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In reply to the discussion: I am female, a feminist and cannot tolerate rape or sexual comments, however.......... [View all]Blasphemer
(3,261 posts)54. What is most important is that your response left you feeling empowered
Everyone is different and only you can gauge the tenor of the conversation and the intentions and perceptions of this individual. In many cases, people make these sorts of comments in order to claim some sort of power over you. He likely did not expect any sort of response (after all, it's not as if the two of you were at a bar or club) as it was not so much a "pass" as a power play. You effectively neutralized it. Swearing at him or giving him the finger would have probably confirmed that he has power over you. So good for you!
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I am female, a feminist and cannot tolerate rape or sexual comments, however.......... [View all]
mrmpa
Dec 2012
OP
Why wouldn't it achieve anything in the long run? A complaint might be a starting point
Luminous Animal
Dec 2012
#18
about 15 my son was having an issue with this. learning nice guys come in last. i was reading a
seabeyond
Dec 2012
#42
Why do you think women have to respond with anger? Simply ignoring works just fine.
Luminous Animal
Dec 2012
#45
I never said I thouught it was only about rape. In fact, it has nothing at all to do with rape...
Luminous Animal
Dec 2012
#38
This story makes no sense. You were flirting with him. He could have easily responded with...
Luminous Animal
Dec 2012
#21
I am not talking about your nod and smile, I am talking about your verbal response...
Luminous Animal
Dec 2012
#36