CousinIT Dec 2023 #23

You sound like a . . . people Dec 2023 #21

I wish they thought so! CousinIT Dec 2023 #24

I'm so sorry for your sense of loss...... essaynnc Dec 2023 #28

My God, you are a wonderful person... Joinfortmill Dec 2023 #29

You are not a "nasty person". LoisB Dec 2023 #30

Loving your sister despite her MAGA politics shows you're a better person Warpy Dec 2023 #31

There's nothing bad about calling out people for exactly what they are canuckledragger Dec 2023 #32

I don't blame you. I have alcoholics in my family too and would not tolerate that CousinIT Dec 2023 #34

My sister and I didn't mourn, we felt relief. ArkansasDemocrat1 Dec 2023 #33

The pedophile is gone CousinIT Dec 2023 #35

His time has come. Goddessartist Dec 2023 #36

I plan to. CousinIT Dec 2023 #37

Yay! Goddessartist Dec 2023 #38

Huggggs. You are not a nasty person. Your feelings, or lack thereof, are yours, niyad Dec 2023 #39

I am disappointed she married that shit CousinIT Dec 2023 #40