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seabeyond

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42. about 15 my son was having an issue with this. learning nice guys come in last. i was reading a

Sat Dec 1, 2012, 02:00 PM

Dec 2012

thread and a nice guy man explained it. (i married a nice guy. i will only be around nice guys. so i never understood the argument)

he said that it is not that women do not want the nice guys but they are in the background hidden. that yes, they need to have the confidence and put themselves out there. and still be a nice guy.

i do not remember how he said it, but.... it was an excelllent post and has always stayed with me.

i had my son read it. it was perfect for him

over the last couple years, he has put himself out there. he will be chatting with a girl and tell them his number. and if THEY want to chat, he is all for it. he gives it to the girls. he no longer struggles with if they are interested in him, if he is bugging them. they get to take the step.

anyway... i like your two's posts.

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I am female, a feminist and cannot tolerate rape or sexual comments, however.......... [View all] mrmpa Dec 2012 OP

Humor can be more effective and more fun than indignation. Good share. : ) nt rDigital Dec 2012 #1

Good for you! CaliforniaPeggy Dec 2012 #2

Oh wonderful, she made the creep laugh. boston bean Dec 2012 #4

I'm not looking for a fight. CaliforniaPeggy Dec 2012 #8

My take on the exchange, based on what the poster reported? MADem Dec 2012 #27

Yep, he should have showed respect, but he didn't........ mrmpa Dec 2012 #12

i do care about that guy arely staircase Dec 2012 #48

The post in not instructive imho. boston bean Dec 2012 #50

it is often when there is no onus on one that they rise above others arely staircase Dec 2012 #52

There should be no need to rise above that shit, is the point, imho. boston bean Dec 2012 #55

Thank you miss peggy............ mrmpa Dec 2012 #11

Why wouldn't it achieve anything in the long run? A complaint might be a starting point Luminous Animal Dec 2012 #18

sometimes humour is the most effective weapon. niyad Dec 2012 #3

weapon? TorchTheWitch Dec 2012 #25

Just shows how little you understand people nt Confusious Dec 2012 #33

Best defense is a good offense, I guess. nt Deep13 Dec 2012 #5

Good for you! I am glad you felt okay,but I am happier you are safe. hrmjustin Dec 2012 #6

My nephew Justin stopped over this evening.......... mrmpa Dec 2012 #13

Welcome hrmjustin Dec 2012 #14

I would have never had been this clever LeftInTX Dec 2012 #7

my sister (hey Buka!) is so good at this - laruemtt Dec 2012 #9

As long as you felt ok... one_voice Dec 2012 #10

I've never understood how guys can talk like that. white_wolf Dec 2012 #15

Yes, this is me, too. Jim Lane Dec 2012 #41

about 15 my son was having an issue with this. learning nice guys come in last. i was reading a seabeyond Dec 2012 #42

One more suggestion for your son. Jim Lane Dec 2012 #58

No, you're the good kind of person Dash87 Dec 2012 #56

Some men only know how to talk to women... NightOwwl Dec 2012 #16

+1 peacebird Dec 2012 #29

It's not a joke. And it's not ok. redqueen Dec 2012 #35

But telling them to fuck off or giving them the finger is? NightOwwl Dec 2012 #39

Why do you think women have to respond with anger? Simply ignoring works just fine. Luminous Animal Dec 2012 #45

I think you misunderstood my post. NightOwwl Dec 2012 #47

touche indeed! DLnyc Dec 2012 #17

What the ever loving fuck does this have to do with rape. Luminous Animal Dec 2012 #19

it doesn't - as the OP said TorchTheWitch Dec 2012 #20

I never said I thouught it was only about rape. In fact, it has nothing at all to do with rape... Luminous Animal Dec 2012 #38

This story makes no sense. You were flirting with him. He could have easily responded with... Luminous Animal Dec 2012 #21

If a nod and a hello is seen as flirting.............. mrmpa Dec 2012 #24

I am not talking about your nod and smile, I am talking about your verbal response... Luminous Animal Dec 2012 #36

+1 superpatriotman Dec 2012 #40

"Men will kill and die for women" Helen Reddy Dec 2012 #57

lol. well played. alphafemale Dec 2012 #22

I'm brilliant with devastating comebacks Ron Obvious Dec 2012 #23

Jesus, what an asshole and pig! I apologize for all men! n-t Logical Dec 2012 #26

God this is so fucking depressing. redqueen Dec 2012 #28

And she's humoring him Le Taz Hot Dec 2012 #30

Yep. Luminous Animal Dec 2012 #37

Do you believe men treat each other "with respect"? jeff47 Dec 2012 #46

I miss Unrec. Le Taz Hot Dec 2012 #31

What would have happened if you Helen Reddy Dec 2012 #32

Hmm ismnotwasm Dec 2012 #34

I would have given him "the look", snapped a picture of him with my cell phone, and then started Zorra Dec 2012 #43

Glad you're okay XanaDUer Dec 2012 #44

you seem like a very confident, and cool, person arely staircase Dec 2012 #49

You just encouraged that jerk to do it again. darkangel218 Dec 2012 #51

That's great if you felt safe. Chorophyll Dec 2012 #53

What is most important is that your response left you feeling empowered Blasphemer Dec 2012 #54