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[Ms. Toad]

75. If you sincerely don't know,

Google is your friend. Plenty of answers exist without opening a thread here.

This thread, stating that rape fantasies are "an aspect of rape" when is offensive. "Rape" fantasies, which are entirely under the control of the person having fantasies, are not an aspect of rape because rape by definition its very definition is completely devoid of control by the person being raped. Sexual role playing (and fantasies about sexual role playing - including being completely devoid of control) can be an aspect of human sexuality - but it is NOT an aspect of rape.

There is no nonmysogynistic reason to start this particular thread at this particular time, when DU women who have been raped have just been subjected to 2-3 days of PTSD triggers. Many of us were told by our rapists, by our friends and families, by police, by prosecutors, and juries that we really wanted it (or deserved it, or were asking for it). Please delete your OP. It is hurtful to the many women on DU whose PTSD has already been triggered by the rape apologist tone of too much of the discussions about rape during the past few days.