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In reply to the discussion: Would you ever forgive anyone that voted for Trump? Under any circumstances? [View all]haele
(15,030 posts)You can - or can't - forgive someone and still love them or choose to associate with them.
There are people I can't forgive, or trust again. I don't give them a benefit of a doubt. I know they don't really care, either -so long as they're comfortable.
But whether or not I choose to associate with them is complex, and if I choose to associate with them, it's on my terms and for my benefit, not theirs.
We are here creatures at heart. Even the selfish jerks among us crave family and community, even if it's just for a feeling of protection and acceptance, or to take advantage of a group in some sort of dominance move.
One can hate and care for someone at the same time, just as one can love and care for someone.
Apathy is the opposite of love, not hate. Im pretty sure I can still care for someone I can't forgive. I've observed that happen to a lot of abused people over the years.