I live in a swing state gone red and have Trumpers in my wife's family. Should I cancel them?

[July]

104. When I gave myself permission to NOT do things I didn't really want to do, my life got better.

I learned that rocking the boat once to preserve my values/sanity/dignity/whatever was absolutely worth it. And by “rocking the boat” I mean just doing what I wanted to do, not what someone else wanted me to do — not being rude, just standing my ground.

You DO NOT have to explain yourself if you say you’re not coming. Don’t elaborate or counter their “but why?,” because they will just try to challenge whatever reasons you’ve offered. Just keep saying you can’t, or walk away if they badger you. It works! You don’t owe anyone an explanation. Your health is more important than whatever points someone gives you for showing up.