I live in a swing state gone red and have Trumpers in my wife's family. Should I cancel them?

[haele]

101. Do you need to see them, or can you call off sick?

Are they the type that would get in your face about the election, or would they rather sit around talking football, how the cousins are doing in school, and what Aunt Marcy's latest hobby is?
Do you want to go to see mom or dad, or Grammie one last time?
Check out the closest shelter (any type) or charitable event near to the family event and volunteer to bring food or help serve.
Beforehand, you can always make a quick drop in, drop off some rolls or a pie, say hi to who you want to, then go back to your event or plan to do something else nearby - go to a park and take a long, thoughtful walk if you need to. You might find some hidden never-Trumpers in your family might want to leave with you.

But ultimately, if you feel too sick to visit, you're too sick to visit.

Being good to yourself is more important than sucking it up to pretend to be nice to a bunch of gloating bullies who will rub it in your face every time they can.

Haele