This is my first post & its a doozy

[djean111]

9. Thank you for your openness.

Reminds me of my life, with similar results.
Regarding the nature versus nurture thing - I believe some people feel better if they can pin blame on other people - parents especially. Maybe they are frightened at the thought that bad things can happen, beyond anyone's control, so feel comforted that they can pass judgement - if only she had been a better mother! - and then move on, smugly confident that THEY would never be that inept as a parent. In fact, they just go on to say what wonderful parents they are.

As I get older, the list of things that make me avoid certain people as soul-suckers (cannot come up with a better word, too early!) has blaming parents for all of a person's problems on it, along with generalizing people by age or gender or geographical location and proceeding to act or spew on those generalizations. Those people, for me, are not worth talking with.
Evidently these people do not believe in free will at all. Or the internet. Or fail to notice they are not in lockstep with everyone else their own age or neighborhood or whatever.
Yeah, that's judgmental too - but I judge the person by their ideas and actions, not their age or street address or what their grown children do.
Again, thank you!