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popsdenver

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28. I spent some time working
Wed Jan 21, 2026, 05:12 PM
Wednesday

at a battered women shelter, and the battered women would all quote their husbands/boyfriends as saying:

If you don't say this or that, I won't have to beat you......it's all YOUR fault I do it...........

One of the counselors told me that most of the work is directed at the woman, who think they deserve it, just like their mothers who were also abused......She said if they can't get through the message that it is NOT them, but him, they will go right back into that relationship, or one similar, because that is what they have been conditioned to thinking/believing all their lives....

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mainstream press continues to white wash it all. mucifer Wednesday #1
And (most of) Congress is ignoring it. nilram Wednesday #22
This message was self-deleted by its author DUMember24 Wednesday #2
The ignorance, the lies and the gaslighting. littlemissmartypants Wednesday #3
Another alternative response to gaslighting! Ray Bruns Wednesday #5
Thanks Ray. I'll consider it when I get time. 🤓😉 littlemissmartypants Wednesday #7
I want to make sure I wasn't telling you personally to fuck off. Ray Bruns Wednesday #8
Damn. Now I'm disappointed. Unfortunately, F off doesn't meet the assertive requirement. littlemissmartypants Wednesday #9
What is the... druidity33 18 hrs ago #40
On the recommendations of the counseling center responsible for creating the graphic. littlemissmartypants 18 hrs ago #41
I still don't understand... druidity33 18 hrs ago #42
Or shot. littlemissmartypants 18 hrs ago #43
Thanks for the excellent graphic, pants. yellow dahlia Wednesday #24
My pleasure, yd. Thank you. ❤️ littlemissmartypants 22 hrs ago #33
I spent some time working popsdenver Wednesday #28
In my instance... littlemissmartypants 22 hrs ago #34
Thanks for sharing lmsp popsdenver 14 hrs ago #45
Thank you, popsdenver. ❤️ littlemissmartypants 14 hrs ago #46
This deserves its own post, lmsp! Clear and concise. Bookmarked. Clouds Passing 16 hrs ago #44
❤️ littlemissmartypants 14 hrs ago #47
Trump's lips were moving so you know it's a lie. Ray Bruns Wednesday #4
As if Farmer-Rick Wednesday #6
An ignorant idiot who thinks he's a genius. surfered Wednesday #10
The worst part for me was he did not drop dead in the middle... Moostache Wednesday #11
Save a seat for me. calimary Wednesday #12
"I want to watch him die in a public collapse." 3catwoman3 Wednesday #18
Yes, may he die instantly. Wednesdays Wednesday #19
Speaking of "standing back and doing nothing...." AZ8theist Wednesday #29
I've never wanted to see anyone die. It's horrible. But... AllyCat Wednesday #31
It was an insult to all the countries that showed up for US and lost citizens in Afghanistan Bev54 Wednesday #13
Thank you BeyondGeography Wednesday #14
Widows and their kids. Justice matters. Wednesday #20
It is a shameful lie. Martin68 Wednesday #15
He is an evil demonic malignancy on the world, goddamnit! LymphocyteLover Wednesday #16
Another disturbing attribute of life in the Trump era PJMcK Wednesday #17
Proving once again what a fucking idiot he is Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin Wednesday #21
Agreed. Such an ignorant, self-serving a-hole. Evolve Dammit Wednesday #23
Agree 100% The Revolution Wednesday #25
He's a psychopath. I'm unequivocal in that conclusion and he is in his exhibition of the support of my stance. littlemissmartypants 21 hrs ago #35
He is wrong, of course. The ONLY time NATO invoked Article 5 was immediately following 911. SheltieLover Wednesday #26
Disgust Marvin Jones Wednesday #27
He's not alone and that is a big part of our problem. littlemissmartypants 21 hrs ago #36
I will never get over the horror of all this. viva la Wednesday #30
Canada was 3rd in casualties behind the UK and he's going after Canada Jarqui Wednesday #32
As a psychopath, his behavior is typical and predictable. littlemissmartypants 21 hrs ago #37
This message was self-deleted by its author Yo_Mama_Been_Loggin 19 hrs ago #38
For me, it's the ignorance Betty Boom 19 hrs ago #39
The real question is why? peggysue2 14 hrs ago #48
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