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In reply to the discussion: "I need feminism because..." [View all]LisaLynne
(14,554 posts)as someone who works closely with students at the university level, there are young men, many of them, actually, who don't know "no means no". Especially, in the cases of aquaintance rape. You are right that there are many out there who know it's wrong and do it anyway, for a myriad of reasons, but there are those who do need such education, from people they respect. I think lately things have maybe been getting a little better, just with the rise in awareness, but honestly, it is still a huge problem.
The point of this message is that why is the responsibility always placed on women? "Don't wear that." "Don't stay out late." "Don't go anywhere alone." Those things don't seem like a big deal until you've really had to live that way. And ultimately, it does push this underlying idea that somehow it's the woman's fault, that women need to be better at controlling their own and others behavior and if they did, there would be no more rape instead of focusing on changing the underlying attitudes that men are socialized with that foster rape.