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In reply to the discussion: Lots of blame for the Mother. Apparently Dad's off the hook , though, [View all]one_voice
(20,043 posts)What proof do you have of this? I've read that he was very upset about the divorce and was generous with alimony over his lawyers advice. How do you know he didn't fight for custody and lost? How do you know he didn't spend time with his children? You don't know--this is a hit and run OP if I've ever seen one.
The only 'blame' I would 'place' on mom is having so many guns in a home where there was an mentally unstable adult. It appears they weren't secured, but as far as I know we don't know that for sure. If they were maybe he overpowered her and some how gained access. But in any case, I don't think it was wise to even have them in the house. Maybe she didn't think/know he was as ill as he was.
It's so easy to point fingers--we want and need someone to blame. I blame the lack of mental health care in the country. The stigma still attached to mental illness. We need to fix the system to care for people who have mental illness and make them throw away people, or hide them.
I will wait until all the details are out before I come to any conclusions--as to the mother, father etc. I've already stated my feelings on the mental health care the country provides