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KentuckyWoman

(7,365 posts) Sun Nov 16, 2025, 01:11 AM Nov 16

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Congratulate me. I got uninvited for Thanksgiving! [View all]

One of the 40yr olds in the extended family decided to call me out in the family group page in Facebook over ACA. I don't usually respond to that crap, but the little pissant got overly personal.... brought my late husband's cancer battle into it. Oh, I said my piece alright. Shoved some links to actual facts under his face and made it clear, believe whatever you want but don't dare tell me what I feel.

Thanksgiving is at the pissant's parent's house. That whole wing of the family pretty much just parrots whatever idiocy they see on Truth Social and OANN, or whatever shithole crap they all read now. His mother called me today and said her 40 yr old kid is a dumbass (agreed) - BUT ...... so now I'm free to do what I really wanted to do anyway.

I live in a senior village that has a "sister site" that supports low income seniors. Most have no family. Plus it's in a low income neighborhood with a lot of singles and single parent households. We invite all kinds, young and old to come join for Thanksgiving. The kids put on the pilgrim pageant. One guy shows up as a turkey and hands out gift bags to the kids. It's really a great party.

I've been told to bring my 5 bean baked beans....

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Congratulate me. I got uninvited for Thanksgiving! [View all] KentuckyWoman Nov 16 OP

Sounds like a pretty good Plan B - enjoy!! hatrack Nov 16 #1

Sounds like a nice party you'll attend. elleng Nov 16 #2

Congratulations! You have endured enough hard knocks in life and deserve to say your piece. John1956PA Nov 16 #3

Odd how some are willing to listen to the conman all day long but close ears to family members lostnfound Nov 16 #4

It's really a shame that anyone in a 'family' has to go through this. Abolishinist Nov 16 #5

Life is short KentuckyWoman Nov 16 #11

Love your post! BobsYourUncle Nov 17 #59

Congratulations! You stood up for yourself, stood up for the right side, and you won't have to spend highplainsdem Nov 16 #6

You had me at "five bean baked beans." NBachers Nov 16 #7

That kid was born doomed KentuckyWoman Nov 16 #36

Sounds like you're ending up back in the briar patch. hay rick Nov 16 #8

That sounds like a great Thanksgiving! C Moon Nov 16 #9

Sounds like your prospects for a nice Thanksgiving have vastly improved! SunSeeker Nov 16 #10

Sounds like your Thanksgiving will be lots of fun and less stressful this year. HeartsCanHope Nov 16 #12

You WIN! BaronChocula Nov 16 #13

Or you can come to our house. tavernier Nov 16 #14

Hey, Kentucky Woman! I just moved to a senior village and yours sounds great. I wish ours supported low income seniors. CTyankee Nov 16 #15

Retired time. KentuckyWoman Nov 16 #17

My community is Masonicare and I alway associated Masons as a semi-religious group. CTyankee Nov 16 #20

Your new plans sound like fun Sanity Claws Nov 16 #16

Sounds like a lot more fun.. mountain grammy Nov 16 #18

at least you'll be able to keep your dinner down! nt Trueblue Texan Nov 16 #19

Far too many families... BH liberal Nov 16 #21

You can't choose your family, but you can choose your friends. Midnight Writer Nov 16 #22

I do believe you will have a much happieer TG at you villiage home. Best to you. riversedge Nov 16 #23

Of all my wife's relations I like myself the best. twodogsbarking Nov 16 #24

Good for you! Have fun and think of all the misery you avoided. 58Sunliner Nov 16 #25

Sounds to me like your Thanksgiving with the seniors will be better anyway! CousinIT Nov 16 #26

Your planned Thanksgiving sounds beautiful. You've been "disinvited" to suffering to be invited to real joy. NNadir Nov 16 #27

I'd say you lucked out! Linda ladeewolf Nov 16 #28

When you are finally free to enjoy your Thanksgiving YOUR way BobsYourUncle Nov 17 #60

Hey KentuckyWoman, So happy for YOU!! I look at this as bluestarone Nov 16 #29

Sincere congrats, KentuckyWoman. Paladin Nov 16 #30

"To argue with a man who has renounced the use and authority of reason Ping Tung Nov 16 #31

5 bean baked beans! That sounds awesome! Clouds Passing Nov 16 #32

Sounds like a great Thanksgiving plan! Ritabert Nov 16 #33

It's not really the food. Turbineguy Nov 16 #34

Congrats! "Pissant". Heh. Sounds like a hopelessly (and willfully ignorant ) lost sect. Evolve Dammit Nov 16 #35

you have reason to give thanks barbtries Nov 16 #37

Good for you Lotusflower70 Nov 16 #38

Congratulations! Sounds like a great way to spend the day. Phoenix61 Nov 16 #39

Congrats Duncanpup Nov 16 #40

Have fun with people who will not be assholes at dinner LetMyPeopleVote Nov 16 #41

You will have the satisfaction of knowing you made a lot of people have a little joy in their lives for a day. appleannie1 Nov 16 #42

Good for you. mgardener Nov 16 #43

First, congratulations on both your principles and the upshot. BobTheSubgenius Nov 16 #44

"" AllaN01Bear Nov 16 #45

Your senior village party sounds more like family anyway.... KY_EnviroGuy Nov 16 #46

Life is too short to deal with tall, featherless, birdbrained humoid turkeys Attilatheblond Nov 16 #47

Now we must have your recipe. NameAlreadyTaken Nov 16 #48

Its easy KentuckyWoman Nov 17 #62

OK thank you. NameAlreadyTaken Nov 17 #63

If I were in your shoes I'd be VERY thankful Blue Owl Nov 16 #49

When it comes to relationships, I can count mine with the fingers of one hand, with one finger left over Xipe Totec Nov 16 #50

Insurance enid602 Nov 16 #51

I remember reading of a guy who only see relative at TG, show up, eat, and leave. Not talk to anyone. twodogsbarking Nov 16 #52

Be thankful you don't have to have turkey everyday BattleRow Nov 16 #53

Congratulations! You Will Now Spend Thanksgiving With Deserving People.... ColoringFool Nov 16 #54

Sounds like you've connected with the right group for Thanksgiving. WestMichRad Nov 16 #55

There are 2 of those in my extended family, cousins I haven't seen in decades Warpy Nov 16 #56

The rubber stamp KentuckyWoman Nov 17 #61

Llts of outfits are doing custom stamps in the $30-$35 range Warpy Nov 17 #64

Excellent outcome! And sounds like a lot of fun Joinfortmill Nov 16 #57

Good for you! Sounds like you'll be at a much more enjoyable party. electric_blue68 Nov 16 #58