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140. Yes. This is a common approach. And that's why so many

Reply to Chuuku Davis (Reply #123)

Sun Feb 25, 2024, 09:10 AM

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men are complaining that women won't sleep with them.

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"OK. For every bro who has EVER taken issue with the term MANSPLAINING. Bros. Here it is." [View all] redqueen Feb 2024 OP

I get -splained by both men and women constantly. AZLD4Candidate Feb 2024 #1

From recent articles I've read, more & more Americans feel the same & it's especially prevalent with young people. -nt CrispyQ Feb 2024 #5

How does not holding doors for anyone MorbidButterflyTat Feb 2024 #12

"I don't need any man to hold a door for me." Been told that alot AZLD4Candidate Feb 2024 #13

That's not splaining. It's someone asserting their boundaries. meadowlander Feb 2024 #16

it's called being nice. i know it's not common today. AZLD4Candidate Feb 2024 #36

If you want to be nice, hold the door open for everyone. meadowlander Feb 2024 #49

i used to. i got it from both sexes, but more from females. AZLD4Candidate Feb 2024 #57

Men have said this to you? MorbidButterflyTat Feb 2024 #82

No. men have questioned my heterosexuality when i held a door open for them AZLD4Candidate Feb 2024 #113

So, did they mansplain opening doors for people? obamanut2012 Feb 2024 #212

Agreed. I'm a woman in my mid-60s, I hold doors for everyone, and I've never once gotten a negative response. yardwork Feb 2024 #150

Ditto, though some people sail through without a "thanks" spooky3 Feb 2024 #175

Ouch. herding cats Feb 2024 #125

when you spend fifty years doing nothing but demonizing, harping "stranger danger," AZLD4Candidate Feb 2024 #127

Who is the "you" in your first sentence meadowlander Feb 2024 #192

#NotAllMen revival. betsuni Feb 2024 #194

"you" is society in general. AZLD4Candidate Feb 2024 #195

So what is your point in this thread? Tree-Hugger Feb 2024 #204

The only men considered to be creeps by women are creeps and creepy "nice guys" obamanut2012 Feb 2024 #211

Women, not females obamanut2012 Feb 2024 #134

Calling women "females" is a dead giveaway. betsuni Feb 2024 #137

100% this obamanut2012 Feb 2024 #161

It sure is Tree-Hugger Feb 2024 #172

And the problem is there is zero learning going on for this person, only arguing louder Eliot Rosewater Feb 2024 #220

"Here, Little-Lady! Lemme help you with that! Come on through! There ya go!" Oopsie Daisy Feb 2024 #173

Straight out of the "but I'm a nice guy" playbook. meadowlander Feb 2024 #188

Which is really creepy. betsuni Feb 2024 #197

What's the opposite of virtue-signaling? Oopsie Daisy Feb 2024 #198

You nailed it. I am a woman of colour and many times a White guy will hold the door for a White female and let it go as akbacchus_BC Feb 2024 #77

I can honestly say I've never done that. It's called not doing to other things you do hot want others to do to you AZLD4Candidate Feb 2024 #121

I'm so sorry that happens to you. yardwork Feb 2024 #151

Do you actually think this man was being nice? AwakeAtLast Feb 2024 #64

didn't watch. don't watch. all i know is to not help or try to help. AZLD4Candidate Feb 2024 #72

I had to think about Samuel L Jackson line in Pulp Fiction Walleye Feb 2024 #99

or the bumper sticker I have seen: "When I want your advice I'll beat it out of you" EX500rider Feb 2024 #100

There used to be a sign where I worked and that said, "when I want any shit from you,I'll kick it out of you" Walleye Feb 2024 #102

violence is always the answer. AZLD4Candidate Feb 2024 #114

violence is always the answer. AZLD4Candidate Feb 2024 #115

which is the reason i've pretty much told humanity to go to hell. AZLD4Candidate Feb 2024 #116

Because you are mansplaining what mansplaining is obamanut2012 Feb 2024 #210

I sincerely dont know about anyone else, but the posts I look forward to the most on message Eliot Rosewater Feb 2024 #222

Didnt even watch the video, he admits. Wow... Eliot Rosewater Feb 2024 #221

u might want to watch it. mopinko Feb 2024 #142

Well, you high jacked this thread to make it all about you. yardwork Feb 2024 #152

Didn't watch the video kcr Feb 2024 #206

If a man holds the door for a woman in a way that suggests he's doing it BECAUSE she's a woman RandomNumbers Feb 2024 #147

It's their problem, not ours. yardwork Feb 2024 #154

Larry David's door-holding rule: type + distance. betsuni Feb 2024 #193

Or some demand others be nice to them. But don't reciprocate. LiberalFighter Feb 2024 #223

One of the rules to dating me usedtobedemgurl Feb 2024 #18

My Wife Hasn't Touched A Door Handle... ProfessorGAC Feb 2024 #41

Oh, My, God! How did this come to be about opening doors?? Scrivener7 Feb 2024 #87

She Expects ProfessorGAC Feb 2024 #97

That would be a deal breaker for me, too GenThePerservering Feb 2024 #75

Some women ask for flowers.... usedtobedemgurl Feb 2024 #76

Guess you may be GenThePerservering Feb 2024 #110

I am 76 years old and have never anciano Feb 2024 #22

hold it open. smile. let person pass. AZLD4Candidate Feb 2024 #37

Yep, how you do it. When i was in my hot 20's, i opened a big glass door but saw a guy right behind txwhitedove Feb 2024 #50

Same here malaise Feb 2024 #80

Yeah, I'm sure it happens aaaaaall the time.... Shit! It just happened to me as Carlitos Brigante Feb 2024 #24

it doesn't anymore. i don't hold doors for anyone. AZLD4Candidate Feb 2024 #35

That's hilarious! nt Carlitos Brigante Feb 2024 #38

Smile at them and say "Yes, you are absolutely right!" Bernardo de La Paz Feb 2024 #55

In Canada, people automatically hold doors for the next person, no matter gender or age Bernardo de La Paz Feb 2024 #19

that's pretty much how it is in the South.....their politics suck but they got manners prodigitalson Feb 2024 #23

That's how it is here in the northeast too. This raging door-holding controversy is not really a thing anywhere. Scrivener7 Feb 2024 #224

Many Times, I've Held The Door For Someone... ProfessorGAC Feb 2024 #40

Same in Ohio. n/t Ms. Toad Feb 2024 #44

They do in the US, too obamanut2012 Feb 2024 #162

You must live in a very odd place. Ms. Toad Feb 2024 #43

I love how dismissive people are when they say "well that never happened to you." AZLD4Candidate Feb 2024 #117

Since the experience of the on point comments in this thread are very different from your experience, Ms. Toad Feb 2024 #126

Open, smile, let person pass, close and then go about my business. AZLD4Candidate Feb 2024 #128

Well said, Ms Toad obamanut2012 Feb 2024 #163

She didn't say that. yardwork Feb 2024 #155

How long ago were you in university? Scrivener7 Feb 2024 #171

Sounds rather serious. Torchlight Feb 2024 #53

Thanks. I just had a novel published and getting a movie produced this year. AZLD4Candidate Feb 2024 #118

I do not understand what that has to do with the door discussion obamanut2012 Feb 2024 #164

What? 😂 AkFemDem Feb 2024 #184

yep. edisdead Feb 2024 #73

BAHAHA!!!! You seem upset! Scrivener7 Feb 2024 #86

and you're reaction and comment is borderline cyber-bullying. AZLD4Candidate Feb 2024 #119

. Scrivener7 Feb 2024 #139

No, it isn't obamanut2012 Feb 2024 #165

Well have a little sympathy for us, I know you've never had it happen to you Walleye Feb 2024 #98

I've had women come up to me and tell me how to teach my class or how to do a bench press. AZLD4Candidate Feb 2024 #120

I will resist the urge to womansplain to you why that's not the same thing Walleye Feb 2024 #122

Wow. I don't have that reaction at all. yardwork Feb 2024 #149

And the OP, which the poster openly admits he has not watched, has nothing to do with one guy's door opening traumas. Scrivener7 Feb 2024 #170

In his defense, though, he wouldn't know because he didn't watch the video. yardwork Feb 2024 #174

That isn't being considerate of anyone, man or woman. Lonestarblue Feb 2024 #153

Mansplainging Bro should've been minding his own damn business MagickMuffin Feb 2024 #2

I was blown away PatSeg Feb 2024 #30

Guarantee she has experienced this many times. Mariana Feb 2024 #148

That is probably true PatSeg Feb 2024 #169

Golfers should NEVER give swing advice PJMcK Feb 2024 #3

I've had the same goddamn experience. Too many "experts" on the golf course who are just fucking weekend duffers. SoFlaBro Feb 2024 #21

The worst duffers seem to be the ones quickest to give advice. rubbersole Feb 2024 #27

I NEVER Give Swing Advice ProfessorGAC Feb 2024 #48

I do an 'Arnold Palmer" swing obamanut2012 Feb 2024 #166

Yup, I took a session of training at Golftec, and would often come in with questions robbob Feb 2024 #168

How not to flirt. SarahD Feb 2024 #4

Was just thinking limbicnuminousity Feb 2024 #10

... Hermit-The-Prog Feb 2024 #6

To protect my poor kitty's sensitive system, I will not watch the video. But I niyad Feb 2024 #7

😬👜🧱🤕 Floyd R. Turbo Feb 2024 #11

Exactly! niyad Feb 2024 #15

😁 Floyd R. Turbo Feb 2024 #17

Good to see you FRT moniss Feb 2024 #29

That's pretty funny. My favorite Rodney Dangerfield was what he said Walleye Feb 2024 #103

Thank you! Floyd R. Turbo Feb 2024 #138

I (F) was once practicing lobs using the tennis ball machine, when spooky3 Feb 2024 #8

K&R - nt Ohio Joe Feb 2024 #9

I watch the LPGA. They are outstanding. Fun too. twodogsbarking Feb 2024 #14

I prefer the LPGA moniss Feb 2024 #31

Biggest Reason For Me To Watch The Women... ProfessorGAC Feb 2024 #51

Ex-hubby was a 5 handicap golfer and said the pro women's technique spooky3 Feb 2024 #58

I Agfee With Him ProfessorGAC Feb 2024 #63

Excellent analysis moniss Feb 2024 #74

Also, With No Stats... ProfessorGAC Feb 2024 #85

Unbelievable short games. rubbersole Feb 2024 #61

She is more than kind. I don't know how she took multiple doses of that moron! Hope22 Feb 2024 #20

Hey, at least he's not a Karen. He wasn't all over her with anger and mean accusations, probably thought he ws being TeamProg Feb 2024 #25

Are you mansplaining right now???? AKwannabe Feb 2024 #26

Mansplaining a mansplainer? cate94 Feb 2024 #28

Woosh! Torchlight Feb 2024 #54

That's a little vague, probably meant to be offensive. Is that the sound of my comment going over your head? TeamProg Feb 2024 #62

Yes some random bloke must most certainly be better than a woman professional player. Hope22 Feb 2024 #78

Wow! This thread encompasses ALL the butthurt!!! Scrivener7 Feb 2024 #89

It's certainly filled my bingo card! yardwork Feb 2024 #156

Right? SunSeeker Feb 2024 #189

He was monumentally oblivious. limbicnuminousity Feb 2024 #129

If in doubt, ask yourself if the person I want to advise spooky3 Feb 2024 #177

Please say this is sarcasm 😂 AkFemDem Feb 2024 #185

that's a derogatory and sexist term and should be banned from DU. Red Raider 85 Feb 2024 #32

Men are not being bashed... Ohio Joe Feb 2024 #45

Agreed, so then call it "Misogynistic douchebag-splaining". TeamProg Feb 2024 #101

Spare meat part log Ohio Joe Feb 2024 #104

Missed it by that much. TeamProg Feb 2024 #215

There is nothing wrong with mansplaining -- and mansplaining why it shouldn't be called that is something else obamanut2012 Feb 2024 #214

It's not man bashing, but an accurate observation Mosby Feb 2024 #47

The term correctly notes that the explainer is typically male and spooky3 Feb 2024 #59

Thanks for mansplaining it to us. johnp3907 Feb 2024 #60

Welcome to DU - GoneOffShore Feb 2024 #65

Just Silly ProfessorGAC Feb 2024 #66

If that is the way you mercuryblues Feb 2024 #70

It must be so difficult for you. Scrivener7 Feb 2024 #90

It describes a certain type of behavior. It's not "bashing" all men. Sky Jewels Feb 2024 #158

yes it does. right in the term! it's sexist and derogatory. Red Raider 85 Feb 2024 #208

lolz obamanut2012 Feb 2024 #209

lol obamanut2012 Feb 2024 #205

Too bad she didn't "accidentally" Sky Jewels Feb 2024 #33

Where does a mansplainer get his water? central scrutinizer Feb 2024 #34

What A Dick! ProfessorGAC Feb 2024 #39

I misread the tile for manscaping Polybius Feb 2024 #42

Demetri Martin mac56 Feb 2024 #46

I don't get the drama around opening and holding doors. Demobrat Feb 2024 #52

Same. MorbidButterflyTat Feb 2024 #81

This is not about opening doors. SalviaBlue Feb 2024 #83

Thank you for the clarification. Demobrat Feb 2024 #88

Seems like a subject some people REALLY want to talk about. Even though it has NOTHING Scrivener7 Feb 2024 #92

unsolicited advice darbus Feb 2024 #56

There are probably times it's okay, if you see someone visibly struggling... Silent3 Feb 2024 #68

Not real mansplaining till he spoons up behind her and guides her swing Bucky Feb 2024 #67

No, that's assault. llmart Feb 2024 #69

Wow, that guy's just a bag of whoosh (empty, stale air in this context). Torchlight Feb 2024 #71

Oh! I see where I went wrong! Aussie105 Feb 2024 #79

This not about opening doors. SalviaBlue Feb 2024 #84

Poor dear. Scrivener7 Feb 2024 #93

I see where you went wrong too. johnp3907 Feb 2024 #96

Why are they always attractive? Iggo Feb 2024 #109

You seem to be the common denominator GenThePerservering Feb 2024 #112

I get the same shit at the shooting range vercetti2021 Feb 2024 #91

Lordy, this thread! You did it this time, redqueen! You showed a blatant example of stunningly Scrivener7 Feb 2024 #94

It is flabbergasting obamanut2012 Feb 2024 #167

Classic kcr Feb 2024 #207

The killer here is that the solution to this behavior is super simple. Jedi Guy Feb 2024 #95

A man needs his chat-up lines. Aussie105 Feb 2024 #106

"A man needs his chat-up lines." Jedi Guy Feb 2024 #108

No. That's actually not what mansplaining means at all. Scrivener7 Feb 2024 #111

No, you're describing a bore. Anybody can be a bore. betsuni Feb 2024 #133

That is 100% not what mansplaining is obamanut2012 Feb 2024 #135

I'll go a tiny step further. meadowlander Feb 2024 #190

Did you hear about the mansplainer who drowned in a puddle? Iggo Feb 2024 #105

Ok that's good redqueen Feb 2024 #107

Oh good grief Chuuku Davis Feb 2024 #123

And there you have it. SHE kept saying NO by indicating non-interest... Hekate Feb 2024 #130

Wow obamanut2012 Feb 2024 #136

Yes. This is a common approach. And that's why so many Scrivener7 Feb 2024 #140

Unbelievable. nt redqueen Feb 2024 #141

It's hilarious some people still get touchy about the word mansplaining. betsuni Feb 2024 #124

Beautiful, just beautiful Hekate Feb 2024 #131

A clear, easy-to-understand example of mansplaining. Like an elephant turd on the carpet. betsuni Feb 2024 #132

Thanks for that. redqueen Feb 2024 #143

And the one who hijacked the thread and Scrivener7 Feb 2024 #144

That subthread infuriated me obamanut2012 Feb 2024 #160

You summed it up perfectly. SunSeeker Feb 2024 #191

I read that earlier obamanut2012 Feb 2024 #159

Yes, but... Tree-Hugger Feb 2024 #157

But laughing at mansplaining usually works, too. lindysalsagal Feb 2024 #145

Has the male golfing "expert" ever been identified, to see his reaction when he learned who the woman golfer was? TheRickles Feb 2024 #146

The ultimate in mansplainin'... lapucelle Feb 2024 #176

Omg, I still grind my teeth every time I see that clip. 😆 MerryBlooms Feb 2024 #178

In case you've never read the origin story... lapucelle Feb 2024 #179

Thanks for refreshing my memory. I have read that piece. MerryBlooms Feb 2024 #182

Thanks. I quoted Solnit from her book in an above comment but didn't think to find a link! betsuni Feb 2024 #187

Guaranteed trumper. Eliot Rosewater Feb 2024 #180

Meh- I've had plenty of men AkFemDem Feb 2024 #186

Yes, my comment was off base. You are right. Eliot Rosewater Feb 2024 #219

This thread shows us it crosses political lines. Scrivener7 Feb 2024 #199

Yes it does, absolutely, as most examples show. betsuni Feb 2024 #200

I see that now... Eliot Rosewater Feb 2024 #218

Maybe not Tree-Hugger Feb 2024 #202

I stand corrected, so far the posts arguing are newbies...maybe they are trumpers...I havent Eliot Rosewater Feb 2024 #217

The thing that's funny is he probably thinks he's flirting n/t TexasBushwhacker Feb 2024 #181

It looked like dad-splainin to me. ecstatic Feb 2024 #183

Dickbag JI7 Feb 2024 #196

This thread is a trip. The subthreads, the ridiculous excuses. Wow. n/t ms liberty Feb 2024 #201

This thread proves.... Tree-Hugger Feb 2024 #203

Whinesplaining on that sub-thread nt GenThePerservering Feb 2024 #213

Reading the entire thread kind of validates the original premise a bit in places. Torchlight Feb 2024 #216