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290. Unless you are a sociologist, how can you say what the norm was?

I find it incredulous that someone asks their father to confirm what the normal is for a time period. Wow! That's just ignorance. Norms vary from one neighborhood to another, from one town to another, from one college to another. If the OP says it was the norm where he lived, you have to accept his assertion at face value without evidence to the contrary. Perhaps you are a sociologist and you studied the people in his peer group during that time period. Then you should tell us about the results of your studies. Otherwise, you simply can't say it wasn't the norm where he lived, at the time he experienced it, just because it was different for someone else. Come on people. Stick to the arguments that you can make, like values and virtue. You can always argue that he should have known and that he could have stood up to his peers. He was wrong to do what he did. Course, I think he already said that, so even that would be redundant. You could argue he should be in jail. That's an argument that makes sense. Can we talk about this intelligently?