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In reply to the discussion: "I need feminism because..." [View all]wickerwoman
(5,662 posts)it's about the culture that enables them- frat boys binge drinking, going to strip clubs, exposing themselves to women on the street... there are many groups of "men" where objectifying and disrespecting women is an acceptable way to have a good time on a Friday night and within that group there may be one or two men who woud actually rape a woman and five or six others who wouldn't but also wouldn't turn in a buddy they saw doing it. We could probably make some progress on the five or six so that they might intervene or drop out of the group or report the rape and support the woman's story.
I've worked with guys who might, on the surface, know that "rape is wrong" but who spend an awful lot of time and mental energy calculting how many drinks they would have to buy a girl before they could sleep with her. There's still quite a bit of borderline rapey behaviour that's far too acceptable in mainstream culture.