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Silent3

(15,909 posts)
67. I'm sorry you've had to go through that
Sun Mar 3, 2024, 09:06 PM
Mar 2024

Fortunately, on the stranger attack side of things, your experience isn't typical for women.

Objectively speaking, men have more to worry about when out and about in the world, albeit that any violent attack is less likely to have a sexual component. Men, however, don't stress so much about personal safety... well, except perhaps for all of the gun-humpers, and I don't know if they're so much worried for their own safety rather than fantasizing about getting an excuse to shoot someone.

So, are women is general worrying too much, relative to actual risk, or are men worrying too little?

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Yup. TSExile Mar 2024 #1
This! Hope22 Mar 2024 #2
I'm two for two. Demobrat Mar 2024 #23
Sending love to you! 💗💗💗 Hope22 Mar 2024 #24
That was very smart of you. raccoon Mar 2024 #32
Yep. calimary Mar 2024 #3
That is what I was taught to do in NYC in 1979 BigmanPigman Mar 2024 #12
I've also heard "Smile!" Diamond_Dog Mar 2024 #16
I've heard it all my life. Demobrat Mar 2024 #25
Oh, most definitely! Diamond_Dog Mar 2024 #35
If you don't smile on command you're a bitch. Demobrat Mar 2024 #50
Yep. Diamond_Dog Mar 2024 #52
This. JudyM Mar 2024 #57
I don't have your self control. BigmanPigman Mar 2024 #69
Elevator conversation: BlueSky3 Mar 2024 #60
I didn't know the thing about the keys till much later but I figured out the rest: purse worn bandolier style... Hekate Mar 2024 #26
It just seemed like a good idea to me. Look like you're more trouble than you're worth. calimary Mar 2024 #39
I'm glad I'm an old enough guy now COL Mustard Mar 2024 #71
I never did that because I have weak arms and couldn't defend myself that way, thought more about betsuni Mar 2024 #31
Consider a loop or lanyard so you can swing them nilram Mar 2024 #42
All of us Hekate Mar 2024 #4
That's a true statement. sinkingfeeling Mar 2024 #5
Yes. KarenS Mar 2024 #6
I imagine so redqueen Mar 2024 #7
Like clockwork. Scrivener7 Mar 2024 #10
Not every woman. PoindexterOglethorpe Mar 2024 #8
I have a relative who decided to become a Christian and go to church by herself at the age of five. barbaraann Mar 2024 #53
I know it's true. From what I've read, more women are arming up nowadays. Can't blame them Silent Type Mar 2024 #9
I carried a mace pen Give Peace A Chance Mar 2024 #44
Ive been walking down the street and the man behind me has made a point of crossing to the other side Demovictory9 Mar 2024 #54
Interesting. PoindexterOglethorpe Mar 2024 #75
I have eight stitches BlueSky3 Mar 2024 #62
All of the above. Scrivener7 Mar 2024 #11
driven to police station KentuckyWoman Mar 2024 #13
I do this even now. Diamond_Dog Mar 2024 #36
Better yet DENVERPOPS Mar 2024 #49
It's certainly true of my wife; she has lots of stories along those lines. n/t. NNadir Mar 2024 #14
From a couple of years ago TexasBushwhacker Mar 2024 #15
I adore #10. soldierant Mar 2024 #70
Number #1 is so basic TexasBushwhacker Mar 2024 #74
oh yeah... bluboid Mar 2024 #17
It was on Threads. Not mine. See the link at the top. applegrove Mar 2024 #27
Yup. Joinfortmill Mar 2024 #18
Yep. summer_in_TX Mar 2024 #19
Wow that's horrifying. Glad you were aware of what was happening and were OK. Diamond_Dog Mar 2024 #37
Thank you, Diamond Dog! summer_in_TX Mar 2024 #77
has held her keys in her hand barbtries Mar 2024 #20
I've stopped going to places I liked due to men harassing me. Oneironaut Mar 2024 #21
All the above, except when I said no, they (3 different ones that I recall) stopped. fierywoman Mar 2024 #22
All of the above! Mossfern Mar 2024 #28
Yet the greatest danger to women isn't from attacks out of the blue out in the streets... Silent3 Mar 2024 #29
Absolutely. TSExile Mar 2024 #34
this Kali Mar 2024 #59
I've been attacked by both. Demobrat Mar 2024 #64
I'm sorry you've had to go through that Silent3 Mar 2024 #67
Yes to all. niyad Mar 2024 #30
I was 6 months pregnant and working second MOMFUDSKI Mar 2024 #33
Wait. You pulled over for an unmarked police car? vanlassie Mar 2024 #48
It was 1969 and I had the doors locked and MOMFUDSKI Mar 2024 #65
100% mcar Mar 2024 #38
Every woman you know has also driven scared. lark Mar 2024 #40
My mom used to make frequent drives between a home in Colorado, and one in New Mexico. Crunchy Frog Mar 2024 #61
You gotta do what you gotta do GenThePerservering Mar 2024 #68
A guy followed my Aunt out of the mall and MOMFUDSKI Mar 2024 #66
Being stalked is terrifying. I remember one leftyladyfrommo Mar 2024 #41
Every. Single. One. AmBlue Mar 2024 #43
And we have to teach our daughters to do those things and think like they're prey, Timeflyer Mar 2024 #45
I try to live my life in peace and harmony but... dwking66 Mar 2024 #46
Or ducked into a store or stopped a stranger to chat. flying_wahini Mar 2024 #47
My husband didn't understand why I took a slightly phylny Mar 2024 #51
A kick in the nuts works wonders nt GenThePerservering Mar 2024 #55
First time when I was 14 walking home from HS senseandsensibility Mar 2024 #56
Yup. When I worked downtown and had to park in ramps Ocelot II Mar 2024 #58
Yep, and the Republicans are backing a rapist. PurgedVoter Mar 2024 #63
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damn. Conjuay Mar 2024 #73
And has been chased, either on foot or in car or both. Sky Jewels Mar 2024 #76
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